Sexual Drive And Success

[Himanshu]

There seems to be a direct relationship between the libido of a person and their overall success in life. This is important to mention that in an experiment conducted on mice, male mice had a diminished libido when constrained to only one partner. This aligns with what Leo mentioned in his video: Masculinity vs Femininity. That is, males have a biological need of having multiple sexual partners(MAYBE, that just comes from the natural requirement to pass on the genes - the more partners, more probable it is that the genes are passed on).

Is being sexually restricted by society a possible reason for men settling in life for what they have and not growing themselves?

Having said that, I have observed that the lives of most successful & creative people are filled with multiple romances and marriages. Popular examples include Einstein, Salman Rushdie and John Berger. This seems more apparent for people in creative fields. Is there a link between sexual drive and creativity? 

What is your take on this?

[Prabhaker]

34 minutes ago, Himanshu said:

Is being sexually restricted by society a possible reason for men settling in life for what they have and not growing themselves?

Do you find Mahatma Gandhi, Swami Vivekananda, Atal Bihari Vajpayee, Narendra Modi successful or not ?

[Loreena]

There is also  a link between  madness and  creativity.  They didn't  coin the term ' mad genius ' for  nothing.  

[Himanshu]

26 minutes ago, Prabhaker said:

Do you find Mahatma Gandhi, Swami Vivekananda, Atal Bihari Vajpayee, Narendra Modi successful or not ?

I did mention 'by society' . Let me explain the difference: There are people who would like to engage in sexual activity given the moral conditions are lifted. In a typical family in India, if the father even expresses interest in another female outside of the family; it is considered immoral, and most fathers would never even mention that to anybody. That's why porn works; that's why prostitution works; because nobody gets to know. 

Mahatma Gandhi, Swami Vivekanada, Narendra Modi(and we can include Tesla), these people have surpassed sexual needs, so to speak.  Maybe they never had a lot of sexual need in the first place, but they are rare, and if you believe in multiple births, maybe these people grew out of sexuality in their previous lives. But the majority have sexual needs until they surpass it. I'll rephrase my question:

Is sexual repression(inflicted by self or others), a major reason for the inability of people to truly engage in personal development?

 

29 minutes ago, Loreena said:

There is also  a link between  madness and  creativity.

Sure is; but that's entirely another topic.

[Prabhaker]

1 hour ago, Himanshu said:

There seems to be a direct relationship between the libido of a person and their overall success in life.

New York Homeless Man Sleeps With 156 Women a Year

 

[Himanshu]

@Prabhaker Will you try to consider the perspective I'm taking here and stop bullshitting with exceptional cases?

[Prabhaker]

19 minutes ago, Himanshu said:

Will you try to consider the perspective I'm taking here and stop bullshitting with exceptional cases?

Can you give examples/study to prove 'direct relationship between the libido of a person and their overall success in life' ?

Edited July 15, 2017 by Prabhaker

[Prabhaker]

5 hours ago, Himanshu said:

I have observed that the lives of most successful & creative people are filled with multiple romances and marriages. Popular examples include Einstein, Salman Rushdie and John Berger.

There are millions of people having multiple romances and marriages , nobody knows about them.

[wavydude]

Yes, from my experience there is strong corelation between sex drive and drive for sucess with translates to sucess. 

Isn't it kind of obvious.

Edited July 15, 2017 by wavydude

[Himanshu]

44 minutes ago, Quantum Mike said:

Porn doesn't work at all. It makes people lethargic stupid and desensitized. 

Porn is one of the biggest industries in the world right now. 28,258 users are viewing porn every second.

 

45 minutes ago, Quantum Mike said:

It's put into society (the same as the recreational drugs) to suppress people 

Put into society? By whom?

2 hours ago, Prabhaker said:

Can you give examples/study

There you go:

SPIEGEL ONLINE: Those in positions of power have sex with the secretaries; they assault hotel maids, or at least are accused of such, and sleep with the nanny. Is there a normal percentage of oversexed people among powerful men, and it's just easier to notice their lapses, their misconduct, because they are so visible?

