Conservative parents are difficult to have a relationship with

[Daniel Balan]

@Twentyfirst Bro! What do you want me to do? Go to my mom and ask her to make me cookies? If they ever need help with something I will help them. I just don't want to speak to them the same way you don't want to hang around bums. I feel like I communicate too much with them I will become a dumb right winger. And that is the only reason I avoid talking to them. Plus I was never the kind of guy who likes to bother people unnecessarily. I don't like to talk that much. I'm a very quiet and I like to be a loner. I avoid people in general. 

[Elliott]

1 hour ago, Twentyfirst said:

 

Not all people but your long term acquaintances or parents. Kids are biologically hardwired to seek approval from their parents even if their parents are disrespectful 

That's feminine, Immature. Definitely not "enlightened" like you imply.

Do you just sit there and listen to your parents? Why?

Is that why you denigrate people on the internet, to get out the repressed rage and shame?

You should just tell your mom the truth, man. That's why you were so triggered by this topic. Buddha says the only way to repay your parents is by getting them to enlightenment, not by babying them. Being soft like that isn't always a good thing.

 

 

 

 

Edited Thursday at 07:32 PM by Elliott

[Twentyfirst]

16 hours ago, Daniel Balan said:

@Twentyfirst Bro! What do you want me to do? Go to my mom and ask her to make me cookies? If they ever need help with something I will help them. I just don't want to speak to them the same way you don't want to hang around bums. I feel like I communicate too much with them I will become a dumb right winger. And that is the only reason I avoid talking to them. Plus I was never the kind of guy who likes to bother people unnecessarily. I don't like to talk that much. I'm a very quiet and I like to be a loner. I avoid people in general. 

BRO! This was your original message

"Tell them to their face to FUCK OFF. And never talk to them ever again. That's what I did to both my mom and my dad. I told them to their face that they are way too backward and too religious and conservative for my tolerance. I said to my father that he is a stupid ape and to my mother I said that I wipe my ass with her religious bullshit. I always respected them but I told them time and time again to stop preaching to me Christian Orthodox Religious indoctrination. But they would not have it. And one day I decided to cut ties with them forever. IDGAF if they are my parents! I have my limits and I will not allow anybody to take me for a fool. "

I just don't think that is a wise thing to do. Do whatever you want if you are someone to refuse authority of your parents then why would you listen to an internet stranger. I don't care that much to explain it all to you. Maybe you are right and I am wrong

[Twentyfirst]

16 hours ago, Elliott said:

That's feminine, Immature. Definitely not "enlightened" like you imply.

Do you just sit there and listen to your parents? Why?

Is that why you denigrate people on the internet, to get out the repressed rage and shame?

You should just tell your mom the truth, man. That's why you were so triggered by this topic. Buddha says the only way to repay your parents is by getting them to enlightenment, not by babying them. Being soft like that isn't always a good thing.

 

I love how you went into my post history to find arguments with zionists or things about Andrew tate. The mark of a fool is having to smear someones history rather than the argument at hand

It sounds like you are the one heavily triggered fella. You got issues. Try another 10 years of paid therapy (that therapist also is fucked up in the head btw). Where I am from we speak to our grandparents, uncles/aunts, parents when we have issues not some random stranger who wants a repeat client

By being awakened near your parents your mere presence unlocks knots of their ego you doofus 

Edited Friday at 10:52 AM by Twentyfirst

[eliasvelez]

Hey my dad is not nessecarely a conservative but he also has limited and closemindet perspectives. It was very difficult for me the since I was a kid because my father comes very fast to his emotional limits and its very rare that I feel I have a connection with him that is not superfical. The last years I tried to build a deeper connection but it just hurt me. I now realize that my father has this limits for a reason and its not personal. My approach would be that you accept the limits of your father, dont take it personal and meet him at this level. If you wish or expect that he behaves different than who he is, you just will be disappointed(For example with my father. He rarely gives recognition for something im proud of and very fast turns it and makes it about himeself. Ist like I want to tell him about somethin, after 2 minutes of beginning, he interuptes and makes it the next 20 min about himeself… as an example). I now just dont expect much intimacy or connection with him and enjoy our superfishal connections and if I dont want to talk with him I just leave and since then I feel more love for him because everyone has his/her limits, and his are just very fast found. Like with a pet. You know that a pet has limits. you would be forever frustrated with that pet if you expect it to talk… but when you accept the pet with its limits(that it cannot talk) you love the pet how he is. 

