Effectiveness Of 'the 6 Pillars Of Self-esteem'

[Random User]

Any success stories or life-changes from this book? I've finally got going with it and I'm curious to hear how many of you have benefited from it?

[DanielIssac]

1 hour ago, Random User said:

Any success stories or life-changes from this book? I've finally got going with it and I'm curious to hear how many of you have benefited from it?

Its a good place to start I can say that. But getting to that point can get real tricky. When I made my first pillar chart, I was 2-3 on 4 and 5 on the other 2. My self esteem was very low and my self image was very poor.

The thing that helped with self image was taking all the negative things I believed about myself and turning them into positives. Like I used to say I was a loner/loser, my new identity for this is I am a lone wolf. This can be a difficult process because it's not always easy to see how to transform a statement. Like if you think that you are damaged or broken. It can be hard to think of it as I am a wounded warrior.

Then there's self confidence and self esteem. The only way to build this is by learning to trust in yourself. Which is really only accomplished by showing yourself that you care. Which includes hygiene, exercise, meditation, reading, being social, loving. This things are individual steps and progress at their own rate.

Patience is also a big key here as it can really feel like nothing is changing and you're just running in circles. So each step takes a lot of mini steps and those take micro steps. Each one, building those pillars piece by piece. So yes, I'd say it works. It just takes time and a lot of effort

[nick96]

@Random User it was the first self help book I read and made me understand that I had some big deep problems.

But for me it didn’t bring change, my mind was too fucked up. There wasn’t much practical stuff that I could do with the knowledge from the book. I began turning inwards a little bit though.

The change for me all began after reading Radical Honesty and The Power of Now. 

I would say that if you understand well the book and you are already quite healthy you can get some results applying some of the principles of the book. I was really messed up and had to use deeper techniques to address the root causes of my misery.