How do I get over the fear that I am unlovable?

[Nahm]

@Faceless seems self evident to me❤️?

[Faceless]

Just now, Nahm said:

@Faceless seems self evident to me❤️?

??

[RichardY]

@BobbyLowell Couldn't resist.

"The Boys from Brazil" 1978

Dr. Josef Mengele: You are a clever boy. Are you not? You do not well at school, but it's because you are too clever. Too busy, thinking your own thoughts. But you are much smarter than your teachers, hah?

Bobby Wheelock: My teachers are nowhere.

Dr. Josef Mengele: You are going to be the world's greatest photographer, are you not? Have you ever felt superior to those around you? Like a prince among peasants?

Bobby Wheelock: I feel different from everyone sometimes.

Dr. Josef Mengele: You are infinite different. Infinite superior. You are born of the noblest blood in the world.

[BobbyLowell]

@RichardY I don't understand 

[RichardY]

@BobbyLowell Yeah don't worry about it, just bullshitting, the name Bobby makes me think of the movie. The Boys from Brazil. 

Dr. Josef Mengele: You are born of the noblest blood in the world. You have it within you to fulfill ambitions one thousand times greater than those at which you presently dream, and you shall fulfill them, Bobby. You shall. You are the living duplicate of the greatest man in history.

[raising his hand in a heil motion]

Dr. Josef Mengele: Adolf Hitler.

Bobby Wheelock: Oh man, you're weird.

[BobbyLowell]

@RichardY LOL OKK

[Joseph Maynor]

If you believe you are, then you are.  If you believe you’re not, then you’re not.

So, strategically, how do we get you to detach from the belief that you are unlovable and to cling to the belief that you are?

Also, you’re as lovable as you believe you are.  Don’t look to external reality to weigh in on this issue.  If you turn this into an inner-game issue, nothing external can affect how lovable you feel you are.  

Edited December 24, 2017 by Joseph Maynor

[sarapr]

On 12/24/2017 at 0:01 AM, Leo Gura said:

I would suggest that you don't actually love yourself. So here's the solition:

1) Do self-esteem exercises (Nathaniel Branden)

2) Practice more self-love through visualizations, affirmations, etc.

How to do proper affirmations?

One thing at a time or multiple affirmations together?

[BobbyLowell]

@Joseph Maynor I like that. Ok.

[BobbyLowell]

@sarapr I don't think there is a rule. I think the most helps

[sgn]

@BobbyLowell Yeah why not?  You feel undeserving of love?

Edited December 26, 2017 by sgn

[jse]

On 12/23/2017 at 1:05 AM, BobbyLowell said:

How do I get over the fear that I am unlovable?

Take a stray dog home.  Today.
 

[BobbyLowell]

@sgn underconfident. Like i was always like kind of ignored in school