Edited Friday at 11:29 AM by eliasvelez

[Daniel Balan]

@Twentyfirst My message was to not take shit from anyone. Regardless of who that someone is. You do what you want with your life I do what I want. If I knew I would have to over explain myself for every little comment I make I wouldn't have expressed my opinion on this matter.

[Elliott]

5 hours ago, Twentyfirst said:

I love how you went into my post history to find arguments with zionists or things about Andrew tate. The mark of a fool is having to smear someones history rather than the argument at hand

I never mentioned zionism or anything adjacent. This topic really has you triggered and frazzled doesn't it? You're the one that said you followed Tate when I asked, I haven't seen you post about him. 

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It sounds like you are the one heavily triggered fella. You got issues. Try another 10 years of paid therapy (that therapist also is fucked up in the head btw). Where I am from we speak to our grandparents, uncles/aunts, parents when we have issues not some random stranger who wants a repeat client

Maybe that's why your culture is dominated by masculine cultures. You wouldn't have to beg masculine cultures for mercy if you would have your boys grow in to men. I've never done therapy, I'm a man I don't go to my mommy when I have issues,  that would be an embarrassment, 

This softness you promote might not be the virtue you think.

 

 

 

 

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By being awakened near your parents your mere presence unlocks knots of their ego you doofus 

Awakened master, please, more wisdom.

Edited Friday at 04:02 PM by Elliott

[Elliott]

5 hours ago, Twentyfirst said:

BRO! This was your original message

"Tell them to their face to FUCK OFF. And never talk to them ever again. That's what I did to both my mom and my dad. I told them to their face that they are way too backward and too religious and conservative for my tolerance. I said to my father that he is a stupid ape and to my mother I said that I wipe my ass with her religious bullshit. I always respected them but I told them time and time again to stop preaching to me Christian Orthodox Religious indoctrination. But they would not have it. And one day I decided to cut ties with them forever. IDGAF if they are my parents! I have my limits and I will not allow anybody to take me for a fool. "

I just don't think that is a wise thing to do. Do whatever you want if you are someone to refuse authority of your parents then why would you listen to an internet stranger. I don't care that much to explain it all to you. Maybe you are right and I am wrong

Bro, he wasn't asking for a therapy session from you. Some people aren't here looking for random strangers unsolicited advice. In our culture people like to think for themselves.

Edited Friday at 04:13 PM by Elliott

[Nemra]

23 hours ago, Twentyfirst said:

The people who run away from toxicity are actually the most likely to get trapped into toxicity. They are also the least likely to see the toxicity within themselves. Compared to someone who is less impulsive and less judgmental and more accepting of human behavior. Whatever you resist persists. There is some truth to the whole you deserve better thing only problem is that truth is hijacked to make a quick buck off you and all of a sudden you didn't do anything wrong, they are the devil, and cutting ties from them will create a utopia 

I see that you want to have children. When you have them, send them to the most toxic people out there. Let's see how it'll go.

Or maybe go live with toxic people and be dependent on them. Don't resist.

[Twentyfirst]

1 hour ago, Elliott said:

I never mentioned zionism or anything adjacent. This topic really has you triggered and frazzled doesn't it? You're the one that said you followed Tate when I asked, I haven't seen you post about him. 

Sorry it was @Nemra who mentioned something in my post history. I confuse you all for the same whining kid

I never said I followed Tate. Everyone in this forum knows about Tate because he got billons of views

1 hour ago, Elliott said:

Maybe that's why your culture is dominated by masculine cultures. You wouldn't have to beg masculine cultures for mercy if you would have your boys grow in to men. I've never done therapy, I'm a man I don't go to my mommy when I have issues,  that would be an embarrassment, 

What in the hell are you talking about? 

