Positive Habits That Changed Your Life.

[Chimp]

• Becoming a vegetarian and eating healthy: I used to need at least 8 hours of sleep every night and even then I would feel like a wreck. Now I'm full of energy and focussed even if I only slept 6 hours. I also used to have a cold all the time, but now no more.
• No more television, extreme movies, video games and radio: About two weeks ago I was doing cardio at the gym (my next point  ) with a lot of people around me watching the tv screens. I try to look away from them but still caught a pretty schokking sight. In a reality program they showed a newly born child that wasn't breathing and seemed dead. I was shocked, stopped my exercise and my heart felt like it was pumping out of my chest. I looked around and saw that everyone else was still watching the screens in a zombie like way without any emotional respons on their faces. That's when it became painfully obvious to me how emotional numbing television is. For them seeing extreme images is a normal everyday thing.
• Habit of sport: pretty obvious why this is a good habit. This also gives me more energy besides eating healthy. 
• Showing a genuine interest in other people: a Dale Carnegie rule which is part of my habit to be a good communicator.

[Mastermind]

My older and good habits:

• Healthy diet. (much more energy)
• Learning about self-development. (much more motivation and self-confidence)
• Learning violin. (dramatically increased sharpness of the mind) (this is BIG one)
• No TV.
• Mindfulness. (increased self-awareness and focus)

New habits, which I'm working on:

• Exercise every morning. 
• Everyday meditation.
• Replacing web browsing with reading, learning, working etc.
• Cold Showers. (I'm really hesitating to do this :D)

[Irina Irina]

@Evilwave Heddy I want to wake up earlier before work and implement a morning routine

and also I want to quit smoking ihh

My habbits:

• doing sport
• meditation
• keeping my house clean and organised
• organise my money and activities
• eating better
• buying myself flowers every week
• reading and commit to doing exercises from books

Edited March 8, 2016 by Irina Irina

[QandC]

I'd love to start with cold showers but there's something wrong with my shower so I can only get warm water :'(

[Dante]

Meditation definitely showed me the possibilities for true presence in the moment.  Just those few, momentary glances blew me away.

Watching and listening to Podcasts and Youtube videos of people who give great advice because they're passionate about helping people.

Becoming Vegan. I have significantly decreased the odds that i'll get a host of nasty diseases. I also feel as if my food is almost always fuel. A lot of what I was eating before just gave me a huge spike of pleasure and then a huge decrease in motivation to even move lol.

Reading self help books, which I've only started recently, have definitely helped me peek over the walls I have built for myself. I'm currently working on destroying the walls to truly experience the possibilities I am missing out on.

Helping people! I never really feel qualified to help people because I always looked at the negatives in myself, but a lot of people trust my opinion and some even act on it. A lot of times I just tell people what I say or should be saying to myself. It also feels good to see other people doing things that make them feel better.

[WHOAMI]

Learn new useful language.

[Vaishnavi]

 

• Not caring about people and their opinions on me
• Accepting people the way they are because that makes it a lot easier for you to deal with them.
• Not arguing with a neurotic person or someone who doesn't want to change cuz there are people who can change cuz they want to, and then come these special ones who're happy the way they are because they've accepted the lie that they cannot change. I feel bad for these people cuz I feel they're missing so much in life but when you try to help them, it doesn't really have an effect on them plus you end up ruining your mood. 
• Writing down all my tasks even if it's as simple as watering plants
• Planning. I like to invest a huge time in planning stuff cuz first of all it's fun, it like fills you up with energy and is kinda excites you. Second it make things a LOT easier, like really easy cuz you have your things organised then.
• Cold showers 
• Evening walk
• Watching Leo's videos, the best decision ever. I guess everyone would agree with me on this one  

[Hillary Kapan]

@WHOAMI I'm quite intrigued.  Can you give any examples?  Thanks much.

[WHOAMI]

@Hillary Kapan

Examples about what? Just learn any interesting and useful language. German,french,Spanish and russian. it's really good habit when you are learning a new language. it's very good for your brain memory and it's cool when you can speak in many languages.

you can read original(not translated) books and off course travelling is great because you can communicate.

 

 

[Falk]

I changed a lot of stuff since 3-4month ....