Van der Dennen: Both may be true. Powerful men have a both an overactive libido as compared to 'normal' men, but they are also more willing to gamble that they can get away with their sexual activities whenever and wherever. Power is a great aphrodisiac, as Kissinger said. Powerful men almost automatically expect other people to do their bidding. Sex is just part of that game. Powerful women also have larger-than-average sexual appetites.

Source: http://www.spiegel.de/international/world/sex-and-power-powerful-men-have-an-overactive-libido-a-765316.html

Another : http://www.businessinsider.com/great-entrepreneurs-have-one-thing-in-common-huge-sex-drive-2010-12?IR=T

 

This one suggests that sexual abstinence during teenage years doubles the chances of someone graduating from college. Interesting.

http://www.heritage.org/education/report/teenage-sexual-abstinence-and-academic-achievement

[Loreena]

1 hour ago, Himanshu said:

Porn is one of the biggest industries in the world right now. 28,258 users are viewing porn every second.

 

Put into society? By whom?

There you go:

SPIEGEL ONLINE: Those in positions of power have sex with the secretaries; they assault hotel maids, or at least are accused of such, and sleep with the nanny. Is there a normal percentage of oversexed people among powerful men, and it's just easier to notice their lapses, their misconduct, because they are so visible?

Van der Dennen: Both may be true. Powerful men have a both an overactive libido as compared to 'normal' men, but they are also more willing to gamble that they can get away with their sexual activities whenever and wherever. Power is a great aphrodisiac, as Kissinger said. Powerful men almost automatically expect other people to do their bidding. Sex is just part of that game. Powerful women also have larger-than-average sexual appetites.

Source: http://www.spiegel.de/international/world/sex-and-power-powerful-men-have-an-overactive-libido-a-765316.html

Another : http://www.businessinsider.com/great-entrepreneurs-have-one-thing-in-common-huge-sex-drive-2010-12?IR=T

 

This one suggests that sexual abstinence during teenage years doubles the chances of someone graduating from college. Interesting.

http://www.heritage.org/education/report/teenage-sexual-abstinence-and-academic-achievement

It's quite normal to expect this. It does not show any correlation between the two because it could even imply that all men have the same level of strong desire, the only difference being that powerful men get easy access to it as compared to others and since they are powerful they don't have to worry about the consequences of their promiscuous behavior. 

It also shows complacency and carelessness in behavior when a person attains fame and power. 

The other thing it possibly implies is the routine abuse of power that often powerful people engage in and is not very uncommon. Most powerful people tend to abuse or misuse their power to get benefits or gains, in this case more romantic encounters and sexual opportunities.

[aurum]

@Himanshu

It's an interesting thought. Napolean Hill talked about it in Think and Grow Rich.

Personally I'm not convinced. I've just seen too many counter examples of low-achieving guys that get laid all the time.

[Deep]

On 7/15/2017 at 3:56 AM, Himanshu said:

Is being sexually restricted by society a possible reason for men settling in life for what they have and not growing themselves?

 Is there a link between sexual drive and creativity? 

What is your take on this?

I don't think men are sexually restricted. I think men (and women) are culturally restricted. Culture affects our mind. The body and mind are connected. If culture says have one partner, the body/mind will try to do what is "respectable". We don't want to be seen as less respectable, right? Human relationships are more complex than animals because they don't have an ego. If animals feel like mating they just do it.  

Human males have to be good at interacting with the opposite sex. They have to have game to get laid. Some rich men have game and some don't. Some poor men have game and some don't. A high libido doesn't guarantee sex. I don't think the desire for success is correlated with gaining more sex partners. I think people want success because they have to survive. An asexual person can be very creative and successful. 

Edited July 19, 2017 by Deep
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[Deep]

@Himanshu Success requires logic, planning, and hard work. Sex requires turning the mind off. Success is based on mental capacities more than a physical act (unless your job is physical). Libido is something we feel in our bodies (erections). A person with a high libido can be poor because of previous qualities I mentioned.

Personally, I can be satisfied with 1 woman my whole life. If I have to sex with more, I can be satisfied with that too.