How To Make Willpower Work

[gogoladze1929]

you maybe have seen tons of videos about willpower(including Leo's) and tried to develop it and it did not quite worked or it sometimes works, sometimes it does not, but you have no way of making it work all the time, like being in full control of ones behaviors, having full self-control.

reason is everybody misses the point.
the point is: human behavior is not based only on rational decision (you cant just say i will meditate for 10 hours a day and the do so)
the thing is human behavior is based  on the emotional power.(that explains why some people do crazy things that does not make sense)
but to make willpower work we need to combine these two.
 

for this one we will need a clear definition of- willpower:(power to follow ones intention)

so to make it work we will need to get 3 things down, will(rational decision) and power(emotional power)

the main reason you cant make willpower work is:

• you are not aware or don't truly believe(you are full of doubts) in your intention(will).    
• you don't posses enough energy(power) to do it.
• and you don't know how to do it.

to achieve complete self control we must learn generate those things by ourselves, they should not happen outside of our consciousness.

1. how to generate intention: this process is mostly intellectual, requires thinking, basically its what you want, you should make your intention clear , you must not have doubts. the complexity,simplicity,value and beauty of ones desire is based of persons awareness of the life and universe, how much he knows and understands the life and universe and the way they work. for me its 'do something the humanity needs the most' 'love of music' 'being grateful for being alive' so on...
2. how to do it:  this one requires imagination and creativity which is based on the same: deepness of awareness the person possesses.
3. how to generate energy:  once you know what and how to do it now you need to know why(reason) to do it. you literally have to sit down and think of a (strong,clear, no doubts) reason to do something until you generate  sufficient energy/emotion/power to do it (now this is very hard to do and needs to be practiced). you have to learn emotional control and take it to the next level  so you are  able to create strong emotion by just thinking.(it requires strong visual concentration)
    

so to make willpower work you have to be aware of:

• what to do
• how
• why

there shall be no doubts about any of listed above and reason should be sufficient to generate strong emotion to allow you do to.(things which usually are very hard to do)

one more thing:  we often forget, we need to practice self-remembering. eventually you will forget the reason you do something and that's why mostly it fails. things is you have to keep remembering every single time you forget why you do things the way you do them. until it becomes part of you like language you speak.

 

 

Edited July 7, 2017 by gogoladze1929

[Visitor]

There is a myth that one needs to will-the-power throughout the goal one wants to achieve. That sounds similar to forcing oneself to do something they don't want to do (self-enslavement). But that would be insane, because nobody does anything they really don't want to do, unless forced to by other than self. So we have something we want to do, but there is something stopping us to do it.

For example, I want to get out of the house and ride my bike, but the weather is cold and windy. It seems that the obstacle is the bad weather, but is it? Why not dress to suit the weather conditions, that should solve it. No? Then what is really stopping me? It's stepping out of a warm home into the cold windy weather in the first place!

So all I need is the willpower to step out into the cold and start cycling. That is less than five minutes of willpower required to initiate the action I wanted to do anyway. So, by the time I am a few blocks away from home, wearing warm clothing, and enjoying the ride. And, to my surprise, no longer needing to utilize willpower.

Most actions and behaviours, once initiated, start to run on their own purpose and desire.

[gogoladze1929]

@Visitor
i want to point out importance of having reason.

I want to get out of the house and ride my bike, but the weather is cold and windy.

they way you are right now. sitting in the warm house feeling nice and well  and feel comfy -- you are getting some level of enjoyment.
the only possibility of you getting out of the warm, comfy house into windy and cold weather to ride  the bike is , if you truly believe that the level of enjoyment by doing so will be higher.

i believe that willpower is a concept where you give yourself a reason strong enough to do something you would not normally do because its pain in the ass otherwise.

as i said earlier. thoughts evoke emotions, emotions evoke actions. to perform such 'unpleasant' action you need emotion, and emotion might not always happen by itself, but you can create your own consciously. 

if the outer world is the one who evokes emotional power in you, you are the machine that has no will. but if you learn to create energy(emotional power) by yourself you will achieve self-control.

even to do self-development you need reason, if you did not believe that your quality of life will improve from 0 to 1 000 000 by doing so and you think it won't do any good for you, you would not do it. but you have belief that it actually works and you have your reasons,  profs and your own experiences to support it.

if there is no sufficient reason do to something you would not do it. 

