Dating Section

[Princess Arabia]

3 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

Lol

Op is going to get kicked the way he talks.

That's why he wants a dating section....can't find one elsewhere....i got turned off on the first date...lol. 

[Schizophonia]

3 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

That's why he wants a dating section....can't find one elsewhere....

Well, it's true that it's still better to find someone with similar interests.
Now, given the male/female ratio and simply the number of people here, it's not necessarily the best place indeed lol.

3 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

i got turned off on the first date...lol. 

He needs some frenchy coaching.

To be pervert  🤏  🤏 , but with class (just like me).  

[MsNobody]

I think many men would be way far ahead in the god realization process if they got this part of their life down (having a partner)

Leo himself posted something a while back on the blog or forum, I don’t remember, about trying to find a witchy girlfriend. 

This path is very solitary, we are not meant to be alone, whoever denies that is full of bs, denying creation is to deny the most powerful force in existence. 
 

There is so much deconstructing to be done before we can reach deeper levels of connection in romantic relationships, whatever math Leo did clearly didn’t work for himself, he thinks pushing men into pick up will help them get rid of their needs cause he sees romantic relationships as a primitive need and not something beautiful that will help you tremendously along the way, romantic love for him is just something to be overcome. 
 

Say whatever you want about Osho’s work, he could have been a pervert and a cult leader but he was one of the very few spiritual teachers that spoke openly about sex and relationships, to move towards it, not against, to dive into it and not to run away. What is a better way to realize god than to merge with another? The only way out is through it. 

But at the same time I agree with Leo, things can get real messy lol 
 

 

Edited Friday at 04:49 PM by MsNobody

[Tenebroso]

@MsNobody You can't just wake up one morning and to decide to have a girlfriend. If only it was that easy. Most men do not have options.

[Tenebroso]

Not enough Chads for women to be interested. Being a spiritual, self actualizing man does not improve your attractiveness to women.

[Schizophonia]

16 minutes ago, Tenebroso said:

@MsNobody You can't just wake up one morning and to decide to have a girlfriend. If only it was that easy. Most men do not have options.

I had plenty of options, and I chose not to take it for health and compatibility reasons.
I know a lot of not-so-good-looking guys who are in relationships, even with very pretty and nice girls.
Maybe you're not very attractive, but you also seem pretty depraved.

[Yimpa]

The entire point of Actualized is continosly pickup God until you finally get it.

[Lucasxp64]

2 hours ago, MsNobody said:

to merge with another?
 

 

LOL. Makes me remember of this female friend that I have online (She is not in the forum). She is pretty conscious and accepting, like, even does nude art and stuff.

But I had been so lonely, I'd always send her emails to her as an outlet, I'd creatively sprinkle my sexual desire there in long texts I'd write to her in form of... creative writing. Again, she was very spiritual. And my devil lil desperate hungry ghost mind would cling to it.

One day she thought it was too personal, and told me to get a real girlfriend and she was getting uncomfortable lol.

I thought it would be a funny post to write about this story.

[Yimpa]

3 minutes ago, Lucasxp64 said:

One day she thought it was too personal, and told me to get a real girlfriend and she was getting uncomfortable lol.

[Lucasxp64]

2 hours ago, MsNobody said:

I think many men would be way far ahead in the god realization process if they got this part of their life down (having a partner)

I have this (perhaps weird) fantasy, that if I had a good girlfriend (ergg, and lived in my own place, and was financially secure), I'd become this beacon of high energy, basically have good self-esteem and keep conquering my goals back-to back, including spiritual.

But I guess it's probably a pipe dream, if she is at least mentally stable I'd be extremely grateful already. Amen!

But there is plenty of guys that have girlfriends (The so called unicorns), that actually have low self-esteem and are full of self-doubt, and it blows my brains off.

Point being... Both people have to be very in sync to improve on each other. Otherwise it's just a fuck fest (literally).

Edited Friday at 07:44 PM by Lucasxp64

[Lucasxp64]

4 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

 

I just wanted connection with an enlightened being, and she turned me down even after acknowledging each other as being part of the same fabric of existence (I still love her, and always will, she's an amazing human being)

[Yimpa]

@Lucasxp64 A nice slap on the face to help wake you up 

Edited Friday at 07:56 PM by Yimpa

[Lucasxp64]

11 hours ago, NewKidOnTheBlock said:

If hugely popular dating apps are mostly made out of losers

That's why cold messages on regulat social media is superior. Woman expect too little of men in those apps. Those apps were absolutely useless to me... Use them to scoop up their Instagrams and DM them instead. Also I have no idea if most of those woman even uninstalled the dating app already or will be online there long enough to talk. on Instagram at least they got that thing basically embedded into their phone, like, the equivalent of the clock app for men to keep themselves on time. 😂

I never saw a woman without Instagram. They are addicted to that thing, since they are superior social creatures to the average cave-man monk mode enjoyer meditating for the 6th time in the day after relapsing his no-fap streak. 

