Send nudes!

[Spiral]

Got your attention didn't I?

Now I've pondered this topic a little bit today. I have not myself asked for nudes, although I, as i'm sure many of you guys also do, appreciate nudes.  But the thing is that if one would find themselves wanting it, surely an easier and better way would be porn right? 

It also seems like a common misconception that all guys want nudes, this is not something you necessarily benefit from thinking as a girl. While I don't mind, it's strange to get ones that weren't asked for and it comes of as desperate.

I don't think there is anything wrong with asking, but I don't get it. Now maybe it's the personal aspect, which would make some sense.

Feel free to discuses dickpics while you are at it. I had too big trust issues to make that mistake when I was new in this field 

For guys:  Why ask for nudes to begin with? Isn't porn is superior in every way?

For girls: How do you feel about a guy asking you for nudes?

[Anna Konstantaki]

Dear Spiral, since nobody is answering, I will...

You ask a girl/woman for nudes, you ask her to send something through the internet which... STAYS there. Even if it hopefully ever only meets your eyes it does not feel like a very safe idea...

In our culture nudity itself is first and foremost linked to sex and sexuality... Those are intimate things (maybe they wouldn´t if we talked more about them but that is another story).

When you ask me to send a nude you appear needy.

Suppose you ask an attractive person for nudes I assume that you won´t hang it on the
wall but use it for your pleasure...

Suppose you ask somebody just in order to see if that person would go so far to engage in something which in the very best case they get something equal back (if I got a nude or compliment or sexting back I´d probably still not feel as if it was some worthy action since I have better things to do with my time than take my clothes off and make pictures and if I want sex I want real sex
and know where and how to get it, even moreso with plain orgasms) then... You are needy for approval.

It basically tells me that you like being showed how much another needy person falls for you. This has nothing to do with a healthy relationship, let alone unconditional love. It´s all about power.

This is why I once sent someone my middlefinger, my face with a big smile on it andto round things up with some humor, a string on my head back when I was asked to send nudes.

Oh and... If you keep asking for nudes even if I resuse then you are not just unattractive due to your needyness and maybe even shortsighted and stupidity but also annoying.

Hope that satisfyed you as an answer...

PS.: Why don´t you try yourself in the art of giving girls orgasms through text messages? (like Leo). That be real approval... And is much more satisfying... Even if it means listening and giving. (Even though, I must confess, I never tried that... I think I´d rather use my energy for something else...)

[Shroomdoctor]

@Spiral I really don't see the appeal (anymore). Control yourself until you see her for real = much better sex. 

[Max_V]

@Shroomdoctor ahaha, that picture's fun

[Dragallur]

@Anna Konstantaki What an amazing answer! Well done!

[aurum]

@Spiral

I like nudes if it's a girl I'm already having sex with.

It's fun if you're both horny but can't physically get to each other at the moment because you're at work or something. You can use it to build the tension for when you finally see each other. It's like foreplay.

Also, getting nudes from a real girl is way better than some random nudes on the internet. There's a connection with her and you know you get to fuck her later

But some random girl I've just met? Nah, not my style.

[Spiral]

@Anna Konstantaki Well the desire for approval in general is problematic, it means you have limiting beliefs about yourself.

Altought giving an girl a orgasm via text. That sounds interesting, haven't done that before(as far as I know) .

@aurum Thanks for your reply

Edited December 14, 2017 by Spiral

[alyra]

what I had to say is already said by @Anna Konstantaki heh. 

[YaNanNallari]

I mean if a girl sent me nudes I'd think she's crazy. I couldn't give a shit about nudes lol 

[Anna Konstantaki]

Actually, for those of you out there... Who sent nudes to someone and regret it... Who maybe where pressured or just trusted the wrong person... Just know, it´s not your fault and you were and are not dumm if you happen to feel that way. Here is compassion for you and I´m sorry if I caused you bad memories, judgement or any pain. This nudes thing is maybe some potential trap I have not fallen into (but I have wrong decisions on my record too )... 

[SFRL]

So where are the nudes? ?

[Leo Gura]

Easy solution to this: send nudes below the face. So no one but you two know it is you.

[herghly]

18 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Easy solution to this: send nudes below the face. So no one but you two know it is you.

Sounds like Leo has sent some nudes before 

[Privet]

42 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Easy solution to this: send nudes below the face. So no one but you two know it is you.

Unless you've got some unique marks like tattoos, birthmarks, rings etc. Also wrists are unique and quite possible to identify if there's another photo of you and wrists. Teeth either. Unusual hair.

Don't send nudes to detectives who know your social media.