NoFap - Why you should quit porn & masturbation !

[Ether]

1 minute ago, Psyche_92 said:

My self-development is much more important to me. 

exactly vrother

[Shin]

1 hour ago, Psyche_92 said:

I've had 2. Meh, don't see why i need one xD. My self-development is much more important to me. 

Be careful on this, sometimes it's just old good spiritual bypassing.

[Psyche_92]

14 minutes ago, Shin said:

Be careful on this, sometimes it's just old good spiritual bypassing.

What do you mean?

[Shin]

1 minute ago, Psyche_92 said:

What do you mean?

I mean that you could be lying to yourself about that, using self developement as an excuse to cast out the fact that really want a relationship.

I'm just saying, I don't know you, but it was a huge trap for me.

[ADD]

I think it's healthy if he doesn't NEED one. He didn't say he doesn't want one.

[Psyche_92]

8 minutes ago, ADD said:

I think it's healthy if he doesn't NEED one. He didn't say he doesn't want one.

Yea this.

[Shin]

1 hour ago, Psyche_92 said:

Yea this.

Ok then.

I wanted to be sure.

Because you know, I want you to be happy.

Because you know, I love you 

[Ether]

@Shin homo or no?

[Psyche_92]

17 minutes ago, Shin said:

Ok then.

I wanted to be sure.

Because you know, I want you to be happy.

Because you know, I love you 

Ok man, but i still prefer vaginas sorry.

[Shroomdoctor]

@Psyche_92 @Shin I think we have all established we like pussy. I think we have also established that we are all one big bromance. 

[Sri Ramana Maharshi]

On 2/4/2018 at 6:28 PM, Shin said:

Of course it's an addiction.

The worst kind of addiction, because almost every male is doing it, and I noticed than even some women finds it's natural and that NoFap is weird ...

I have seen that when you are caring for an elderly person 24 hours a day, busy meeting with health care workers 24/7 and exposed to a dying person, it can be quite irrelevant if a thought about beating-off/sex even occurs. Of course sexuality to me means all the usual feelings plus the added amazing closeness I feel with my wife of 20 years.  I'm in my 40's and my sex drive is as strong as ever, and my wife and I masturbate some, and tell each other about it. or not. It just isn't a big deal and there is no shame or paranoia. You know:  L I B E R A T E D.

Hell, I forgot to fap for 3 weeks and didn't notice. Try attaining the 4th Jhana really hard, coming back to post meditation, and then dropping into Equanimity at the senses right at the point of orgasm. Do this after a several week no fap. Now you are doing spiritual work (highest yoga tantra using imaginary Consort). I did this about a year ago (first time through DIssolution) and the state that resulted dropped me into a Formless Realm Samadhi in seconds, fully disgoined from the body as an anicca wave passed over awareness. Big big Jhana and possibly the mind crossed Udayabaya Nyana (again) in those few seconds - minute. At first it was pretty terrifying, and a vedana will arise that says you are about to feel Infinite/limitless pain in your prostate/urethra area, but you don't get chopped in half, you go to ultimate bliss, and you may see the 5 aggrigates flash and the body go all the way numb as in sleep paralysis experiences/hypnogogic. In these situations very little liquid actually comes out to none at all. Unless the balance isn't there. 

I don't use this as a practice, it was just something I stumbled upon the first time through Udayabaya Nyana and it started being "available" or my mind made the idea in Dissolution. I think That nyana actually opened some swiss cheese holes that allowed me to see that Shinzen Young's video on this same phenomenon was available to this practice and 4 or 5 times it has happened, leaving some micro pops of ultimate insight in its wake. It's a scary technique at first -- But the fear of overwealm is a bluff of the body, just as the fear of letting go into Jhanic Absorption or VOID itself. I do not think this would have been likely for my body had I not at least had a mastery of the 4 Rupa Jhanas at a non-absorbed to occationally popping into "gone".

Metta.

PS: I'm 44 and have dated many women growing up and have had lots of relationships and casual sex along the way. Even tried to try guys but didn't really ever get that far. Never found a guy I liked I guess. In any case, every women I have ever met masterbated, and the only ones who did not had severe repression/martyr/victim complexes. I have had those in my past, and they affected me sexually as well. There were times when I would gladly go down on a girl and perform oral sex, yet I was insecure about getting a blowjob. That's bad neurosis. Masterbation can actually increase sexual performance by facilitating one to become more sensitive to one's own needs with regard to the body and the mind/emotions which arise in dependance. What important, I humbly think, is that one is always honest about purpose in the present, as some smart guy up there said.

If it's unconscious distraction, it's time wasting. Unless you decided that it would be a worthy purpose and there was no regret/shame upon completion.  But then it would not be an unconsciousness since you would have noted "voilition" at the fore.

When I was younger and the internet was nonexistant, nude pics and video were hard to get. They were real easter eggs. You had to search BBS's and really wait 1 hour to download some Samantha Fox picture if you were underage. It was a coming of age to discover all those things, but this supersonic binary age tends to rush and cheapen, so now even human communication has become tacky and totally contrived, like our cartoon political leaders.

