Conservative parents are difficult to have a relationship with

[Lyubov]

13 hours ago, Consept said:

It could just be an issue with boomers, if you think of the cultural and technical revolutions that have occured during their adult years its actually incredible, so there is a massive difference between them and say millennials or gen z in the way they think. This isnt to say its all of them but I think it would take a lot to keep evolving and understand the new generations. Also things like the way we talk and understand mental health, which was almost non-existent in their times. Of course this is always an issue in terms of older generation being able to relate to younger generations, but I think it just seems more pronounced now because of the changes in society, whereas the last few hundred years there have been changes, but if you look even from 1990 til now its only 35 years but the world is completely different, im not sure that rapid a change has ever been seen before. 

Yes, this definitely is part of it. I think this may be one of the reasons there is a such a disconnect between generations these last several decades. We just see the world so differently. I wonder what a few generations from now will think as well? It’s so easy to see our beliefs as some truth about reality when they are just like sunglasses which can be taken off in an instant. The thing is I don’t want to bridge this at all, he is a miserable person to talk to and my energy only goes so far.  

12 hours ago, Basman said:

Have you tried talking to him about it? Just telling him that he's being annoying? Maybe he doesn't realize how he comes off.

Yes, every single person in the family sees him this way even my mom but she loves him and the odd thing is she is much more stage green, votes blue, quite liberal. Yet she makes a relationship work with him. I don’t not understand this. My dad is a miserable and controlling boomer conservative who is unsupportive of me. I just accept this, which is a bit of a hard pill to swallow sometimes for my inner child, but I know god is in me Andy true value so I allow myself to align with this and know regardless of my relationship with him I’m still valuable and life is beautiful. 

11 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Yeah. That's how many Blue parents are. They are a different generation, not this New Age hippie crap. They have pretty simple minds.

The funny thing is my dad was a hippy, I swear to god. He was born in 1950, went to Woodstock, smoked pot, protested the Vietnam war and studied to be an artist. He even did LSD a few times if I’m not mistaken. Thinking though old stories he told me about himself and how he used to live life,  he used to be more moderate by comparison to now, he was more open minded. Somewhere along the way he shut down. He’s not like a totally miserable person but he is not pleasant to be around, very difficult to relate to and have a relationship with when literally every conversation culminates in something about Trump, or immigrants, or guns or some typical conservative fixation. He has talk radio blasting all afternoon. It’s not exactly possible to enjoy a relationship with a person like this even if they are your parent, it’s reality 🤷‍♂️ 

Edited Tuesday at 09:49 PM by Lyubov

[Twentyfirst]

On 3/31/2025 at 5:06 PM, Daniel Balan said:

Tell them to their face to FUCK OFF. And never talk to them ever again. That's what I did to both my mom and my dad. I told them to their face that they are way too backward and too religious and conservative for my tolerance. I said to my father that he is a stupid ape and to my mother I said that I wipe my ass with her religious bullshit. I always respected them but I told them time and time again to stop preaching to me Christian Orthodox Religious indoctrination. But they would not have it. And one day I decided to cut ties with them forever. IDGAF if they are my parents! I have my limits and I will not allow anybody to take me for a fool. 

That's too far bud. Maybe when you grow up you will see how foolish you have been

[Twentyfirst]

On 4/1/2025 at 8:09 AM, Lyubov said:

Why is this though? I noticed this as well with certain old people from certain countries. Just insufferable. 

Boomers were called the "me" generation. Everything is about me me me

They were raised by the best generation ever. Somehow the lessons didn't get passed down for a full integration 

Then the boomers raised millennials who are raising gen z...it's a mess

[Elliott]

1 hour ago, Twentyfirst said:

That's too far bud. Maybe when you grow up you will see how foolish you have been

You condemn Guatama Buddha and Abraham for doing the same thing as well?

 

 

 

Edited Wednesday at 11:46 AM by Elliott

[Daniel Balan]

1 hour ago, Twentyfirst said:

That's too far bud. Maybe when you grow up you will see how foolish you have been

Foolish? I'm 25! I did that when I was 20! And I never regretted it once. The only thing I regretted was not cutting ties with them sooner. 

[Schizophonia]

On 01/04/2025 at 7:13 AM, Lyubov said:

Have you spoken to the average Trump supporter? They will find a way to mention politics or how the USA isn’t great no more almost every single day. 

There's the same thing on the left too.

[MarkKol]

Not to mention the generational difference in humor, laughing at a 50-year-old man's joke is a real challenge. They all seem to laugh at their gen's jokes though...

Terrifyingly unrelatable, even Leo is horrifyingly unfunny

[Schizophonia]

1 hour ago, MarkKol said:

Not to mention the generational difference in humor, laughing at a 50-year-old man's joke is a real challenge. They all seem to laugh at their gen's jokes though...

Terrifyingly unrelatable, even Leo is horrifyingly unfunny

I have a similar sense of humor to my parents and Leo, and so do my friends.

