Feeling Like Shit After Masturbating

[Alexo45]

Hello,

i can't masturbate without feeling like shit after the deed. I don't know why, but somehow after masturbating, i feel like shit. I start to get depressing thoughts and memories of the past after an hour or so. I've been having this for quite a long time, and it used to be a lot worse back in the days when i used to do it with porn. 
I managed to quit the porn, but i'm still masturbating occasionally, which ends up in a depressing day. I'm clueless of why this is happening, and i don't really feel like i'm addicted to it either. What could this be?  

[Preetom]

Hey man, I can relate with that as well. While all the modern knowledge preach masturbation is so healthy and such, I never resonated with that claim through my own experience. Masturbation with/without porn inevitably leave a distaste and disgust for life. Feeling all drained and somber. 

Recently in an Interview I heard Jan Esmann ( A competent spiritual master in Shaktipath) saying, "Masturbation is a waste of energy. But having sex with someone is an exchange of energy."

That made a lot of sense for me. Indeed Masturbation is ultimately a depletion of vital life energy no matter how you look at it. While during sex, two people exchange that life force with each other thus feel more alive and connected given that they appreciate and love each other.

So I think a solution might be in shifting from masturbation to having intimate sex. 

[Edvard]

@Preetom What about science seeming to show masturbation reduces risk of prostata cancer?

[Preetom]

@Edvard I don't know man. Diseases can be a byproduct of lots of parameters like genetics, environment, psychology, immunity, lifestyle etc. A very complex system indeed. I don't wanna comment on that.

But on further note, if we are openminded, masturbation can be looked at from different angles. When we completely heal ourselves sexually and unhook from distorted sexual cravings/views, we can use masturbation for many different purposes.

1) Masturbating + inducing sexual energy and then meditating/concentrating on that energy. Being open to it. It can be powerful mindfulness exercise all throughout the body. Plus learning to feel this energy on ever subtle level thus appreciating and feeling this energy more deeply.

2) Masturbation + concentration can induce creativity. Then using that to boost artistic endeavors and performance.

3) Some people masturbate before hitting the gym and can do some extra work using this energy. Raising one's energy and putting it in any work. 

you get the idea. But if the sole purpose of masturbation is to ejaculate and feeling that high, then inevitably you feel like shit no matter how you rationalize with it. The body just doesn't feel right with that level of friction.

Masturbation + Ejaculation is a thief that comes and robs us. At least in my case.

[Principium Nexus]

Could be several reasons.

You are not having the real thing and suppressing it with a virtual experience, most probably not based on love.

For a man, biologically, when he has sex his sperm is used to fertilize an egg, so after releasing he switches to rest/low energy mode to recharge. I think this is to make sure his quality stays high but it also takes a lot of energy/resources to reproduce his sperm. So afterwards your energy goes into this process instead of being available in other ways. Sexuality goes down a bit, less interaction, overall less energetic.

I think the act of making love with a partner is somewhat different. If you really do it out of love and bonding then you will still feel somewhat less energetic, but you carry a certain mindset which empowers you as a man.

 

[General 2]

you might simply overexhaust a pleasure center in your brain

so it takes some time to recharge

[Source_Mystic]

You are doing it to much plain and simple. Stop the recurrent frequency and experiment with not doing that so much channel your energy other places.  Replace it with exercise. Not telling you not to at all. What I am suggesting is give your self some recoup time in between. Doing that all the time is going to exhaust anyone masturbation does not give energy back so  to speak it drains it especially in men.  Woman are a completely different story. 

[InfinitePotential]

@Alexo45look into "mucuna pruriens". It's a natural supplement that contains L-Dopa and is a great way to replenish dopamine after an orgasm. 

Another great supplement to replenish nutrients lost after orgasm (or rather, ejacularion) is "black ant extract". Just crushed black ants, rich in zinc and ATP. 

These should definitely have a noticeable positive effect on your mood. 

[ajasatya]

@Alexo45 i'd stay away from artificial methods to sustain addiction to masturbation. that's not freedom. that's more bondage.

human beings have anxious desires to masturbate because we create physical/mental/emotional blockages. sexual energy accumulates very quickly instead of flowing gracefully throughout the multidimensional body. as a consequence, the energy that should nourish our creativity, compassion, willpower and intuition causes anxiety and sexual possessiveness instead.

in my opinion (and experience, of course), the best method to solve this is intensive practice of yoga. hatha yoga, kundalini yoga, bhakti yoga, raja yoga, karma yoga. all of that. becoming an yogi was the solution for me.