Emotional Detachement

[Angelique]

I'm just going to ask this as there are no stupid questions. I keep it short and simple but I really struggle with this question. 

How to be emotionally detached from people? 

 

[How to be wise]

There are a lot of ways, but the book 'Loving what is' by Byron Katie will show you in a very practical way how to detach from all people and situations, no matter how bad! 

[Angelique]

Thank you

[phoenix666]

I struggled with this a lot in the past (and I still am..) But I noticed it getting better the more I turn inwards and do meditation work. 

[Nahm]

@Angelique First, stop referring to this as "being emotionally attached to other people". That is a perspective rooted in victimization. You're talking about this as if it were something happening to you. It's not. It's something you are doing and have been in control of the whole time. Start referring to it as "I am focusing on how I feel about other people and how they feel about me". 

Second. Stop focusing that way. Start focusing on how you feel. Notice how thoughts make you feel good or bad. Apply resolve in letting go of the bad feeling thoughts and focusing on continuing to choose thoughts that feel good. 

Meditate for at least 20 minutes every morning. Stop bullshitting yourself about meditation. Keep returning your focus to your breath. After just a few days, you will stop the momentum of this way of thinking and thus allow yourself to choose to repeat positive thoughts about yourself and your future. It is as if you have been on a train, meditation stops the direction of the train so you can pick a new direction. This can not be understood until you experience it, so have some reasoning and faith and get started. 

[Angelique]

@Nahm thankyou for the advice, I made a screenshot of it so I could read it again when I put myself in this position. Have a great day!

[Nahm]

@Angelique You got this. The universe is in you. No better partner!