Emotions And Reacting To Situations

[YaNanNallari]

So I've noticed that for a while now I mostly react to things by seeing them as either sad or silly. Laugh or cry. I overall see my mood usually gravitating towards sadness although it's not how I feel all of the time at all. And I feel very comfortable being sad. It does feel sort of authentic and something I like to be right now. I'm also glad and grateful while being sad and probably many other emotions. Overall I'm aware that I just make that thing sad or funny and they are not that on their own. If I pay attention to anything then it usually is one of these two things and some things I just dismiss and they aren't either.

I'm wondering if I'm unnecessarily making them funny or sad. Is my mind just making it to have meaning? Cause my mind likes to create special meaning for things, I think that's quite common. I think it could be a part of it but not always. Should I just be somehow seeing things as they are? Without reacting to them. It just honestly feels weird to react to things like this cause I don't know how others react and I'm just asking if I'm on the right path and what to do from here on out.

I do also  feel more energetic and happy and without a reason to see things as anything more often nowadays though but this thing is bothering me.

I'm also feeling resistance to changing this sad/happy reacting but that's a common thing to feel resistance. I have no clue if this needs to be changed or what to think of it. How does someone love a person who is sad, this time it being myself?

Edited September 19, 2017 by YaNanNallari
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[The Monk]

@YaNanNallari All suffering is illusory (meaning it's fairy dust), and is created by the mind.  This happens when people associate themselves with their mind, and begin to believe that the thoughts it generates is them.

If you detach yourself from the mind and thoughts, suffering disappears. 

To pursue this you could pick up a daily meditation practice become mindful of these emotions (meaning you watch them, but don't judge, or react to them), and also read the power of now by Eckhart Tolle. 

 

[YaNanNallari]

@The Monk Another reason I posted this is to figure out if there was a more "productive" way to look at things or feel etc. I'm happy enough for sure and that isn't an issue right now. I'm happy and calm with being sad. Things just feel too simple or easy. Like, this is it?

[Nathalie]

@YaNanNallari I also am (or was?) some one who has/had an opinion and a position about everythings: funny or sad, but also good or bad, relevant irrelevant, there were the situations I liked or disliked etc.. Maybe it's important to go through all this to be able to transcend it ? Maybe it's a good idea to play with it, just to see how subjective it is? I mean looking at the same situation as a sad one, and then, as a funny one or perhaps as an inacceptable or desirable one... And later letting all this go.. letting go because you know that you can feel and deal with it and without any damage and finally be freed of it, a little lighter on your path.. ? At least it's how I feel each time I am aware of the fact that I just can let go.. Breathing in and out and accepting how the things are..

[YaNanNallari]

Figured it out now. So I had a role of having to constantly do something brought back up due to having a finals type of exam just now yesterday. Now that I got a breather from studying I tuned into this problem and saw that I don't need to do something all the time. This role had made me see things as funny or sad. Although I was still calm and happy enough with that role it was still worse than nothing.