How do you think people perceive you?

[Schizophonia]

🤔

My mentor, Franck Lopvet, believes there's a big difference between what people think they are and how they actually look. This is especially true in countries where people are very polite and reluctant to give feedback, such as those in Central, Northern, and Far Eastern Europe.

1) What energy do you consciously want to release?

2) Do you suspect that you emit energies involuntarily, but that others don't dare or don't think to tell you?

3) Would you like others to give you feedback? Even if it's violent?

[Sugarcoat]

Life just gets so much easier when you don’t care what people think and just are yourself

[Schizophonia]

4 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

Life just gets so much easier when you don’t care what people think and just are yourself

I know, but I like psychoanalysis and social sciences so I'm interested.

 

[Schizophonia]

13 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

Life just gets so much easier when you don’t care what people think and just are yourself

I think if I let myself go I would be less bawdy, "funny" in general and drier.

I would eat less food, and dress in typical "manly" black shirts or clothes.

 

I could very well live alone in a small country house or a studio, with a cat, a pack of cigarettes, and spiritual books.

Edited April 13 by Schizophonia

[Sugarcoat]

10 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

I know, but I like psychoanalysis and social sciences so I'm interested.

 

I understand . My comment wasn’t directly directed at you, just a thought about people in general

[Sugarcoat]

5 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

I think if I let myself go I would be less bawdy, "funny" in general and drier.

I would eat less food, and dress in typical "manly" black shirts or clothes.

 

I could very well live alone in a small country house or a studio, with a cat, a pack of cigarettes, and spiritual books.

If you “let yourself go” means what?

[Schizophonia]

3 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

If you “let yourself go” means what?

If I were less insistent on wanting to please, for fear of losing people i'm close to.

 

 

[Schizophonia]

11 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

I understand . My comment wasn’t directly directed at you, just a thought about people in general

Oh oki.

 

[AION]

12 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

If you “let yourself go” means what?

What others think is not that important. Just imagine lived a whole life, laying on your death bed and thinking how you wasted your life lol.

[Schizophonia]

5 minutes ago, AION said:

What others think is not that important. Just imagine lived a whole life, laying on your death bed and thinking how you wasted your life lol.

Luckily God created psychedelics for that eheh.

[Yimpa]

Just be yourself!

 

 

[Princess Arabia]

I think people perceive you according to the relationship you have with that person, the idea they have of you and what they want or don't want from you mostly in terms of expectation. The same person's mother will perceive them differently than say that person's friend or lover; not because the person is different, but because of the reasons I stated above. We even look at strangers in a way relative to the circumstances in which they appeared in our experience. For example, a female appearing before a man's eyes who is attracted to her will be seen differently by another guy who is not attracted to her. If she appeared in a bar, she'll also be perceived differently than if she were in a mall or library. Nothing changed about her appearance but where she appeared made the difference. 

That's usually how people perceive you. You need do nothing, just appear to them in situations and circumstances that they already formed an opinion about. 

[BlueOak]

However they feel about that part of themselves that you represent to them.

The amount of comments on one side of myself I put forward, or a role I undertake on a particular day might as well be infinite. Its interesting working in a small town, as I see enough people but not too many to remember, and while I am in that role, say in customer service, supportive friend, tennis player, shopper etc I can easily see regular patterns from people I see a lot. From avoidance to a want to engage further with me or to get to know me more when I am in that pattern.

But the deeper truth I suppose, is how I perceive what they perceive and express about me, how I frame it and its meaning. I'd still only be reacting to myself in the mirror.

Edited April 13 by BlueOak

[BlessedLion]

“Reputation is how other people perceive you, Character is how perceive yourself. You can fool others, you can’t fool yourself”

 

-John Wooden 

 

Aka- As long as you are doing your best, staying in line with your highest values and living authentically- who cares? 

[UnbornTao]

The trick starts with differentiating between:

1. how you want to see yourself
2. how you see yourself
3. how you think others see you
4. how you want others to see you
5. how you are actually seen by others

Or something along those lines -- I might tweak the list further.

Edited April 14 by UnbornTao

[Carl-Richard]

Here is a story: I tend to go to the gym late and generally have to rush to get out on time before the gym closes.

One day, I was just about to leave within the last minute of closing but I had to pick up some piece of fruit I had dropped down to the floor underneath, and I quickly asked the staff for permission if I could run down and quickly get something, and they responded kindly with "of course". I felt like I came off like a caring and conscientious person.

The next week or so, just before closing again, I was about to start my last set but I noticed I had been looking at a clock on the wall that was running approximately 3 minutes too late, and when I decided to do the set, the time was just seconds past closing. So I finished the set with tremendous effort and gusto, probably so that all the staff could hear me. I ran down the stairs to get my stuff from the locker and ran back up to wish the staff goodbye. Then the girl behind the counter (very young and probably under pressure from her father or boss standing next to her) said "we closed 4 minutes ago 😒". And I was currently in a rather aggressive state of mind and you could probably hear it in my voice and the way I was moving, and I thought I must have come off like this kind of arrogant, blunt, "thinks he is tough" kind of guy while I was like "sorry yes, it became a little late" in a semi-pissed off voice. And I'm still planning to tell the staff that they have to fix that clock because I felt offended by that.

So how you come off to other people can be very up to the particular circumstances they meet you in.

Edited April 14 by Carl-Richard

[Sugarcoat]

9 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

If I were less insistent on wanting to please, for fear of losing people i'm close to.

 

 

Ok understood. 

[Schizophonia]

5 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

Ok understood. 

🤖

 

[Schizophonia]

8 hours ago, Carl-Richard said:

Here is a story: I tend to go to the gym late and generally have to rush to get out on time before the gym closes.

One day, I was just about to leave within the last minute of closing but I had to pick up some piece of fruit I had dropped down to the floor underneath, and I quickly asked the staff for permission if I could run down and quickly get something, and they responded kindly with "of course". I felt like I came off like a caring and conscientious person.

The next week or so, just before closing again, I was about to start my last set but I noticed I had been looking at a clock on the wall that was running approximately 3 minutes too late, and when I decided to do the set, the time was just seconds past closing. So I finished the set with tremendous effort and gusto, probably so that all the staff could hear me. I ran down the stairs to get my stuff from the locker and ran back up to wish the staff goodbye. Then the girl behind the counter (very young and probably under pressure from her father or boss standing next to her) said "we closed 4 minutes ago 😒". And I was currently in a rather aggressive state of mind and you could probably hear it in my voice and the way I was moving, and I thought I must have come off like this kind of arrogant, blunt, "thinks he is tough" kind of guy while I was like "sorry yes, it became a little late" in a semi-pissed off voice. And I'm still planning to tell the staff that they have to fix that clock because I felt offended by that.

So how you come off to other people can be very up to the particular circumstances they meet you in.

You are right, I am talking about recurring impressions.

Edited April 14 by Schizophonia

[Sugarcoat]

The thing is that every person that meets you is going to have their own individual impression/image/idea of you, that will be affected by their own belief system, self-image, biases. And you have your own biases, beliefs, that will affect your self image. So the key is seeing yourself without bias, to see yourself objectively. That is hard because we desire a good self image so that can affect us in how we perceive our “flaws” or we have the opposite bias where we are attached to a negative self image (like oh poor me etc) so we might bring down our positive sides. It can be a challenge to view yourself objectively it requires great self awareness and a genuine interest in the truth about yourself 

Ms “obvious” here she goes again

Edited April 14 by Sugarcoat