Why do we need things really

[ali rasheed]

As i develop myself , i stumbled upon a problem ..

I discovered that my whole relationship was just a way to fulfil my needs , to be loved ..

So the whole love was a lie , i didnt really love that person ,

After i became aware of this i thought i would finally breakfree from these needs , but then i realized that my body keeps craving for it under the surface , by doing activities that are less obvious , its amazing how our minds are hard wired to get those major needs like love and socializing ,

Then i asked myself , why do we need things , why cant i live without fulfilling them , how can i break free from this , why do we even need love ?

If someone can relate to this topic i will be glad to hear them .

[ali rasheed]

@Mighty Mouse didnt understand you

[DoubleYou]

Yup, that's not love. That's fear, disguised as love.

It's good that you recognise this. It's one of the many tricks of the ego. And our whole society is built on it.
Now see if you can love without needing any love in return. That's actual love. And see if there's things you love doing without needing something back from the activity. Get in touch with your authenticity. That's how you can break free from it. But becoming aware is always the first step. So this is good.

[ali rasheed]

@Mighty Mouse lol i meant some answers but it seems my language failed me ,

Anyway , thats right its hell of an insight but im still looking for the answer ,

And thank you .

[ali rasheed]

@DoubleYou aha i think the word fear will fit the puzzle , deep fear ,

Thank you so much .

[Faceless]

We project an image of the “me and that thing” and in that image there is pleasure. Not really the thing but the me in search for pleasure. Images are formed by motives of pleasure. 

[star ark]

I can relate but I suspect you are thinking about the feeling after the fact. If you were in the now but surrounded by loved ones and impressive artworks, musical instruments, delicious healthy foods and drinks you would realize those things are amazing. You don't need to keep living, I'll still be here if you end it, but why not have things and enjoy them? If you could be in the now with  your family and friends celebrating with food and song and art and gift giving you would feel indescribable joy. In the now you would love it if it truly is good, it would require no thinking.