-Chew slowly and be aware of what i eat while i eat it

-daily cold shower for more power on the tower ....

-erry day 1h meditation 

-no porn ^^

-no more pc-games

-documenting and counting negative self-talk (since i i started to write it down it reduces drastictly!)

-plan my week on sundays and briefly review the week (what was good what can i improve what plans didnt work why etc...)

-be productive in my passion and work on ideas

-try to sit straight while in chair / at pc and walk straight as well, readjust my back 

-never change a plan ot of: A) fear B) lazyness C) bad preparation

-Sleep on the left side (jeah, that´s the crib side  ) it is beneficial for heart and stomach (human anatomy) 

-When im down (stop! don´t make plans don´t try to think ...just stop and try to get sleep or eat)

-2glasses of water at wake-up (body needs it after sleep)

-Cleaning my villa on sundays (ok just my appartment  )

-Never boast for real! it will bite you in the ass in some way..always stay humble

-Have 2 days per week without using my pc at ALL

-on the other days keep inte unavailable and only surf when important stuff

-Have a schedule and stick to my plans

-never again ask for approval of other people for things i know are right!!

-try to get as much stuff done on monday as possible (gym, read, go pc-free)

-play chess /lichess chess riddles 

-learn new songs on guitar : just finished "dream a little dream" next is : sultans of swing (love that one)

-go for walks and focus on my senses while doing so

-find positiv people and dont take them for granted but be especially nice to them (this one is new)

 

 

 

 

[Samir]

Trying hard to stop watching porn but still struggling.

Trying to watch less tv which is working and instead reading self help books that I found it very helpful. Although from childhood until now haven't had the habit of reading but now I have the feeling of becoming a good reader since I really need it, not only for my knowledge, mind and brain but for my improving English too!

I go to the gym at least 4 times a week with minimum of 1 hour workout.

became aware of healthy food and trying to cut eating too much red meat and of course sugar.

trying not care about others people opianian on me, at the same time making myself consicus of judging other people.

As I mentioned above my big fight is porn which gives me so much pleasure and so hard to quit but will do my best to stop it

 

[Evilwave Heddy]

On 3/7/2016 at 10:08 PM, Irina Irina said:

and also I want to quit smoking ihh

If you ever do plan on giving them up or are in the process.  The best thing that worked for me is to convince myself that a craving only lasts for 3 minutes.  Any time I'd get that strong craving for one I'd tell myself "All I gotta do is wait 3 minutes and the craving would eventually pass" which it did.  In fact, telling myself this became so powerful that the cravings would disappear a few seconds after convincing myself this.  I drank water as a substitute also..but I don't know if this helped in any way.

Prior to this I tried using patches which were a joke and waste of time and money.  I also tried the electric cig, but after 3 months on it I went back to smoking.

I don't know if that little technique will work for everyone. Maybe I was just had a lot of willpower or something.

Also the day before giving up I looked at 1 or 2 videos of how smoking affects your lungs and images of smokers lungs which motivated me a bit. I also tried remember this timeline and checked it out every week i was off them which motivated me a lot. 

http://whyquit.com/whyquit/A_Benefits_Time_Table.html

Best of luck. (;

[Kevin Dunlop]

Using good habbits is different for me now than it used to be because I am used to changing habbits as soon as I decide to now, my determination and will to experiment is strong enough to change anything I do without questioning my decisions. The resistance to change is gone I trust myself because my experience has shown me that I can without fear,I choose my habbits. So my idea of good habbits is a bit different now.

Best habbit ever -  create your mind the way you want it to be by trying out new ideas/ treat them as beliefs about how you interprets things, responds to things, what your objectives are, what you sees as important or even better not important. Here is an example, if someone does something you dont like instead of getting mad at them you can try this mindframe ¨ I am deciding I want to findout why it happened and understand their motivations as best I can so I know the person better. The more I know about how they really work the better off I am. Ill learn alot more by being nice and asking questions than attacking people with criticism etc.¨ There you go a new habbit to try out everytime you get the chance. Just try to stop the old habbit and experiment with the new one youll have to remember to,  thats all. You may find dramatic results in your favour. 