Take 5 --- Fap 'em if ya got em. (but by all means if you have seen some Truth that says for you "No Fap" == Nibbana/Or whatever you are after...then please PM me.

May you all have at least the super-subtle post orgasm Equanimity and hopefully much much much more. 

In refuge to the Triple Gem.

Edited March 6, 2018 by Sri Ramana Maharshi
spelling/etc.

[Sri Ramana Maharshi]

Uh, all human beings are pansexual. There will be contrary opinions, but I doubt there will be many from those who have attained Bodhi/RIght Gnosis/Self.

Edited March 6, 2018 by Sri Ramana Maharshi

[Shin]

14 minutes ago, Shroomdoctor said:

@Psyche_92 @Shin I think we have all established we like pussy. I think we have also established that we are all one big bromance. 

At least one person that didn't go mad at me today 

Notifications doesn't work anymore you have to quote buddy.

9 minutes ago, Sri Ramana Maharshi said:

I have seen that when you are caring for an elderly person 24 hours a day, busy meeting with health care workers 24/7 and exposed to a dying person, it can be quite irrelevant if a thought about beating-off/sex even occurs. Of course sexuality to me means all the usual feelings plus the added amazing closeness I feel with my wife of 20 years.  I'm in my 40's and my sex drive is as strong as ever, and my wife and I masturbate some, and tell each other about it. or not. It just isn't a big deal and there is no shame or paranoia. You know:  L I B E R A T E D.

Hell, I forgot to fap for 3 weeks and didn't notice. Try attaining the 4th Jhana really hard, coming back to post meditation, and then dropping into Equanimity at the senses right at the point of orgasm. Do this after a several week no fap. Now you are doing spiritual work (highest yoga tantra using imaginary Consort). I did this about a year ago (first time through DIssolution) and the state that resulted dropped me into a Formless Realm Samadhi in seconds, fully disgoined from the body as an anicca wave passed over awareness. Big big Jhana and possibly the mind crossed Udayabaya Nyana (again) in those few seconds - minute. At first it was pretty terrifying, and a vedana will arise that says you are about to feel Infinite/limitless pain in your prostate/urethra area, but you don't get chopped in half, you go to ultimate bliss, and you may see the 5 aggrigates flash and the body go all the way numb as in sleep paralysis experiences/hypnogogic. In these situations very little liquid actually comes out to none at all. Unless the balance isn't there. 

I don't use this as a practice, it was just something I stumbled upon the first time through Udayabaya Nyana and it started being "available" or my mind made the idea in Dissolution. I think That nyana actually opened some swiss cheese holes that allowed me to see that Shinzen Young's video on this same phenomenon was available to this practice and 4 or 5 times it has happened, leaving some micro pops of ultimate insight in its wake. It's a scary technique at first -- But the fear of overwealm is a bluff of the body, just as the fear of letting go into Jhanic Absorption or VOID itself. I do not think this would have been likely for my body had I not at least had a mastery of the 4 Rupa Jhanas at a non-absorbed to occationally popping into "gone".

Metta.

PS: I'm 44 and have dated many women growing up and have had lots of relationships and casual sex along the way. Even tried to try guys but didn't really ever get that far. Never found a guy I liked I guess. In any case, every women I have ever met masterbated, and the only ones who did not had severe repression/martyr/victim complexes. I have had those in my past, and they affected me sexually as well. There were times when I would gladly go down on a girl and perform oral sex, yet I was insecure about getting a blowjob. That's bad neurosis. Masterbation can actually increase sexual performance by facilitating one to become more sensitive to one's own needs with regard to the body and the mind/emotions which arise in dependance. What important, I humbly think, is that one is always honest about purpose in the present, as , it's time wasting. Unless you decided that it would be a worthy purpose and there was no regret/shame upon completion.  But then it would not be an unconsciousness since you would have noted "voilition" at the fore.

When I was younger and the 

Too many technical terms buddy

[Sri Ramana Maharshi]

Nobody was mad brother! Here I am looking outside at a resplindant beautiful day, death in the next room, life in this one. It's all good.

[sarapr]

@Shin I have this feeling that I made you feel bad some how and if I have just wanted to tell you, you don't have to feel bad 

[Psyche_92]

3 minutes ago, sarapr said:

@Shin I have this feeling that I made you feel bad some how and if I have just wanted to tell you, you don't have to feel bad 

 

[Shin]

1 hour ago, sarapr said:

@Shin I have this feeling that I made you feel bad some how and if I have just wanted to tell you, you don't have to feel bad 

I'm sorry to offended you too, that wasn't what I was trying to do ?

 

Btw guys, I'm starting to have tits.

Is that how it feels to have a male body ?

10/10 would fuck myself 

Edited March 7, 2018 by Shin

[Shin]

11 minutes ago, Outer said:

@Shin  Time to put on some jogging shoes, Shin

I didn't understand.

[Shroomdoctor]

@Outer I think he means muscle, not fat.
@Shin I think he understood fat, not muscle!

[Psyche_92]

When you get random boners.