NoFap - Why you should quit porn & masturbation !

[Shin]

29 minutes ago, LiakosN said:

20 months without porn, 3 days without orgasm, 30 minutes without fap, 1 month wihtout sex .. Lawl.

Those are good numbers though.

You will quit MO soon enough no worry.

[Hello from Russia]

17 minutes ago, Shin said:

Those are good numbers though.

You will quit MO soon enough no worry.

What is MO?

[Shin]

2 minutes ago, Hello from Russia said:

What is MO?

Masturbation/orgasm

[Sahil Pandit]

 

[XYZ]

Haven't been counting the days, but by now it has been at least 50, including my first ever 'no-fap September.' Went most of august without fapping too, but relapsed some time over 50 days ago when I found some forgotten porn on a data backup stick I forgot to delete. This is also the longest I've gone without ejaculation in the past 10 years actually. The 3 key factors which led to success this time around were

• I began by journaling almost every day to recall all of my past experiences with masturbation addiction, and desire for cutting out that habit completely.
• I fully internalized that ejaculation is not something I want to do, never in my best interest, always detrimental. In my posts I often reference how I learned to avoid alcohol since I feel like shit an hour after just one drink. It was so much harder to quit fapping since the detriments were far more subtle, but I learned to associate the feeling of living an overall shitty life as a regular wanker with the act of jerking it at all, even edging, and no it's something I avoid like liquor.
• I stopped fantasizing about sex altogether. This is the biggest difference and I believe it's why it's felt so effortless this time. Even when I was previously successful at going 10-40 days without jacking, I still ended up daydreaming about having sex, distracting myself with fantasies of making love with women, even sometimes shedding my anti-natalism and wanting nothing more than to fearlessly inseminate a fertile minx. It seems like this time I don't forget how psycho-spiritually draining to feels for me to cum, and also how addictive it is, and I don't take for granted that this activity which used to consume my life has been stamped out in a way that feels so effortless at the moment.

I just seem to have completely lost interest in sexual activity, and in this respect, life has never been better, I have never been happier. Keep in mind though, not long after I started wanking at age 14 I was addicted to it going 3-7 times a day often times, could never moderate, only abstain some times. I also do kriya yogas, breathwork and mantra meditation somewhat regularly, alone and with a community, so this helps both with letting me experience my own energy, noticing & appreciating the transformations which occur as my body keeps recovering from years of over-stimulation, and also with circulating the sexual energy around the body so that it doesn't stagnate and fester, i.e. turning into a ferociously horny animal preoccupied with lust. 

Where do I go from here, to great heights presently unbeknownst to me. To quit fapping is just the necessary first steep to deep transformation of my entire life, since doing that constantly dampens my experience of life, and the brain fog keeps dissipating, showing me all of my gifts and flaws, strengths and weaknesses, self-deceptions and things avoided, or repressed. It brings everything to the surface, forcing me to deal with it, but along with this a new type of energy and optimism to work through any issue, no matter how fucked up it seems at first.

[Strikr]

On 02/10/2018 at 0:48 AM, brugluiz said:

Started a NoFap challenge 10 days ago and I'm feeling myself more energized. I feel more positive and I have done many activities during my whole day. The benefits are still light, but I'm very positive they'll increase. I'll just check this topic more often (many important materials here).

10 days for me aswell, no craving, would sell my body for a big joint though ( 3 days out of weed/nicotine tabacco filler)  and having a decent night sleep would be fair. it's 8 AM for me I m still not sleepy

and

25 years without fucking !

 all bow on me please, my power is strong, I never masturbate a lot neither, more bio need and all the porn pic around the internet. when mind recognize shapes. 

All my problem is curiosity

Edited October 3, 2018 by Strikr

[Shin]

@Strikr

Ahah get a girlfriend though, I think there is almost no one that can transcend relationship and sex without some success (and failure) at it first.

And you can have a gf, and please her without ejaculating, it's just different in the beginning the time you learn to fully control yourself.

So that's not a proper excuse ?

@XYZ

Nice !

Feelsgood not to be a slave to your primal instinct anymore, isn't it ? ?

Edited October 3, 2018 by Shin

[Strikr]

12 minutes ago, Shin said:

@Strikr

Ahah get a girlfriend though, I think there is almost no one that can transcend relationship and sex without some success (and failure) at it first.

