How to tell gf that travel plans got cancelled?

[adaptableman]

Me and my girlfriend have been planning to meet each other for the first time for a few months now. We met online through LoveMe, and we’ve been going strong. The plan was that I would get to visit her in Russia for our anniversary. I’ve already booked tickets and made an itinerary for my week-long trip in her hometown. Just when everything seemed ready to go, some sort of problem happened and my trip got cancelled at the last minute.

 

I was offered another flight but it will be after the date of our anniversary. I’m in a tough situation right now and I still haven’t told my girlfriend about what happened. She’ll be really disappointed and what’s worse, she cleared up her schedules just for me.

 

When she will know about the change in plans, she has to reorganize her schedules all over again and our tour around the country will now become a mess. Everything’s completely jumbled and I feel awfully guilty to put my girlfriend through this.

 

She was really looking forward to celebrating together and I honestly don’t know how to bring this up with her. How should I start the conversation and what should I do with my current schedule? Are there other ways where I can manage to stick to my original plan? I seriously need some help guys. The designated date is fast approaching and I’m at tight squeeze here! HELP!

[JohnLeyo]

So you deliver your news with honesty and as much kindness as you can, and remain optimistic.... and try to cover it with another good news... i think this can help a lot.

[Spiral]

Can she visit you instead?

[Omni]

If it was out of your control; then there's not much you can do but accept the situation as it is and work around it.

If you need to reschedule and she needs to revise all her plans, then let her know sooner rather than later so she can start planning - granted you also can't predict the way she will take it, though chances are you are simply overthinking the situation.

 

[Joseph Maynor]

Just be straight up with her and tell her asap.  Don't delay telling her.  And make sure you talk to her as much as she needs to talk to you.  She will be disappointed, but that's to be expected.

Edited April 7, 2019 by Joseph Maynor