How To Handle A Break Up?

[Argue]

Today me and my girlfriend broke up. We had a lot of disagreements and fought everyday. She was dominating, controlling, and manipulating. She cheated plenty of times and I'm  the sucker to always take her back. If anyone has any tips on how to move on and forget about someone, please don't be afraid to talk to me. Thank you. 

Edited February 18, 2016 by Argue

[Lynnel]

 

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Watch some more of them once you feel like you need to keep going

[Truth]

Well, I could tell you move on, never go back to her, because honestly that's the best option to what it sounds like.

But I know how hard that can be, I also see it in my friends, going back to their ex, no matter how much they fight, how much they "talk it out". The truth is you have to learn how to love someone, you have to learn how to keep your girl, you have to learn how to talk to your girl, you have to find out what makes her happy, and more deep you have to know what you like and how to keep yourself happy, and be a man and know when enough is enough and have the courage to cut things off if its the best for both of you.

Usually we just wing it and think it's gonna be okay. But honestly this shits like gravity, you're gonna feel needy or she's gonna feel needy, she'll be available, you'll hit her back up or she will then "work it out" and your right back in it.

You honestly have to learn to "escape the atmosphere" if you know what I'm saying. If you have a friend that can help you stay away, all the better, because you'll be slowly drifting towards her without even realizing your doing it.

Because the way I see it with most people, is their relationship has literally crashed and burned like a plane crash and there they are deciding whether to pick up all the pieces of the plane to pick it up and put it back together. And most people spend their lives doing just this. 

Move on is a complete understatement. and its one of the most hardest things anyone can do or has the courage to do. 

Don't go back to the plane crash man. This will be so much better for your happiness, your courage and personal growth.

You can't put a plane back together if you don't have the right tools. and you don't.

 

Edited February 19, 2016 by Truth

[Van]

Release any strong emotions you may have (pain, resentment, anger, etc.). Even cry if you have to. Just let it all out.  
Now find what you enjoy; start setting goals and taking on new hobbies.

This will sound cliché but true: life is too short to be living in the past. You have your whole future to look forward to, and make that a bright one. Stay strong.

Edited February 19, 2016 by Van

[Argue]

@Truth @Van

thank you guys. That's a deep analogy (plane crash). I can't allow myself go back to that. I agree with life is too short to live in the past. I'm 24 and getting older. I can't live my life anymore helping her selfish agenda. I'm so disappointed at myself tho for wasting all these years. I gave up college for that b**tch 

[Blessed81]

The videos and info above are all great.  I recently went through the same thing and i find it a perfect time to go full blast with my self mastery stuff and job.  I am trying to learn how to be happy alone at the moment and it is going pretty well.  Keep your faith and stay strong, and most importantly, move on... 

[Truth]

2 hours ago, Argue said:

@Truth @Van

thank you guys. That's a deep analogy (plane crash). I can't allow myself go back to that. I agree with life is too short to live in the past. I'm 24 and getting older. I can't live my life anymore helping her selfish agenda. I'm so disappointed at myself tho for wasting all these years. I gave up college for that b**tch 

Remember it's both of your faults, not just hers but yours too. There's no point in placing blame on yourself or her and thinking about the past, the only thing you can get from the past is a lesson. So take this lesson and just let it go man. This isn't a bad thing, this could very much be a good thing. but whether you believe it's a bad thing or a good thing is up to you. choose good, you'll be way, way, way better off. If you choose bad, you'll have a lot of unnecessary suffering.