Other ideas

get truthful about stuff and do what you know you should every time you get the chance. Dont live a lie for any reason

Keep your senses alert to learning - Learn to  get better information from everything around you and try using it enough to see if it really is good

Enjoy life - slowdown enough to feel how good the world is and appreciate it

Let go of making the wrong stuff important - almost anything can be seen as not important enough to ruin your day, worry about etc. 

Trust yourself more than others when it comes to doing what you know want to do. Thanks for the advice but I am going to do it my way this time

Find the calm place between polarized extremes and let go of them, see extremes a dramatic  imbalance, its like saying no icecream / only icecream, or a balance need to want or fear icecream

Play with children, let them make decisions and follow their lead, learn from them instead of being the big boss. 

Act like I am retired, no more working for capitalists, I work how and when I want to. 

Fasting , cleansing the industrial junk out of my body while learning to have an iron discipline

Find and memorize then experiment with good comunication techniques (NVC, Restitutions) stop using automatic communication  practices and try new ones out one by one. Communication is your connection to everyone else, dont mess it up, get good at it so you can be together. 

Listen to your intuition train yourself to hear it better and follow its advice

Go to nature and interact with it - eat the fruit, swim in the rivers, walk up the mountains, build fires and cook there, bring some stuff from there to your home 

Make your own stuff instead of buying stuff

Play music

Decide not to have addictions ever

Dont let people force you to listen to them if you dont want to

be weird and love it

 

 

 

Edited March 21, 2016 by Kevin Dunlop

[Irina Irina]

@Spacious practicing vulnerabillity, I like this

[Wind]

On 2/24/2016 at 3:26 AM, ULFBERHT said:

I know this thread is about good habits and I don't want to distract too much from that, but I'd like to caution the men here on the NoFap phenomenon. I'm not necessarily condemning its practice, because I think it could be good as a discipline test, but 1) a lot of the evidence surrounding its benefits are anecdotal (speaking strictly of the NoFap Reddit page)
2) To some degree, "if you don't use it, you lose it" is true. It's important to get erections regularly because its been suggested that infrequent erections can harm sexual potency. http://www.medicaldaily.com/use-it-or-lose-it-how-age-hormones-and-masturbation-predict-sexual-health-329366 Granted this is probably more relevant to older men, but why risk it? 3) Some evidence shows that regular ejaculation can help ward off prostate cancer. http://www.harvardprostateknowledge.org/does-frequent-ejaculation-help-ward-off-prostate-cancer

4) (anecdotal) I pound my clown all the time and I'm still a beast in the gym, I'm productive at work, my test levels are fine, and I'm able to lay down the law with my wife for as long as she wants because I have many opportunities to practice. Giggity, giggity, aaaalll right. Take care of your dick, gents.

It depends, you see. It depends on the other habits one has already established and how their brain are wired. For some who have a shitty self-discipline it could be a really toxic habit that is disturbing them on a daily basis from the work that they should be doing or the goals that they want to be achieving, and use it as an escape stimuli, the same way, for instance, junk food, television or purposeless browsing could be used. You find yourself in a difficult situation that requires your persistence (e.g. in the middle of assignment) and then procrastinate it by fapping which then might trigger other bad habits that get your work unfinished. But in most cases, guys are using "no fap" as a vehicle to start going out, meeting women, "pulling the trigger" (a.k.a. kiss the girl, touch, pull) or getting a girlfriend. This is case, because if you're a guy who doesn't have much experience with women and are addicted to fapping (more than once per day), you will not have enough motivation and sexual energy to do any of those things, because your libido will be satisfied. So, "no fap" as I've noticed is used for guys who are in this kind of situation.

However, for guys who don't have any of these problems, who do their work, meet women regularly or have a girlfriend, gets sex, this "no fap" thing might look weird and is irrelevant as in your case. And I agree with you that to get erection regularly is very important, but if it's an obsession/addiction and kills productivity, then you need to moderate it and use it as a reward mechanism, or go "cold turkey". So the bottom line - fap as long as it doesn't disturbs your life!

