My crush thinks I'm wierd because I'm authentic?

[BobbyLowell]

My crush thinks my reactions are really wierd and that I'm creepy because I'm authentic. So any advice? My feelings are strong now.

[YaNanNallari]

Then your crush does think that. Being weird is totally fine, just own it. Of course the idea isn't to be weird in any special way, it's just about letting yourself be yourself and authentic freely.

If you feel like you can talk about it confidently, you can discuss this with your crush in a relaxed way, but it should be something that comes up more naturally than a forced serious conversation.

[Spiral]

What did you do/say?

[BobbyLowell]

@Spiral nah just general avoidant behavior/wierd body language???

-i have a limiting belief that i have some kind of shell-that others see my differently, as more cold than i am, wierd body language

[Epiphany_Inspired]

I think balance is the key...for me: some nice eye gazing is sooooo lovely, but if it turns into staring = creepy....some genuine complements can be super sweet, but if it goes over the top, or is just about boobs or something = creepy....

What are your best authentic qualities? Great, now beam those out to your crush like the sun is inside you...and if they are still creeped out, there are 7 BILLION other people on this planet, and a good fraction may be crush worthy!

[BobbyLowell]

@Epiphany_Inspired okay i understand. i think mine isnt related to him, but my body language in general. like i would be looking everywhere in the room if im just standing in one place, sometimes i will look down a lot and think when we are both running, i seem kind of sketchy tbh. i personally dont really like my body language either, but like should i change it?? would that be sacrificing authenticity?

[Shin]

59 minutes ago, BobbyLowell said:

@Epiphany_Inspired okay i understand. i think mine isnt related to him, but my body language in general. like i would be looking everywhere in the room if im just standing in one place, sometimes i will look down a lot and think when we are both running, i seem kind of sketchy tbh. i personally dont really like my body language either, but like should i change it?? would that be sacrificing authenticity?

No just be aware of it during the moment.

If it's authentic no problem, if it's a psychological issue, it will sort it out itself if enough attention is brought to it.

Some people hate some part of themselves, but it doesn't mean it' not authentic behavior.

There is gay people who refuse to have sex with man because «it's not who they are supposed to be».

Edited January 6, 2018 by Shin

[BobbyLowell]

@Shin it might be psychological. Can you explain why and how you think so?

[Shin]

10 hours ago, BobbyLowell said:

@Shin it might be psychological. Can you explain why and how you think so?

Leo explains it way better than I can : 

 

[Ruby White]

On 12/27/2017 at 10:22 AM, YaNanNallari said:

Then your crush does think that. Being weird is totally fine, just own it. Of course the idea isn't to be weird in any special way, it's just about letting yourself be yourself and authentic freely.

If you feel like you can talk about it confidently, you can discuss this with your crush in a relaxed way, but it should be something that comes up more naturally than a forced serious conversation.

If you can't be yourself now, you won't be able to be yourself later