Is That A Belief Of My Subconcious Mind Or A Normal Reaction ?

[mariustuhut]

When someone tells me i'm worthless( for example my boss) even if he's joking, that provokes me anger and sadness. I'm conscious of that in that specific moment but I can't control my reaction. Well I don't express my self in that moments but it makes me very anxious and sad after that. Is that a belief of my subconscious mind( I am worthless) or it's a normal reaction ?

Or this depends on who makes that statement about you? For example if the statement comes from other people I don't care.

 

P.S: This channel literally saved my life

 

 

[egoeimai]

This is a deep rooted belief.

[Nahm]

@mariustuhut That is a reaction that was learned. Think of meditation as a way to let go of being reactive. When someone says something like that to me, I honestly have no personal reaction. I see that they are expressing the way they choose to see things. It has nothing to do with me. 

[Shin]

19 hours ago, mariustuhut said:

 

Or this depends on who makes that statement about you? For example if the statement comes from other people I don't care.

 

Even from your dad/mother or someone who has autority in your family ?

What about your friends/wife/girlfriend ?

Edited June 13, 2017 by Shin

[Pallero]

@mariustuhut It's a belief and it makes you feel bad, because you know that it's not true.

Which is a very normal reaction. Who wouldn't feel sad while thinking "I am worthless"? It's not a very happy thought.

If you let go of the belief, you no longer react negatively if someone calls you worthless.

[mariustuhut]

My boss ( maybe because I'm also paranoid sometimes). Maybe 1 or 2 friends still believe this about me. It's because I changed a lot in this last year after I found actualized.org. And some of them still don't want to see the change. But I think depends on who does this statement even if it's a joke. If you asked this question now I remember my dad also said this to me when I had bad grades. So this could be a factor too.

[Pallero]

@mariustuhut I have found the childhood experience to be the biggest factor.