My top advice for those who want to accomplish great things in Life

[Davino]

1. Distraction is your worst enemy.

2. Falling in love with the pain that grows you is the best ally.

This is the efficient way to actualize your ambitions.

Edited Friday at 08:27 AM by Davino

[JosephKnecht]

Can you name some great things in life? 

[Davino]

20 minutes ago, JosephKnecht said:

Can you name some great things in life? 

That's on you. Whatever you value.

Some examples include:

Acing university, building a successful business, having long-term fulfilling relationships, becoming a great athlete, speaking multiple languages etc.

All these require first great ambition and then great work. Key questions in this process are:

What is the biggest obstacle in actualizing your ambitions? Distraction

What is the biggest booster to actualize your ambitions? Falling in love with the pain that grows you. 

Edited Friday at 08:34 AM by Davino

[Davino]

The quality of your decisions is also a central aspect. Decision-making is one of the most serious skills you can develop. CEOs are payed millions just for taking good decisions. I am the CEO of my life.

[Lyubov]

Yes distraction is a big thing and most of it is mental chatter and unresolved issues one is choosing. You got to resolve big picture belief based problems in order to get out of the way and let the way guide you. 

Edited Friday at 09:24 PM by Lyubov

[Davino]

Let the way guide you.

I love that.

Thanks!

[Daniel Balan]

Thank you! Simple advice yet brutally efective! If you can manage to force yourself do the things you need to do you win. Distractions are the biggest problem.

[Nilsi]

I think sticking to the first principle is even more effective. You don’t need to romanticize pain. Pain is a bitch. You just push through it anyway. Because you're in love with your vision. 

To me, that’s a more humane way to face struggle. (But maybe that’s just me.)

Edited Friday at 10:24 PM by Nilsi

[Davino]

@Nilsi I see your point.

I've just had to come to terms with pain because that's my biggest resistance. I want to make great accomplishments in my life but when it becomes too painful then I want just comfort and distraction.

If one faces pain and suffering head on and is able to recontextualize the struggle with love, then one becomes unstoppable.

[Nilsi]

9 minutes ago, Davino said:

@Nilsi I see your point.

I've just had to come to terms with pain because that's my biggest resistance. I want to make great accomplishments in my life but when it becomes too painful then I want just comfort and distraction.

If one faces pain and suffering head on and is able to recontextualize the struggle with love, then one becomes unstoppable.

Fair enough.

But I think it’s a real trap to fall too in love with pain - to the point where you’re just torturing yourself to death because you’ve conditioned yourself to associate pain with success. David Goggins is probably the purest example of that.

[Davino]

10 hours ago, Nilsi said:

But I think it’s a real trap to fall too in love with pain - to the point where you’re just torturing yourself to death because you’ve conditioned yourself to associate pain with success. David Goggins is probably the purest example of that.

Surely you can overdo it and get all toxic about it. Thanks for bringing up David Goggins because it's such a clear example.

But if you notice great leaders, athletes and geniuses, they endured pain up to immense levels. Most people wouldn't be resilient enough to take a 1/10 of that. Of course, everything in excess becomes an imbalance.

What I was trying to point is that pain becomes actually sweet when you know that it's making your dreams come true. Most importantly you train yourself to see it in the moment, while in PAIN. 

Comfort leads to mediocrity.

 

[Norbert Somogyi]

Good points from you all. Purpose and resilience are some of the key factors to accomplish such great things. However I think it is simplistic to approach this question only from the mental side, as taking care of the body is just as important.

I'd like to propose the key role of nutrition in these endeavours. I find it hard to have the energy, motivation, clarity of mind and resilience to tackle whatever challenge life throws at me on my journey, as long as I don't take care of my body first. This does not extend only to physical fitness, but an even more foundational factor, nutrition as proposed above. Ever since I started to take care of my nutrition and biomarkers (especially vitamin D, and other synergistic factors), I have diminished my anxiety and depression. The energy to face life head-on (more like loving it) gives me fuel to look for new domains in life, and the confidence that I can navigate myself through any wave on the ocean. Take care of yourselves and your bodies, as with a weak and fragile body - life will push you down.

[Exystem]

It's a short post but a great one!

Thank you @Davino!

Good reminder

[Applegarden8]

On 3/28/2025 at 10:13 AM, JosephKnecht said:

Can you name some great things in life? 

Putting continuous effort into something.

@Davino I think it's to be healthy and stay healthy by lifestyle choices is the top tip.

Edited Saturday at 11:04 AM by Applegarden8

[JosephKnecht]

On 28/03/2025 at 9:33 AM, Davino said:

Acing university, building a successful business, having long-term fulfilling relationships, becoming a great athlete, speaking multiple languages etc.

They all sound like distractions to me. 

[Davino]

3 hours ago, Norbert Somogyi said:

I'd like to propose the key role of nutrition in these endeavours. I find it hard to have the energy, motivation, clarity of mind and resilience to tackle whatever challenge life throws at me on my journey, as long as I don't take care of my body first. This does not extend only to physical fitness, but an even more foundational factor, nutrition as proposed above. Ever since I started to take care of my nutrition and biomarkers (especially vitamin D, and other synergistic factors), I have diminished my anxiety and depression. The energy to face life head-on (more like loving it) gives me fuel to look for new domains in life, and the confidence that I can navigate myself through any wave on the ocean. Take care of yourselves and your bodies, as with a weak and fragile body - life will push you down.

True. Holism might be an important factor as well, all sides must be considered. That includes, body, mind, consciousness, society etc.

[Davino]

26 minutes ago, JosephKnecht said:

They all sound like distractions to me. 

What is meaningful to you?

I'm interested to know. Is it writing?

Edited Saturday at 12:46 PM by Davino

[JosephKnecht]

1 hour ago, Davino said:

What is meaningful to you?

I'm interested to know. Is it writing?

I am not the one proselytizing on how to live a great life. 

Before you give great advice, you should know what great is. 

Stop distracting me.  

[Davino]

2 hours ago, JosephKnecht said:

I am not the one proselytizing on how to live a great life. 

There are principles to life and how reality works.

It's like you're telling me I'm convenceing people about gravity, I'm just saying, hey notice gravity, it's happening.

2 hours ago, JosephKnecht said:

Before you give great advice, you should know what great is. 

In the human domain greatness is a relative endevour and there's a beauty to that. Each individual finds inspiration in some aspects of reality and not in others. When a grand vision comes the process of actualizing it becomes greatness by itself.

I'm not claiming to have the best advice, just sharing useful principles that can benefit people and in fact have made an impact in fellow members.

Again, I'm curious to know your perspective. What constitutes greatness for you? I would love to know that, maybe I'm losing something important here.

2 hours ago, JosephKnecht said:

Stop distracting me.  

Don't give your power to distractions.

[integration journey]

Short and sweet. Thanks