Girl Playing Hard To Get?

[7thLetter]

Just a generalization but hotter girls seem to play harder to get than average girls.

Alright I wanna try to keep it short. So there's this girl I'm into at work, as I just got hired at the place, I caught her eye. First few days of work, just constant eye contact and other indicators of interest, such as her touching my arm, etc. Then we finally exchanged a couple words on the 3rd day, then kept moving it forward from there. 2 weeks in, I finally ask for her number and suggesting that we should get to know each other. Called her the next day and she said she wasn't interested in anything and lied about having a boyfriend. We started texting after this, and I was accusing her of leading me on, but she was saying that she wasn't. So I had second thoughts that she actually is interested and continued to pursue. But when I saw her at work these couple of days, I just showed a ton of passive disinterest such as not making eye contact and ignoring her. She seemed to get frustrated and sad when I did this. Then I started talking to her a bit again and texting. Then I basically asked her out again by asking if she's off, she told me that she wasn't, when I knew she was. Days after this, I had a conversation with another co-worker which is her friend, and told her about my passion with psychology and self-help. Basically displaying high-value for myself, which she might've passed onto the girl that I'm into. Because from here on, the girl I'm into was showing more signs of interest, also tries to make me jealous by talking to other guys and looking at me. I then approached her at the end of work and got a lot of positive reactions from her, and she also seemed like she wanted to hang out because she was letting me know that she was off. But I didn't take the opportunity and just left home. After this, kept moving the interaction forward again. I also try making her jealous talking to other girls as well. We sometimes sort of act like we're boyfriend/girlfriend, annoying each other and everything. Then couple days before valentines, I stayed longer after I was off work, just to build some rapport and build up to asking her out again. In a positive tone of voice I asked her to be my valentine and she said "No sorry" in the same positive tone of voice with a smile. She was giving me positive reactions but rejected me. So this was the 3rd time she rejected me, and the situation now is that I'm ignoring her because I'm kind of tired of these games. And she does seem a bit down, now that I'm ignoring her again. I'm just 70% sure she likes me, but that's not enough for me to be sure enough to take the challenge and continue to pursue.

Any advice? I don't know what I should do..

[MonikaBcn]

@7thLetter

Maybe she likes you, but she's afraid that you want something serious and she doesn't want to have any commitments.

Anyways, I assume that you are both adults, so why don't you just aks her what her problem is. I'm sure she will tell you the truth. The question is, can you handle the answer?

[thortho]

She's said "no" three times in the space of what, one year or even less? I'd say it's time to move on.

1 hour ago, 7thLetter said:

Then I basically asked her out again by asking if she's off, she told me that she wasn't, when I knew she was.

How do you know she didn't have any other plans that time? She might've been off from work, but had something else to do.

[Pallero]

Ask yourself if you really want to be with someone who plays these kinds of games (and I mean both her and you). 'Cause the games would continue. Do you want that?

[Blessed81]

At this point you need to do nothing, move on.  If she really does like you she will pursue you from this point esp if your interest stops.  Just act totally not into her and dont even talk to her.  See what she does, if she starts texting again just say it straight up "lets set up a date for drinks". If she says no, tell her you are not interested in friendship and to please let you know if her interest changes.  Then be gone!  There are way to many games played with you guys, youve alredy wasted way to much time with this girl.. Do not waste any more time.  Girls want what they cant have we all do.  So just back off and if she is into you she WILL let you know by reaching out.  You must check out "coash corey wayne" on youtube.  He will help you be much better at handling and understanding situations like this.  He was a real life saver for me.  

[Stef]

Man, I hate when girls do this. I understand the reasoning and it has certain benefits but a lot tend to overdo it. It sparks an interest at first but after a while it gets frustrating and kills off the attraction.

For the love of God, girls...don't do it.

[7thLetter]

Actually, I don't know what i was thinking asking for advice on these forums. It's hard for you guys to realize every single detail of the situation through a small paragraph. Plus I don't know how much experience each of you guys have with women attraction. I pretty much study 'game' and I go out, approach girls in public and apply the info that I learn. And like I mentioned, hot girls seem to tend to play harder to get than average girls, this chick is an 8.5/10. They know game. She ain't makin' it easy if she's got other options. Anyways enough of that, but I'll go ahead and do as I feel, I'd say she's worth it to give up my abundance of being able to approach and meet any girl in public.

Thanks anyways guys! 

[SenshiAna]

1 hour ago, 7thLetter said:

(...) this chick is an 8.5/10. They know game. She ain't makin' it easy if she's got other options.

@7thLetter, she may have other reasons to be playing hard to get. I was [still am?] in a similar situation with a friend, though he never asked me out. I am very into him, and I have been like this ever since when he started making obvious he was into me. Nothing happened between us and it hasn't to do with the fact of me being playing hard to get just for the pleasure f playing games with another human being or because I have other options.

I have blocks on my road, I have a past with men trying to take advantage of me, and I have a history of giving too much too soon. I suffered from it, I cried my heart out and I promised to myself I would take things easy when falling in love.

So probably this girl is giving you mixed signs because she may be trying to read you too, or she is trying to make you reach a point in the attraction building where she can feel safe enough to give herself. Anyway, all of this can be settled for both sides (because I also get you and your desperation) with a honest conversation between you two. 

 

Edited February 19, 2016 by SenshiAna