Stop Lieng

[Mircan]

So I've had this problem with lieng since a couple years now, I've been working on it for about a week now as mentioned in Leo's video. My reletions with my friends got badder and badder over time due to this problem. The thing is that I often times don't even realize that I was actually lieng in this moment, maybe because I am lieng to myself or I am just not giving enought attention to my surrounding, my talking (which also is a problem I am gonne work on)

But anyways I am asking If you have any suggestions for better working on this habit which destroys my long term build relations. 

Thanks in advance, Mircan

 

[BjarkeT]

i think maybe the best thing i can think of would be to set a side a lot of time(For example 6 months) where you only focus on improving this area every day and not spending time on much else and use all your will power when you try to improve something and maybe also use this techniqe

 

 

[Joseph Maynor]

I used to lie a lot in my youth too.  What you gotta realize is it doesn't help you.  Best to be honest.  But to do that you gotta do spiritual work.  Start from the beginning of the process and ease into it.  

Edited October 2, 2017 by Joseph Maynor

[YaNanNallari]

Think about why you lie? Does it serve you or others? Is it necessary? Is it worth it to hold on to it? See that it might have pros and cons but it's not worth it to keep at it and accept that you might want to lie. You may have beliefs limiting that and you can try to deal with those. Why would you not want good for yourself if that means not lying?
If you lie to your friends a lot you probably don't have a great self-esteem and you feel like you have to be something. Try to let go of whatever role you're playing or whatever you're trying to be so much. You can still go for good things but good stuff can come more naturally than as a role. At least not taking the role seriously is a good step. You can have enough acceptance from within you to like you. If you genuinely like yourself then others are more likely to like you too, but it might take a while to get to this point.

[Nahm]

@Mircan Honesty is growth. This is a good place you're at. So much awesome ahead of you.

"Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom."

- Thomas Jefferson

Check these quotes out, prime yourself, add some more 'reason to do it'

https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/keywords/honesty.html

 

 

[Amit]

@Mircan you are doing exactly what works, Being Mindful!

when you truly understand it yourself, you will no longer ask for anyone's advice, just try to understand it by being more mindful, more aware, more conscious and you are doing just that, don't doubt yourself no more.