[Basman]

21 hours ago, Lyubov said:

Yes, every single person in the family sees him this way even my mom but she loves him and the odd thing is she is much more stage green, votes blue, quite liberal. Yet she makes a relationship work with him. I don’t not understand this. My dad is a miserable and controlling boomer conservative who is unsupportive of me. I just accept this, which is a bit of a hard pill to swallow sometimes for my inner child, but I know god is in me Andy true value so I allow myself to align with this and know regardless of my relationship with him I’m still valuable and life is beautiful.

Maybe she doesn't have complaint about your dad like you do because she has different needs relative to your dad. It sounds like you yearn for your dad's respect and support.

[Lyubov]

6 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

There's the same thing on the left too.

I’m not saying there isn’t any nut jobs on the left but this is a false comparison. Right wing brain rot and conservative ideologies are far more combative, oppressive and destructive to relationships, people and the planet by a wide margin compared to the nut jobs on the left

36 minutes ago, Basman said:

Maybe she doesn't have complaint about your dad like you do because she has different needs relative to your dad. It sounds like you yearn for your dad's respect and support.

Well yeah, of course. Like every child deep down wishes from their parents. But I’ve accepted I won’t get that from him nor should I build my life or perspective around being reliant on my dad’s support or approval (or anyone for that matter). He’s stuck in his ways and no amount of talking to him will change that. He has to want to change himself if he wants to change, all I can do is accept life for what it is. 

Edited Wednesday at 09:33 PM by Lyubov

[Schizophonia]

14 minutes ago, Lyubov said:

I’m not saying there isn’t any nut jobs on the left but this is a false comparison. Right wing brain rot and conservative ideologies are far more combative, oppressive and destructive to relationships, people and the planet by a wide margin compared to the nut jobs on the left

 

Mirror effect/projection.

[Twentyfirst]

12 hours ago, Elliott said:

You condemn Guatama Buddha and Abraham for doing the same thing as well?

 

 

 

Toxic bully parents? You are too soft. They need to bring back the belt in homes and schools 

[Twentyfirst]

11 hours ago, Daniel Balan said:

Foolish? I'm 25! I did that when I was 20! And I never regretted it once. The only thing I regretted was not cutting ties with them sooner. 

Only a 20 year old can do something so foolish and only a 25 year old can still think it's clever

[Elliott]

Just now, Twentyfirst said:

Only a 20 year old can do something so foolish and only a 25 year old can still think it's clever

So buddha and Abraham were fools, and you're parent of the year.

[Elliott]

8 minutes ago, Twentyfirst said:

Toxic bully parents? You are too soft. They need to bring back the belt in homes and schools 

8 minutes ago, Twentyfirst said:

 

You seem so wise, or afraid your kids will realize how terrible you are.

More wise advice please.🍿 

Edited Wednesday at 11:24 PM by Elliott

[Nemra]

@Twentyfirst, it seems that you would have been able to live with your parents if they were Zionists who would beat you if you criticized Israel. Stop being a fool and start thinking.

Edited Wednesday at 11:48 PM by Nemra

[Daniel Balan]

9 hours ago, Twentyfirst said:

Only a 20 year old can do something so foolish and only a 25 year old can still think it's clever

I never needed anything from them ever!!  and never asked them for anything. Why would I need some backward boomers in my life? For what? To fill my head with christian garbage from dawn till dusk? I never needed them once in my life and I never will. They didn't even raise me.. I was raised by my grandparents. 

[Twentyfirst]

11 hours ago, Elliott said:

So buddha and Abraham were fools, and you're parent of the year.

What did Buddha and Abraham do? I don't know

I am sure later on in life they realized their mistakes. Not saying that guilt makes any sense though. It's all part of the path

11 hours ago, Elliott said:

You seem so wise, or afraid your kids will realize how terrible you are.

More wise advice please.🍿 

Kids should grow up in a loving home. But if a kid "understands" their parent at a young age it isn't exactly a good sign. A kid should understand a parents lessons later on in life when they grow up and realize the parent did what needed to be done. How the hell is a kid going to know anything anyway?

Edited Thursday at 11:14 AM by Twentyfirst

[Twentyfirst]

11 hours ago, Nemra said:

@Twentyfirst, it seems that you would have been able to live with your parents if they were Zionists who would beat you if you criticized Israel. Stop being a fool and start thinking.

That's a weird thing to bring up. 

There are skillful ways to navigate life and there are unskillful ways. Learn the enlightenment teachings and don't get too sucked into the human drama. Learn to laugh

[Twentyfirst]

2 hours ago, Daniel Balan said:

I never needed anything from them ever!!  and never asked them for anything. Why would I need some backward boomers in my life? For what? To fill my head with christian garbage from dawn till dusk? I never needed them once in my life and I never will. They didn't even raise me.. I was raised by my grandparents. 

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