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[NewKidOnTheBlock]

@Lucasxp64 It is kinda difficult to build good insta, you know, for you to be able to add good photos you need to have some life in the first place, a lifestyle worthy of taking photos off. And you need to somehow build your followers. But that's still fine, what's actually bad is that on these apps you are constrained and forced to play these stupid games such as who ghosts who, are you texting too much, etc. But the fundamental problem is that people can ignore you or text you 300 years later. You don't encounter these issues in real life

[BlessedLion]

On 4/4/2025 at 7:50 PM, MsNobody said:

@BlessedLion definitely, I think a relationship should make your life easier and not more difficult but at the same time I think romantic relationships are one of the best mirrors to shape and see ourselves, so it’s quite challenging and requires effort like everything in life. We are in a fast food society, we have way too many options and we want things really fast, so most people run away from relationships because they don’t want to look at themselves and do all the work. 
 

I lived with a nun for 3 years, she always told me that meditating all day was easy, to go to the ashram and be there with the monks was easy. The difficult thing is out there, in society, dealing with people, that’s where the work is. It’s easier to love things, cats, dogs, cats and objects. It’s difficult to love people, to deal with them. 
 

Think that you are a man in an island, if you are all by yourself, would you care shaving your beard? Would you care having manners? Would you care how you look? We can only mold and recreate ourselves in relation to others, all relationships shape us, but romantic ones in specific are those mirrors that we hold very close to our face, where we can see all your imperfections, the deeper the relationship the more things are revealed. The loner life tends to be easier.

When Michelangelo sculpted David, he said that the took out of the block of marble everything that wasn’t David, and a good partner will do the same thing to you, they will hold a vision of your best self, call you out on your bs, they can see your potential and the real you, they won’t accept any less. I think that is the reason most people decide to be alone, because in a way is too difficult. 

But in the bigger picture, God, the universe or whatever you call it, will place you in the relationships that you can grow the most, if you are not growing and expanding together, it’s not useful for the whole. 

Thanks for sharing! I do appreciate your metaphors and shared examples, it brings a better context for your points. 
 

Overall I agree with you on this, but recently I’ve found there doesn’t need to be so much “challenge” and “calling out of bs” 

 

Im dating a woman now and it’s changing how I view relationships. She is like my supporter and biggest fan, rather than someone challenging me, because I do that to myself enough. I don’t need my Woman being over my shoulder constantly testing and challenging me like that. For example I am working on quitting adult content, and had a slip up recently, I was drowning in guilt and shame and told her honestly about it and she just held me lovingly about it and it was super healing. If she was like “this is the LOWER you, step up!” I’d have felt even worse. Now I’m porn free and crushing life, because she’s such a fan. 
 

That’s awesome you lived with a Nun, and I totally agree with her pov. These days I feel so much annoyance with certain groups of people and their insane political views, it’s very tough to feel love for people, especially when they are just causing destruction and suffering. Dogs are much easier  

 

Agree with you about us shaping ourselves only in relation to others. And if I was a man on an island I’d probably love it haha. But ya I get your point. It’s like David Deida speaks about how we can only meditate so much until we face life and bring our center there while sharing our gifts, much more challenging. 
 

Last thing I’ll leave is around the Michelangelo example, why do we need another to sculpt us or see the best in ourselves? 🔥❤️

Edited 1 hour ago by BlessedLion