Why Do We Attach To Things And Thought?

[nima]

As everybody know, we tend to attach to things we put our attention. why? and how we can release ourselves?

[WelcometoReality]

It's because the ego structure is all about survival. Holding on to that piece of food or that fur or whatever was really important to survive. Now it is not that important.

The answer to the second question I think you already know since your asking it on this subforum.

[Anicko]

We are trained from the time we are babies to be afraid of everything.

We are taught that if we aren't rich, powerful, married to a hottie and packing achievements in life then we are worthless. 

We are taught that we must be perfect, and on those rare occasions we're not, well, someone else is to blame. 

We are taught to obey authority blindly. And then we are taught to allow that authority to lie to us and divide us. 

We are taught that if only we work hard enough, we can have it all. That if it's not working that we are always at fault and we should feel rotten (so we better find something or someone to blame!!). 

We are taught that if we have something we better hold tight because someone is waiting to take it from us. Heck, everyone around us all the time are thinking negative things about us, right? 

We are taught that normal, natural functions of our minds and bodies will send us straight to hell. 

We believe all these kinds of lies. We believe we can somehow claim control and make ourselves happy. When you get really into the truth, though, we can't control a single thing. We try to at least control our own minds and bodies, but we can't, not really. Not the way we think we can. We can avoid, delay, suppress... 

Control won't get us anywhere, anyways. What we actually need to do is learn to use our minds and bodies the right way. Stop believing the lies others tell us, and the ones we tell ourselves. Then you can start to be free of those attachments, and ultimately, have a life worth living. 

[Leo Gura]

Society exacerbates the problem a lot. Many decades of bad conditioning have created a monster. And much of that conditioning has been seared into your brain between the ages of 0-15 years old, while your brain is gullible and soaks up dogma like a sponge. And now it's very difficult to undo.

[Ayla]

Consciousness is embodying into person-hood for a little while. Human ADN and persons already present here as humans, give this new person "the rules" of the game: self image, societal rules, conduct rules, concepts, dogma, etc. Consciousness is mesmerized into believing it is a person. Here's your duality right there: consciousness and person-hood. 

Person is cut off from consciousness by the fragility of body and the dynamic of personal concepts, drama, etc. The tighter the pull of person-hood, the bigger the discomfort.  

Let's take me as a guinea pig  

My parents met and fell in love; The moment they got married, a very vague idea of me has begun to flourish in the form of them wanting A baby. So thoughts, combined with actions, feelings and norms, got "me" into existence. This can be resumed as: focus came into experience. Many variables were involved into all this process and other focuses "shaped" who I have become. 

The only way to disentangle yourself from all this paradigm, is to realize that the person is not you. In fact, my current view on this, is that the person that you might currently call "Ayla" has nothing to do with who I really am (and more to do with who you are). 

I wish I cold find a better way to put this into words..

 

[Isle of View]

On 22.2.2016 at 8:53 PM, nima said:

As everybody know, we tend to attach to things we put our attention. why?

Because it seems more interesting to attach our attention on something than not doing it.

 

On 22.2.2016 at 8:53 PM, nima said:

and how we can release ourselves?

You recognize that you're holding on and let-go.

 

Chris