How To Dissolve Ego Which Results Fear ?

[Dharam]

I want to dissolve my ego which causes fear in me  s such as  fear if failure , fear of loosing relationship all the fears . I just want be detached from the ego , fear . please advise the best meditation , mindfulness 

Thank you 

[egoeimai]

Oh! The biggest challenge in humanity maybe! I guess....changing your beliefs from the core.

[Prabhaker]

@Dharam

It is the belief that failure exists. Failure only exists because you have a perceived expectation of yourself, because of a projection manifested within the future; and then, inevitably, disappointment will manifest within and as yourself because you didn't live up to your expectations and failed according to a belief within yourself; and then, the being disappointed within yourself because you didn't fulfill what you projected into the future of what is there to be fulfilled.

Buddha was a failure in the eyes of his friends, family, wife, father, teachers, society – he was a failure. He had become just a beggar. What type of success is this? He could have been a great emperor: he had the qualities, he had the personality, he had the mind. He could have been a great emperor but he became a beggar. He was a failure – obviously. But I say to you he was not a failure. If he had become an emperor then he would have been a failure because he would have missed the real life. What he attained under the Bodhi Tree was the real and what he lost was unreal.

If you want to succeed in the unreal then follow the path of those who are working in cunningness, cleverness, competition, jealousy, violence. Follow their path, the meditation is not for you. If you want to enter into meditation, accept fears and failures.

[strwbrycough]

There is no need to transcend
what has no meaning for you. Throw it all into the fire..

[Deep]

@Dharam Your problem is low self-esteem. There are two types of egos: healthy and unhealthy. The healthy ego loves itself and is confident. The unhealthy ego is low in confidence and self-esteem. The healthy ego is easier to dissolve. You have a long way to go before dissolving your ego. How can you love God if you don't love yourself? You can't. 

[Nahm]

@Dharam Fear is literally just your thinking. Anything but changing your thinking is procrastination to changing your thinking. If you want help accomplishing this, utilize the internet (videos). Just get listening to things, you thoughts will follow. And of course, meditate on letting the old thought patterns go. JUst let them go. 

[Shin]

Face your fears, that's the only way anything can be transcended, everything else is pure delusions.

[Stoica Doru]

Would you dissolve your own child, shame him, beat him, start a conflict with him? If not, STOP trying to do that with the ego. People should just start loving themselves and accept their unresolved issues yet, rather than trying to hide everything under the rug, or dissolve a part of themselves which is divinity and innocence in its nature. You're more likely to try to dissolve your taste, it'll be more effective.

Ego needs love, not escapism through the searching of greedy experiences, which is still the ego trying to fly to a "better" place, not realizing that enlightenment is right here, not anywhere else. 

Edited May 20, 2017 by Stoica Doru