And you can have a gf, and please her without ejaculating, it's just different in the beginning the time you learn to fully control yourself.

So that's not a proper excuse ?

@XYZ

Nice !

Feelsgood not to be a slave to your primal instinct anymore, isn't it ? ?

I was about to makes a topic until I reflect it's non sense to ask for real help outside my self, it's my meta work

but 6 girls kissed me, I just have no social life situation and I live like a pure autist lonely wolf, I can't see people more than once in a week, and I didn't feel "love" for a girl since 4 years, or "attraction", lot of girl love me, but I feel no attraction for them at all sadly for myself. I m very difficult, and told people that I look for a reflection of my self ( since LSD I realize ) it's not that I m egoic on girl, it's just that nature make us attract our on part. Wanting true love was a misstake, it took me 23 years to get it, already too late in a sense

thanks god I m not ugly I m just insane :')

pray for me, this is exactly what I reflected today..

Edited October 3, 2018 by Strikr

[Shin]

13 minutes ago, Strikr said:

I was about to makes a topic until I reflect it's non sense to ask for real help outside my self, it's my meta work

but 6 girls kissed me, I just have no social life situation and I live like a pure autist lonely wolf, I can't see people more than once in a week, and I didn't feel "love" for a girl since 4 years, or "attraction", lot of girl love me, but I feel no attraction for them at all sadly for myself. I m very difficult, and told people that I look for a reflection of my self ( since LSD I realize ) it's not that I m egoic on girl, it's just that nature make us attract our on part. Wanting true love was a misstake, it took me 23 years to get it, already too late in a sense

thanks god I m not ugly I m just insane :')

pray for me, this is exactly what I reflected today..

Don't seek true love, go for the girls you like to spend time with.

If love is supposed to happen it will happen.

[8Ball]

Tomorrow I'm two weeks in. Felt an unusual good feeling today. Normally quite tired in the morning but earlier today I felt quite good. I'm talking to a girl, someone I met through a female friend of mine. I kinda like her but pmo has totally screwed me up giving me PIED. Hopefully my cock will work properly in a few months.

Edited October 3, 2018 by 8Ball

[bejapuskas]

@8Ball Thats the reason why I think it should be exterminated from your schedule  If you develop higher consiousness, you cant even fap without pain.

[8Ball]

On 10/4/2018 at 6:16 AM, bejapuskas said:

@8Ball Thats the reason why I think it should be exterminated from your schedule  If you develop higher consiousness, you cant even fap without pain.

True that. Been in bed with a woman only two times. Couldn't get it up the first time, the second time I couldn't ejaculate. Had a few more opportunities with getting im bed with women but couldn't follow through because I know how it would end up.

So I'm doing this to become more disciplined and to get my sex drive back with real women. Even though I'm close to 16 days of PMOing I'm far away from rewiring my brain. Think about it. My brain has been used to PMO for 13 years. Long enough to fuck with anybody's cock and sex drive.

[Shin]

Oh I can tell you, you won't last for long if you fuck a women while being on Nofap 

I lasted like 20 seconds in there, had to pull it off for like 3 minutes to get 20 more seconds in it, hopefully I have some mad skill with my fingers otherwise she would never called again I can tell you 

I think training will be hardcore and necessary at this point to last a decent time without ejaculating (I like refuse to do that now), Kegel exercie yes, breathing exercices yes, but what else ?

[bejapuskas]

@8Ball Took me dozens of those no fap periods to get used to it. I did fapped like every 5 days, while increasing my consciousness through certan practises and perspectives and then the feel of it started becoming worse and worse. I even gave it up after 30 days, was very guilty. But no worries, if you arent conscious enough, its just suffering to hold yourself back I think.

[Strikr]

I m inquiry, should I keep on no fap ? or become a "psycho sexual magnet" ? ( I ve never been addicted, weed helped with giving me envy to fap, I didn't really fap the year before weed ) I did a bit more before hitting my 20. ( and started weed at 21 ) 

there is a girl who send me sign, but I didn't respond. I m still in a position of no monney, no job and in recovery

Maybe my sexuality is fucked up because of all those gaming, internet addiction that I did from age 6 to age 21 ( then 4 years of weed abuse when games was not a thing anymore )

or INTP and adhd is a real thing "real" even if I don't want to believe in it.

I m on days 15, and have no craving at all. But I'll not lie, fapping without weed is like ultra lame anyway.

