Being Taken For Granted

[SenshiAna]

This is, maybe, the no 1 issue in my life right now: why am I always being taken for granted?

I have strong opinions, sometimes I think they are based in a black and white way of thinking, but despite that I am seen as a sweet and nice young woman who is available to lean a hand to help. I always remember it to be like this and this week I had 4 triggers, the last one was today, that made me want to lean deep into this question. So I made the effort to really analyse each situation and think:

How many times have I taken THEM for granted? My answer: maybe a lot more than them to me...

How many times do I take MYSELF for granted, and leave the control of my relations and my life in auto-pilot? A lot... 

How many times have I taken myself for granted in "hidden" forms? It's scary to think I take every thing about myself for granted... my health, beauty, good mood, capacities to work things out, intelligence, forgiveness, daily life, etc... 

So my thoughts now: what are your thoughts and strategies to deal with this kind of situation?

Edited February 19, 2016 by SenshiAna

[Ayla]

@SenshiAna

The best strategy I have found is to first deal with all the forms of "taken for granted" that you've discovered within yourself first. You have believed all those patterns into reality and now they are manifesting for you. Once you've dealt with it inside and after a bit of a momentum, they'll "magically" disappear !

[SenshiAna]

15 minutes ago, Ayla said:

@SenshiAna

The best strategy I have found is to first deal with all the forms of "taken for granted" that you've discovered within yourself first. 

@Ayla: Could you explain further? Is this a hidden belief in my subconscious mind? 

Oh an thank you for moving my topic into a more congruent sub-category. 

Edited February 19, 2016 by SenshiAna

[Ayla]

@SenshiAna , it is not that hidden, since you've obviously made a good job in discovering the ways you are taking yourself and others for granted. 

Now the trick is for you to catch yourself doing it. In the beginning, you might catch yourself just after doing it, then in the middle of it, than just before it... and in the end, it will just drop..  

[SenshiAna]

@Ayla, I understand

Now for strategies...

1. I'll create a detailed list of similar situations I've caught myself doing/experiencing this.

2. Then, maybe I should identify the belief inside myself that give strength and makes it manifest in real life.

3. List the affirmations that may be linked to it.

4. Try to, as you said, be observant to how this keeps repeating itself, and stop it. 

[Ayla]

@SenshiAna

Good strategy  

 

[SenshiAna]

I do think a lot of it has to do with a tendency I notice in my living style, which resumes to not acting - and by this I don't only mean procrastinating. I think a lot, I theorize a lot. I think so much I usually forget my feelings and intuition. Sometimes I get mesmerized with the amount of stuff I can figure out with my head, but as for putting all of it into use... well that's a whole different story  I end up doing only 10% or 20% of what I think I can do, which often leads to frustration and unfulfillment. 

I recall @Leo Gura mentioning something like this on his last video: thinkers are less inclined to be successful.  So yeah.... In these last 2 years I kind of... put myself in autopilot mode and let life fall on me. 

I already have too many indicators I need to balance this overthinking personality trait with more "doer" habits.