 

Edited July 9, 2017 by gogoladze1929

[SOUL]

On 7/7/2017 at 7:36 AM, gogoladze1929 said:

to achieve complete self control

[Joseph Maynor]

Visualize starting the project.  Create a list of 10 things that you will gain by starting the project and completing it.  This will increase your optimism regarding the task.  Contemplate the suffering you are causing yourself by not doing it.  Contemplate how you have overestimated the size of the fear or pain that is standing in your way of you beginning the project.  Break down the task into small bite sized pieces.  Strategize and write the steps down on index cards and lay these cards down into a sequence or straight line.  Throw each card away as you complete each sub-task. Don't beat yourself up, calm your self down and give yourself some love before starting the task.  Get into a flow state as quickly as possible regarding the task so your whole being just does it mindlessly. Do some affirmations like "I'm always taking action".  "I'm always taking action".  Utilize the 5 minute rule.  If you have a project that is causing you resistance, spend 5 minutes on it everyday.  That will get you over the hump of the resistance.  Once you get over that hump, flow with it and just ride that wave.  The task will take care of itself.  Use a timer!  5 full minutes, don't cheat -- everyday.  Often what blocks willpower is initial resistance to get started.  That's the secret to willpower, getting over that initial hump.  That's what I've tried to give you some tools to use for here.  It works for me.

Edited July 9, 2017 by Joseph Maynor

[gogoladze1929]

@Joseph Maynor you should take evolution into account. that kinda ritual will work only for small simple projects. and result will have little value.

the more knowledge and awareness you seek the stronger the mental suffering you have to go through with.
and further you go (through evolution of mind) old ideas,rituals,beliefs  become of less value and importance, you start to seek freedom, something new that works better then previous ideas .
and some people are not ready to trade that kind of suffering for knowlidge because they don't understand the value of it.

 

[gogoladze1929]

@SOUL you have to consider and accept limitations. 
i mean complete self control within your limitations as being.
 

[Joseph Maynor]

@gogoladze1929 This advice is more for the newbie to intermediate personal development person.  Advanced advice runs on a different paradigm entirely.  Without enlightenment experience, advanced advice falls on deaf ears. You appear to be advanced from your comment.  In that case, yeah what I said might seem to apply only to the kiddies.  But you gotta start somewhere.  What I posted is how I did it in my beginner/intermediate  stage.  Enlightenment work, or advanced personal development, puts you in a totally different paradigmatic bubble.  But it takes a few years to become advanced.  People  need personal development training-wheels in the meantime.  That's what I posted.  A hack, as I like to call it.  A temporary fix.  So, yeah, it's not permanently sustainable.  But it gets you moving.  Enlightenment reveals that all obstacles are illusory.  Willpower is also illusory and therefore moot.  

Edited July 9, 2017 by Joseph Maynor

[gogoladze1929]

@Joseph Maynor

i observed what causes the particular human behavior.

point i want to make is source is not the rational decision but pure emotions such as courage, hatred, love and where are those emotions concentrated. ( not many agree on this but i have my experiences as proof for myself)

the biggest suffering human can have is feeling of being machine. when the body and the mind does not take instructions from you.

i have explained in my way how to deal with that problem ( the way i make it work)

id like to ask your personal opinion about topic
- do you think is not true(its bullshit), sounds good but does not work, its to complex, hard to understand ,not helpful enough or maybe it lacks something?
 

[Visitor]

2 hours ago, gogoladze1929 said:

@Visitor
i want to point out importance of having reason.

Thanks. That is true, that reason drives a person. Usually the reason is either fear or love based.

My previous post was to explain that willpower ought not to be considered as something that is needed throughout the goal, but only to initiate it. Many people do not realize that and give up before even trying.

[gogoladze1929]

@Visitor fear and love indeed is important factor, but interest is most powerful which does not last long, but its read deal. 
when one starts self-actualization it is based on pure interest, because you fucked up in life and now you wonder if it might work, but soon after if you wont develop lets say 'love' (i prefer appreciation/gratefulness)  towards self-development and evolution (because it makes you better person and makes life more valuable), it will fade away.

[Joseph Maynor]

@gogoladze1929 The problem is is that there is no you.  Wu wei is the only sustainable solution to obstacles.  Embracing the Tao.  Just watching reality move.  And raising awareness.  Will power is non-sustainable because it is an egoist concept.  There is no you to control.  So control is an egoic illusion too.  There is no you, no willpower, and no control.  What you are is outside of space and time.  Reality arises out of you, and any sense of identity you may have is a thought mistakenly construed as an aspect of reality. 

Edited July 9, 2017 by Joseph Maynor

[gogoladze1929]

@Joseph Maynor i conceptualize what i can observe. this in not philosophical concept, it's a psychological concept. concepts only have value if they can be 'translated' from fiction to reality. 
when you say there is no you, no willpower, no control it's same as when someone says: there is no spiderman , no batman,  no superman, 
they don't exist in reality but they exists in fiction/inner world/conceptual world and they serve as communicators of real world.

there's no point denying existence of what does not exists.
but if you deny their usefulness, you would be lying yourself.

[Nahm]

You can do anything. 

Don't listen to anyone, listen to the God within.