Making Friends.

[The Monk]

Hey Guys and Girls, 

recently, I've been losing a lot of low consciousness demotivated friends who are actually motivated by selfish desires. So I'm basically here to make so new friends. If any of this stuff resonates with you let me know and maybe we can get to know each other, motivate each other, aid one another, and enjoy each others company. 

Who Am I? 

I can't really tell you who I am till I really know you on a deep level like with some of my other actualized friends, sorry but it's just because of the toxic and dysfunctional people I'm surrounded by in real life, and to be honest I would like get punished for going on this path, but I'm my own man and I'm here to greet ya'll.

What I can tell you though, is that I'm a sixth form school student(kind of like a high school student for those of you from the US)  at the age of 18.  Throughout my life I've been bullied from the age of 10-18, but to be honest with you at the age of 8 I was a bully and I did terrible things. The subjects I study for my A levels are Economics (love it), History (love it), and Politics (Don't like it so much now that I've realized what it does to people and how most people act whilst supposedly studying Politics, even though that's the subject I'm best at .  Also I'm a boy. 

Things I like

• Walks with Nature. 
• Walks with Friends. 
• Learning new things about self- development, and having wonderful insights into how I can improve myself. 
• Socializing ( Having trouble with this though, I'm become an introvert, because of my past) 
• Going to the Gym. 
• Eating healthy. 
• Motivating others. 
• Learning new things about the human body and how it functions and how to maximize and unlock its full potential.
• Martial arts (huge fan of Bruce Lee)
• Playing Video Games (occasionally)
• I also like Dogs (I'm not allowed to have one, but since I like walks I thought that maybe it would be fun to have someone with me)
• Helping others.
• Praying.
• Anime. 
• Music.
• Excellence, and determination.
• Brutal Honesty and Feedback to better myself.
• Trying out new things.
• Mediation.

Things I don't like or don't like to associate myself with.

• Doing any Drugs. 
• Being around Negative people or Depressed people or violent  and or abusive people. 
• A Liar. 

What are my achievements?

• Some level of control over my emotions. 
• Having a few insights from meditation.
• Passing all my GCSES.
• Recently winning an award for huge amounts of determination and ambition. 
• Gaining immunity to most criticisms.

What am I currently working on?

• My A levels. 
• Healing my inner self. 
• Loving and caring more for others by doing consciousness work.
• Getting rid of addictions. 
• Eliminating toxic and neurotic people from my life. 
• Becoming better at social interactions and with girls. 
• Learning to overcome loneliness.

If any of these things resonate with you, I'd be happy to chat with you. Then, we can determine whether or not we can become friends. 

 

[Will]

My answer is only relevant to me and I am expressing how this question makes me respond.. I in no way think I understand anything or have any truth.. I just like writing a response for myself...

It may not help to restrict your options.. by labelling people.. there are separate distinct parts of you.. the part that wants to do well in life and the other existential part. we probably should not apply the same rules to both..

when you label something good or bad.. you restrict it.. your basically telling the universe you understand how things work and know what you think is good,,,, better than it does..

Good luck with that.. we dont and cant.. the best we can ever do is try and be open to whatever happens in the moment and do the best we can with that...

It sure feels like we can predict with some certainty, but its the mind and body which is trying to do this.. Not the existential you..

It is weird to see people doing there own version of life,, but its cool.. its not something we need to correct.. It may help even to find it really interesting at how people go about doing this unconsciously.. a lil bit hilarious even.. but its just another opportunity to enjoy life and not take anything too seriously..

 

That feeling of wanting similar friends is normal but its not really that conscious... we dont and have never needed friends or similar people.. In fact its a sign we are trying to find validation.. Our brains hate not knowing how life works.. so it actively seeks out validation.. But we now know better.... being open and accepting we know nothing about our existential self opens up so many more possibilities.. help us to be more in the moment and accepting of whats is...

 

I would suggest that you can get more benefit from treating each and every person in your life like you have never met them before and they are brand new.. forget there past... Its tough i know ,, but thats exactly why we do this.. you really dont want to be surrounded by people that agree with you... its limiting.. Its far more interesting and expanding to learn how to better be yourself around those with differing view points..

In the past we have been afraid of the affect people will have on us and they may drag us down.. In fact this work is trying to get us to see that if done properly people cant affect us and we can respect them and be unconditional ....