 

Edited October 6, 2018 by Strikr

[Shin]

Get on day 15 several time and consciously unload yourself.

You can't not see the difference in energy and won't want ro do it anymore, not even with girls ?

[Strikr]

32 minutes ago, Shin said:

Get on day 15 several time and consciously unload yourself.

You can't not see the difference in energy and won't want ro do it anymore, not even with girls ?

? maybe, but I can't see a big difference until now ( probably because quitting smoking have more side effects on mood/energy ) but I notice that I feel kind of "high on psychedelic" in the back of my mind, that's strange. ( probably meditation, binaural + asmr ) 

I only did psychedelic 2 month ago for inquiry + art ( and don't want to do it more, I had a very harsh month of realisation after )  ( 3 trip and 10 days on microdose ) ( mushroom and lsd ) I wanted "to cure fast" at this time.

aren't human body made for fuck all days though ? what's difference between us and monkey really beside an idea of being different ?

are monkeys sex addict always in relapse ?

 

 

Edited October 6, 2018 by Strikr
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[8Ball]

Alright so day 16 today, going out with a female friend tonight along with a woman I'm sort of dating. 16 days ain't enough for rewiring my brain because it's been like 13 years of PMOing and I've only had sex once, with a prostitute lol, and I couldn't finish with her even though she was gorgeous and was really in to it, doing all kinds of sexy things. I took viagra to avoid ED, but as soon as it was time for penetration my cock slacked. But when she sucked and jerked me off it worked. That says a lot about how sever my addiction is. Because I've been jerking off half my life, the only thing that can get me hard is being jerked off. And because of using the "death grip" on my cock for 13 years I've lost pretty much all sensitivity. I've been in bed with women before and couldn't get it up. But my encounter with the prostitute really gave me the motivation to avoid PMO for the rest of my life. If someone as gorgeous as her couldn't get me to finish I realized I have to do something about it NOW.

I did NoFap for 75 days last year before relapsing so I know I have the strength to do this. Especially now when I'm 25 years old and have started dating a girl I like. So enough of PMO and instead enjoying having real sex with someone I like. But 16 days ain't enough to rewire my brain so I can get hard and ejaculate with a real woman. I'm thinking at least a couple of months before I can get aroused by a real woman and get hard down there.

Does anybody know if there are some things I can do to redirect my sexual energy which is building up in my body, and redirect it towards getting aroused by real women? You know, just to speed up the process a little. Napoleon Hill talks in his book Think And Grow Rich that you can transmute sexual energy to redirect the energy towards something productive. I'm thinking it might work to redirect the energy towards becoming aroused my women, like why not? But how, is my question.

Last night I put on some "root chakra meditation music" and closed my eyes and tried to calm my mind. The root chakra is where the sexual energy is supposedly located. Now, whether chakras are real or not I do not know, and all this sounds extremely new-agey I now, but I'm open to all ideas. If you can think of something please share it with me.

The answer sounds obvious though. Stop thinking and worrying and focus instead on your conciousness work and let the days go by and eventually I'll be rewired. But it's hard having to wait several months when I'm seeing a girl I'm interested in and when our culture says that she expects sex on the third date at latest.

[Shin]

2 hours ago, Strikr said:

? maybe, but I can't see a big difference until now ( probably because quitting smoking have more side effects on mood/energy ) but I notice that I feel kind of "high on psychedelic" in the back of my mind, that's strange. ( probably meditation, binaural + asmr ) 

I only did psychedelic 2 month ago for inquiry + art ( and don't want to do it more, I had a very harsh month of realisation after )  ( 3 trip and 10 days on microdose ) ( mushroom and lsd ) I wanted "to cure fast" at this time.

aren't human body made for fuck all days though ? what's difference between us and monkey really beside an idea of being different ?

are monkeys sex addict always in relapse ?

 

 

 

Do all races of monkeys fuck all the time ? Or a minority ?

Even then, you can still channel that sexual energy, and ejaculation through the spine is still supposed to feel way better than an regular one so ... ?

[bejapuskas]

@Strikr  Maybe you need to get rid of all the other addictions as well, such as complaining, procrastination, whining, overthinking, gossiping, social media, video games... The big picture understanding of this is important, in order to self-actualize, you need to first get rid of the shitty stuff, same with food you know... Your body burns energy to do these things, that couldve been spent on something meaningful to you instead...