How Do You Deal With Frustration?

[aclokay]

Hi,

I have a problem that when I get stuck in my school questions I get REALLY frustrated, agitated, then angry then quit.

At this point in my life I took on studying for a degree which involves math courses, which I previously quit THREE time. 
When I signed up for the math courses I knew what I was up against, I knew I would get frustrated and want to keep at every small hurdle on the way.
But now, I'm actually at this place and my semester hasn't started yet.

I don't completely suck. but I get frustrated and give up very easily. i'm aware of this. But it's still very difficult for me. I'm not sure if I give up because of lack of motivation or because I can't deal with the emotions and try to escape them.

How do you deal with frustration? 
How do you keep going ? 
Do I need to force myself to keep trying to solve (math) problems even though I'm agitated or should I take a break or take on another subject?

I really need help with this!

Thank you 

 

[Wyatt]

@aclokayIf you're able to face this and overcome it, you'll grow immensely in other aspects of your life.

Here's my diagnosis and action plan:

• Improving your concentration abilities will make your focus improve and you'll be able to stick with problems longer. Meditating and focusing on the breath or your fingers for 20+ minutes a day everyday should do the trick
• The schooling system's whole job is to tech you things, but they never really teach their students how to learn. if you're trying to learn the material, but are doing it in an inefficient way, of course it's going to be extremely frustrating and you'll want to quit. There's an incredible book called "A Mind For Numbers" which explains how to effectively and efficiently learn math and science.
• If math isn't enjoyable for you, just don't take math classes. There are plenty of more interesting fields that need problem solvers

[ajasatya]

@aclokay your life is too easy for your health. free yourself from excessive convenience.

your motives to do what you think you want to do are built upon a huge layer of lies.

[ajasatya]

@K VIL the layer of lies usually contain a lot of things. that's why it's huge.

• the need to meet the expectations of the parents
• the need to hold the mask of the responsible human being when you're being responsible for a life that you don't really want
• the need to be admired by colleagues and professors
• the need to prove to someone else that you can do something

when we act from those needs, we're fated to failure. and the kind of frustration that arises from lie-based failures can't be overcome by growth... only by stubbornness, which feeds the cycle of lies.

when our motivation is genuine, we change drastically everytime we fail. we grow stronger and more brave. the fear of failure becomes smaller, not bigger.