Relationships And Self-inquiry

[Sri McDonald Trump Maharaj]

Relationships has a tendency to change or fall apart completly on this path so I was just wondering how your relationships has changed since you started to practise self-inquiry.

 

Personally this "me" has gotten very detatched from "others" and it's getting even more deeper. It's so hard to sweep stuff under the rug and if you to you will become conscious of it almost directly. I have gotten more sensitive to other peoples feeling and a sense of sadness for the world sometimes arises. But I actually feel that me relationships are at least getting more honest. It becomes harder and harder to tolerate chimp stuff, bulshit and ideolgical concepts.

[TomKay]

I can only fully agree with what @Pinocchio has written. You @Sri McDonald Trump Maharaj have mentioned detachment. The truth is there really is no detachment at all. We are all one, we are all connected. The thing is people are in different phases in their lives and so you may experience lack of "connection", but as @Pinocchio said, that's all mind games.

Practise more self-love in its very essence and you will see that "others" are just reflections of your own self. After all, you make your own reality so ultimatelly there is nothing like "others". It's just you in different phases. Be very mindful of that and be happy that you can actually see that. Work on yourself even further and you shall see "better" reflections in your life.

[TomKay]

Of course there is no "we", but right now you're just playing with words. I've tried to keep it simple and maybe show the way for further realization, but I honestly couldn't give a bigger fuck about words all that much. My goal is to give perspective. Tell me more about "mind games" please.

[livelifenow]

I have the same feeling- a sort of "distance" that comes up and gets bigger the further I go. 

I am not sure if this is due to my changing value and beliefs-- it is very hard to find anyone around me who "gets it" or has any similar goals and that makes it hard to connect on a social level.

I also worry, because I don't know if this is progress, or maybe a new symptom of the depression that I thought was nearly banished...like a very deep dissociation....?

I can't tell if I am getting rid of some emotional attachment (good) or becoming apathetic and anti-social (uh-oh!)

[Huz]

On 2/24/2016 at 8:01 PM, Sri McDonald Trump Maharaj said:

Relationships has a tendency to change or fall apart completly on this path so I was just wondering how your relationships has changed since you started to practise self-inquiry.

 

Personally this "me" has gotten very detatched from "others" and it's getting even more deeper. It's so hard to sweep stuff under the rug and if you to you will become conscious of it almost directly. I have gotten more sensitive to other peoples feeling and a sense of sadness for the world sometimes arises. But I actually feel that me relationships are at least getting more honest. It becomes harder and harder to tolerate chimp stuff, bulshit and ideolgical concepts.

This is victim mentality - I do it all the time. Thinking I am getting detached from people, but realise that the only thing that is telling yourself this is your identity/ego and that is an illusion." You" are projecting things that your ego wants you to believe onto relationships to cause you suffering and making you believe that your alone in this journey. When I experience this I think my identity is trying to make me quit this path becuase it is "lonely" (but that is bullshit) and go back to living unconsciously. And there have been times where I have nearly gave in. Its a sneaky game it is trying to play.

Edited July 2, 2016 by Huz88

[Epiphany_Inspired]

@Sri McDonald Trump Maharaj, I have had a similar experience. I have intentionally distanced myself from a number of people on my self-inquiry journey. That said, I know a lot of amazing people that still engage in a lot of "chimp stuff". My understanding of the process (for us) is that we will eventually evolve to the point where the chimp stuff no longer bothers us. At the same time, I agree with you that honest relationships are crucial, and surrounding ourselves with as many like-minded people, and mentors, as possible is in our best interest....