Conservative parents are difficult to have a relationship with

[Lyubov]

Can anyone else relate to having a conservative parent who is simply just unenjoyable or not relatable?

My dad is in the USA and is conservative (self proclaimed independent) and he is just a very unpleasant person to talk to. Not always but maybe 75% of the time. He constantly references immigrants coming over the border, he wants lots of control, he has a lot of very negative and limiting beliefs. Half the conversations we have end up referencing USA politics in some way. 

He isn’t fun to talk to at all but he isn’t like an entirely rotten person. He does say supportive things about how I live my life and how I enjoy to travel and he has his moments where you can see he’s aligned with the way. 

I got off the phone with him today and I was reminded why I only go back once every other year to visit. On top of that it doesn’t seem like he has put so much care into me coming to visit because he doesn’t have a place for me to stay. I can see now why my girlfriend will have an inner child / ego reaction when I don’t think of her.

I also had a talk with him about my videos and he thought it was cool but he had very cold comments like “so many people are doing it so it’s flooded and difficult, you have to have some other talent than just making videos.” Which I do agree with, many too creators show off some skill they already have or some amazing body they were gifted with which they can then use to sell diets programs. I’m making videos on travel which requires authenticity and allowing stories to tell themselves, you see all the best travel content creators just focus on the people and being genuine and honest about their interactions and just having fun while the videos are sort of an afterthought. 

I think I’m rambling a bit but it’s definitely my inner child. I know I have to love and look after myself when I’m around my 74 year old dad who only sees negative things and rarely acknowledges all the possibilities and the authenticity in taking risks and doing what we are passionate about even when it’s unclear where it will lead us. I do agree with him though, I’m not quitting my day job until my channel is so big I can do it full time. 

Can anyone else relate to this? Having an older parent that is just very closed down and living through all their past problems? I don’t want to live my life like this, I want to embrace each challenge and still keep my joy. 

Edited Sunday at 10:07 PM by Lyubov

[LifeEnjoyer]

@Lyubov For sure man, my dad is actually a liberal but he lives in a constant state of turmoil. It's fucking sad. Same with you we can have some nice convos here and there but overall it's very draining to be around him. He's even been struggling with tinnitus for a long time and when I showed him Leo's possible cures he dismissed it. 

[Raze]

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[Twentyfirst]

It's all boomers not just conservative or liberal. They are the most selfish generation to ever exist. Heavily brainwashed too

[LifeEnjoyer]

@Raze Powerful videos, thank you very much!

[Elliott]

I can't stand to hear any boomers talk, even strangers in public. They need to do testing for lead on dead ones.

[Basman]

What kind of relationship would you like to have with your dad?

[Basman]

I have the opposite problem with my dad. I wish he was a bit harder on me actually. He spoils me too much and it made me quiet soft I think. He is otherwise very understanding but doesn't really push me for success. Quiet hands off. But also out of touch with his problems.

[Daniel Balan]

Tell them to their face to FUCK OFF. And never talk to them ever again. That's what I did to both my mom and my dad. I told them to their face that they are way too backward and too religious and conservative for my tolerance. I said to my father that he is a stupid ape and to my mother I said that I wipe my ass with her religious bullshit. I always respected them but I told them time and time again to stop preaching to me Christian Orthodox Religious indoctrination. But they would not have it. And one day I decided to cut ties with them forever. IDGAF if they are my parents! I have my limits and I will not allow anybody to take me for a fool. 

[Schizophonia]

Political ideology has nothing to do with whether or not it is intrusive.

[Lyubov]

On 3/30/2025 at 9:04 PM, Twentyfirst said:

It's all boomers not just conservative or liberal. They are the most selfish generation to ever exist. Heavily brainwashed too

Why is this though? I noticed this as well with certain old people from certain countries. Just insufferable. 

[Lyubov]

17 hours ago, Basman said:

What kind of relationship would you like to have with your dad?

I’m fine and mostly accepting of the one I have. It would be nice if he were less negative but that is not under my control and I am fine with that. 

[Lyubov]

11 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

Political ideology has nothing to do with whether or not it is intrusive.

Have you spoken to the average Trump supporter? They will find a way to mention politics or how the USA isn’t great no more almost every single day. 

[Consept]

It could just be an issue with boomers, if you think of the cultural and technical revolutions that have occured during their adult years its actually incredible, so there is a massive difference between them and say millennials or gen z in the way they think. This isnt to say its all of them but I think it would take a lot to keep evolving and understand the new generations. Also things like the way we talk and understand mental health, which was almost non-existent in their times. Of course this is always an issue in terms of older generation being able to relate to younger generations, but I think it just seems more pronounced now because of the changes in society, whereas the last few hundred years there have been changes, but if you look even from 1990 til now its only 35 years but the world is completely different, im not sure that rapid a change has ever been seen before. 

[Basman]

4 hours ago, Lyubov said:

I’m fine and mostly accepting of the one I have. It would be nice if he were less negative but that is not under my control and I am fine with that. 

Have you tried talking to him about it? Just telling him that he's being annoying? Maybe he doesn't realize how he comes off.

Edited Tuesday at 09:47 AM by Basman

[Leo Gura]

On 3/30/2025 at 3:06 PM, Lyubov said:

Can anyone else relate to this? Having an older parent that is just very closed down and living through all their past problems?

Yeah. That's how many Blue parents are. They are a different generation, not this New Age hippie crap. They have pretty simple minds.

Edited Tuesday at 09:54 AM by Leo Gura

[UnbornTao]

3 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

not this New Age hippie crap.

[Hojo]

I only visit family when I have to so at Christmas. I get there the first thing my mom do is grab food and sit down. The little dog jumped up and scratched her a little bit and she threw it halfway across the room and screamed at it. My neice turned into  nefew and is a drug addict at 14. The family is screaming about the child in front of them as if they dont exist or only exist as an object to be yelled about, they put headphones in but I know that they can still hear. I have flashbacks of my life within 1 hour and think no one can make it out of this mentally sane? I see these people once a year and instantly dont like it. Both my brothers have totally abandon my entire family including myself to never contact them. My mother has no idea and is so unconcious she dosent know her and her sisters are doing it. They are highly conservative nut jobs as well. Its like they have no idea what their bodies are doing fully asleep, they damage the minds of their children then blame the children.

Covid made my mother into a conspiracy nut she had pages and pages of stats about it and was deciphering it like some sort of code. For a long time she was constantly arguing with me about the stuff and since I am a liberal I have no idea what is really happening. We argue and yell. Whenever I ask for a stat I will look it up and she will freak out if its anything different than what she thinks is true. Then she says this is my truth and I ask why would you want to make this shit up.

I dont nessasarily hold opinions, she thinks she arguing against something I am just wanting to know why she thinks these things and when you try to poke at it, by looking up information, she bursts our in rage and says I am always right, while not trying to be right about anything it just contradicts what I hear.

She says she dosent want to talk about it then brings it up and then says I want to argue. The last time I saw her for the 1000th time she said ukraine was bombing its own citizens and I said I dont think that happened at all and we researched it and learned about russian backed separatists murdering ukraines and she flipped out and yelled at me and condescendingly said you are right you are always right. lol??

She thinks Trudeau was an authoritarian. She also says she wanted Putin as a leader, but somehow hates communism ,as she thought Russia was a communist country. Her own words contradict themselves.

Edited Tuesday at 04:39 PM by Hojo

[Scholar]

Psychedelics can help with this.

[Elliott]

55 minutes ago, Scholar said:

Psychedelics can help with this.

Shrooms in a casserole.