1 hour ago, Elliott said:

This softness you promote might not be the virtue you think.

Ah Jordan peterson. Ultimate failed father. Look how his daughter turned out! Didn't she cheat on her husband with Tate and then turn the kids against him? Didn't he get like a million face surgeries because of her insecurities? Where was her father to protect her from all that?

1 hour ago, Elliott said:

 

 

 

Awakened master, please, more wisdom.

Read the enlightenment teachings and awaken yourself. Wait let me guess you need another 20 years on the path lmao. This stuff is like power of now level of knowledge. Beginner shit you should already know

[Twentyfirst]

1 hour ago, Elliott said:

Bro, he wasn't asking for a therapy session from you. Some people aren't here looking for random strangers unsolicited advice. In our culture people like to think for themselves.

I don't care. I still think it's a bad thing to do. Shame me all you want

You don't think for yourself. You think OF yourself

[Twentyfirst]

17 minutes ago, Nemra said:

I see that you want to have children. When you have them, send them to the most toxic people out there. Let's see how it'll go.

Or maybe go live with toxic people and be dependent on them. Don't resist.

The world is filled with positivity and negativity. Fight it if you want

[Elliott]

45 minutes ago, Twentyfirst said:

 

Read the enlightenment teachings and awaken yourself. Wait let me guess you need another 20 years on the path lmao. This stuff is like power of now level of knowledge. Beginner shit you should already know

My mom says not to read that stuff.

She takes me here, teaches me about Jesus, and meth.

 

Edited Friday at 05:55 PM by Elliott

[Nemra]

1 minute ago, Twentyfirst said:

The world is filled with positivity and negativity. Fight it if you want

It's not about loving to fight and more about having boundaries towards toxic people, which will result in conflicts as they don't care about your boundaries.

You can't always tolerate people who don't tolerate you. You would have to be in a position that they could not affect you in a huge way.

Also, the thing is that delusions pass from parents to children, and as an adult, you would most likely have a lot of toxic behavior, but it'll be normal to you. So the problem is more complicated.

[Twentyfirst]

2 minutes ago, Nemra said:

It's not about loving to fight and more about having boundaries towards toxic people, which will result in conflicts as they don't care about your boundaries.

You can't always tolerate people who don't tolerate you. You would have to be in a position that they could not affect you in a huge way.

Also, the thing is that delusions pass from parents to children, and as an adult, you would most likely have a lot of toxic behavior, but it'll be normal to you. So the problem is more complicated.

Everything is toxic in this soft therapy culture. Everything is an offensive attack. You'll all grow up one day and see how foolish this all is

[Twentyfirst]

3 minutes ago, Elliott said:

My mom says not to read that stuff.

She takes me here.

 

 

You are the one on an enlightenment forum without any knowledge of even basic laws of awakening 

[Nemra]

17 minutes ago, Twentyfirst said:

Sorry it was @Nemra who mentioned something in my post history. I confuse you all for the same whining kid

😂

I brought that example that you would understand better. It seems you can't.

[Twentyfirst]

2 minutes ago, Nemra said:

😂

I brought that example that you would understand better. It seems you can't.

You don't have to explain it to me. I already understand it. I just don't agree with it

[Nemra]

2 minutes ago, Twentyfirst said:

Everything is toxic in this soft therapy culture. Everything is an offensive attack. You'll all grow up one day and see how foolish this all is

It's about seeing the truth. You just can't handle.

[Schizophonia]

Why not just get a job and get your own place?
That way, you can interact with your parents from time to time, and at the same time, you can spend your life with people who are more in tune with you.

As far as I know, no one here has been regularly beaten up with a belt. There comes a point where you have to forgive people for their stupidity or what you consider disturbing; we're always someone's shit.

I'm going to have children. Maybe I'm more of a sociopath than many people here because I'm a conservative french country sick, but they'll bear it, and at least I'll produce love.

Edited Friday at 05:42 PM by Schizophonia