Dysfunctionality Driving Me Insane

[Light Lover]

How do all of you in here in your daily lives deal with family, friends, co-workers and pretty much everyone around you who you start to realise are completely dysfunctional and unconcious as you grow? This is a genuine question because recently I am actually starting to get concerned that it is making me go mad...the anger, the decisions, the stupidity, the selfishness, the lack of compassion and empathy...everyone else is unable to understand the mess they are in...interacting with these people and seeing how they live their lives is enough to make my brain hurt.

Any thoughts on how to deal or cope with this insanity around us? And how do all of you do it in your daily lives??

[student]

Hi!

Those people will face the consequences. Because every decision one takes have a consequence. People underestimate the importance of every moment, of every second and every decision they make in their lives. People underestimate, in general.

What you can do is to continue to work on yourself. It is all about you. It is not about others. It never was about others. You didn't started on this journey for others, you started for yourself. You should grateful you stepped out of the circle they are still in. And you should be grateful that you are more conscious and you are making progess... and some day you will be truly able to help them. You made progress, they are still in the same place. Yes, this is really good you are starting to see this, is normal.

You will start getting on better terms with them naturally as your consciousness will grow, as you grow yourself. Right now the right thing to do would be to direct your attention on your emotions, on your temper. You are getting easily angry on them etc., your bad habits are starting to show up. Be grateful. Start on developing your compassion. Observe them, feel them. See they are just behaving. They don't know what they are doing. They are acting and behaving as best as they can, just like you do right now.

Develop yourself and you will see that you will start having more empathy towards them and not get angry at them. You will see that you will arrive to a point when you will feel love for anyone (and also the other creatures around you).

[Sevi]

You gotta manage 2 things: their image in your mind and your emotional reactions to that.

1) you picture them as humans thus your expectations from them goes into that category. Picture them as Pavlov's dogs; living organisms between human and animal. 

Your expectations will drop immensely. That'll comfort your mind.

2) when their perceived image in your mind shifts your emotional reactions arising will subside.

 

We like to attribute beautiful, nice, high quality, high consciousness manners to the ones around us, this is a somewhat natural tendency. The fact is that heavy conditionings dull humans' real abilities. When you are off the hook of that hindering, it becomes difficult to accept the ones cannot. Also our hearts ache to see it on people, especially if they are someone we care. This creates that tension in us. When it's a Pavlov's dog, it's a Pavlov's dog. If you try to behave in a different range than their adjusted perception window, you'll upset yourself.

They just don't know the languages you speak. Just speak theirs to them.

[Light Lover]

Thankyou both, very useful advice

[CuteCornDog]

My mom cares too much about the things I do when it's just me in the room.