Edited March 22, 2016 by Wind

[Wind]

On 2/24/2016 at 3:26 AM, ULFBERHT said:

I know this thread is about good habits and I don't want to distract too much from that, but I'd like to caution the men here on the NoFap phenomenon. I'm not necessarily condemning its practice, because I think it could be good as a discipline test, but 1) a lot of the evidence surrounding its benefits are anecdotal (speaking strictly of the NoFap Reddit page)
2) To some degree, "if you don't use it, you lose it" is true. It's important to get erections regularly because its been suggested that infrequent erections can harm sexual potency. http://www.medicaldaily.com/use-it-or-lose-it-how-age-hormones-and-masturbation-predict-sexual-health-329366 Granted this is probably more relevant to older men, but why risk it? 3) Some evidence shows that regular ejaculation can help ward off prostate cancer. http://www.harvardprostateknowledge.org/does-frequent-ejaculation-help-ward-off-prostate-cancer

4) (anecdotal) I pound my clown all the time and I'm still a beast in the gym, I'm productive at work, my test levels are fine, and I'm able to lay down the law with my wife for as long as she wants because I have many opportunities to practice. Giggity, giggity, aaaalll right. Take care of your dick, gents.

It depends, you see. It depends on the other habits one has already established and how their brain are wired. For some who have a shitty self-discipline it could be a really toxic habit that is disturbing them on a daily basis from the work that they should be doing or the goals that they want to be achieving, and use it as an escape stimuli, the same way, for instance, junk food, television or purposeless browsing could be used. You find yourself in a difficult situation that requires your persistence (e.g. in the middle of assignment) and then procrastinate it by fapping which then might trigger other bad habits that get your work unfinished. But in most cases, guys are using "no fap" as a vehicle to start going out, meeting women, "pulling the trigger" (a.k.a. kiss the girl, touch, pull) or getting a girlfriend. This is case, because if you're a guy who doesn't have much experience with women and are addicted to fapping (more than once per day), you will not have enough motivation and sexual energy to do any of those things, because your libido will be satisfied. So, "no fap" as I've noticed is used for guys who are in this kind of situation.

However, for guys who don't have any of these problems, who do their work, meet women regularly or have a girlfriend, gets sex, this "no fap" thing might look weird and is irrelevant as in your case. And I agree with you that to get erection regularly is very important, but if it's an obsession/addiction and kills productivity, then you need to moderate it and use it as a reward mechanism, or go "cold turkey", because the first one sometimes is too difficult at the beginning.

[adrian284]

@ULFBERHT Well let's forget about the anecdotal evidence. From my point of view, controlling the frequency of masturbation is beneficial as a whole, since by doing so you are exercising the muscle for controlling impulsive pleasure seeking. Exercising that muscle is a good idea because then you have more conscious control over how you spend your life. You have the ability to resist temporary urges and direct your energy towards your goals. For example, that would subconsciously translate to controlling urges to procrastinate or to eat unhealthy food. Also, by practicing this you feel more in control and that would give you boost in how you feel about yourself. So, I don't think completely stopping masturbation is necessary (in fact, controlling the frequency takes more self-discipline, if you can do it) , but if you can restrict yourself to masturbate only once every so often it should definitely make a difference in your life.

[RandomPaul]

- meditation (slowly and harmoniously developing the practice)

- morning ritual

- less / no TV

- healthy diet

- cold showers (only)

- compassion and mindfulness

- keeping a pin-board with objectives related to external manifestations and internal purposes

- being less dramatic

[Jasmine]

Yoga

Meditation

Starting a YouTube channel

Reading

[Eike]

Hey guys,
since I'm trying to quit playing video games all day long I'm looking for a good replacement. I've heard of the playing an instrument as having great benefits. Does some of you have experience with it? Or are there any other advices for replacement? Since I've played hours daily things like exercising won't fit, because one simply cann not work out for hours (if you don't have the intention to be a body builder).

I'm kinda astonished of the plausible explanation for nofap, so maybe I'll try this in some point.

Beside all the great habits which were already mentioned I recommend learing, since it gives me joy. Further I've heard of writing a list of things, events or persons you are thankful on a daily base to be huge. I think Tal-Ben Shahar tells about it, even tho there are probably many more. Actually I recommend to learn and apply some wisdom from him, because he talks about happiness, which we all are actually striving for

Last but not least being in nature is great. I really like to take a walk (and listen to a self help audio book).