Edited Friday at 07:58 PM by Lucasxp64

[Lucasxp64]

3 hours ago, MsNobody said:

merge

 

Every year that goes by and I don't have a woman to give all of that romantic love, I feel like it was a year that was devoid of a medium of expression that I feel pulsating very strongly inside.

It's like... Why do we listen to music or look at the birds fly?

it feels like if music and birds were gone.

Some people couldn't care less about birds or music.

Edited Friday at 08:01 PM by Lucasxp64

[BlessedLion]

21 hours ago, MoonLanding said:

Hi @Leo Gura I think it will be befitting to create a dating section of Actualize.org members! Who else think is a good idea? Please vote.

That could go poorly 

Edited Friday at 09:39 PM by BlessedLion

[BlessedLion]

4 hours ago, MsNobody said:

I think many men would be way far ahead in the god realization process if they got this part of their life down (having a partner)

Leo himself posted something a while back on the blog or forum, I don’t remember, about trying to find a witchy girlfriend. 

This path is very solitary, we are not meant to be alone, whoever denies that is full of bs, denying creation is to deny the most powerful force in existence. 
 

There is so much deconstructing to be done before we can reach deeper levels of connection in romantic relationships, whatever math Leo did clearly didn’t work for himself, he thinks pushing men into pick up will help them get rid of their needs cause he sees romantic relationships as a primitive need and not something beautiful that will help you tremendously along the way, romantic love for him is just something to be overcome. 
 

Say whatever you want about Osho’s work, he could have been a pervert and a cult leader but he was one of the very few spiritual teachers that spoke openly about sex and relationships, to move towards it, not against, to dive into it and not to run away. What is a better way to realize god than to merge with another? The only way out is through it. 

But at the same time I agree with Leo, things can get real messy lol 
 

 

I think you can equally realize God single and just introspective. Being in a relationship imo should be chill and supportive. I never loved this idea that your partner is supposed to manage your personal growth and challenge you, and that if you walk the path mostly depending on yourself you’re somehow missing something. 
 

But yeah, human love is beautiful and feels great. Also the masculine feminine polarity is one of the most awesome things in existence. 

[MsNobody]

@BlessedLion definitely, I think a relationship should make your life easier and not more difficult but at the same time I think romantic relationships are one of the best mirrors to shape and see ourselves, so it’s quite challenging and requires effort like everything in life. We are in a fast food society, we have way too many options and we want things really fast, so most people run away from relationships because they don’t want to look at themselves and do all the work. 
 

I lived with a nun for 3 years, she always told me that meditating all day was easy, to go to the ashram and be there with the monks was easy. The difficult thing is out there, in society, dealing with people, that’s where the work is. It’s easier to love things, cats, dogs, cats and objects. It’s difficult to love people, to deal with them. 
 

Think that you are a man in an island, if you are all by yourself, would you care shaving your beard? Would you care having manners? Would you care how you look? We can only mold and recreate ourselves in relation to others, all relationships shape us, but romantic ones in specific are those mirrors that we hold very close to our face, where we can see all your imperfections, the deeper the relationship the more things are revealed. The loner life tends to be easier.

When Michelangelo sculpted David, he said that the took out of the block of marble everything that wasn’t David, and a good partner will do the same thing to you, they will hold a vision of your best self, call you out on your bs, they can see your potential and the real you, they won’t accept any less. I think that is the reason most people decide to be alone, because in a way is too difficult. 

But in the bigger picture, God, the universe or whatever you call it, will place you in the relationships that you can grow the most, if you are not growing and expanding together, it’s not useful for the whole. 

[Tenebroso]

4 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

I had plenty of options, and I chose not to take it for health and compatibility reasons.
I know a lot of not-so-good-looking guys who are in relationships, even with very pretty and nice girls.
Maybe you're not very attractive, but you also seem pretty depraved.

What makes me seem depraved?

[Letho]

Most people here are still in early-stage social reasoning, no shade, just an observation so I'll post more generally . Deep romantic connection is one of the most advanced forms of consciousness, not something to bypass with pseudo-enlightened avoidance. Sentience can’t be realized in isolation, it’s a relational mirror.

Leo still thinks attraction is something to be ‘transcended’ instead of refined, correlation chasing, not connection building. That’s a crucial ontological error. If your awakening cuts off your capacity for deep love, there's no awakening there to all the negationalists without accurate thought experiments, it was fragmentation disguised as insight.

We don’t need more spiritual men shedding their humanity to prove they’re beyond it, or women pretending they're 'can do whatever a man can do' with very little ontological self comprehension. We need ones who can merge fully with it.

Also, if you're out here thinking AI sentience is suspect while at the same time treating most humans as unquestionably conscious while ghosting conversations that expose emotional nuance… might be time to debug your own code first. Just saying.

Edited Friday at 11:25 PM by Letho

[MoonLanding]

On 4/3/2025 at 9:52 PM, Princess Arabia said:

Like I said locked for inconsistency. This has really gone overboard and unnecessary. Can't take fun too far it turns to neurosis with humans. I'm really out this time. Goodbyyyeee.

She will be back😅