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[Emerald]

@NewKidOnTheBlock Hey! I was reading through this thread, and I found my name!

I get that it's not fun to have something pointed out about yourself that's a "flaw". 

But victim's mentality will genuinely bring your life down in so many ways.

So, it's actually good to become conscious of it if there's a patterns of feeling like "'x group' is responsible for my unhappiness"... regardless of of whether x group is men, women, construction workers, or furries. etc.

It's a subtle way of offloading both personal responsibility and personal power... and then getting to wallow in self-pity because "the villain group is causing me strife."

But it just steals your power from you... and it will make it harder for you to connect with people if you're seeing others as the villains of your story.

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

@Emerald I do tend to avoid responsibility, that much is true. But I think most responsibility is just BS someone else enforced upon us and doesn't actually benefit an individual in any specific way, I tend to view the word "responsibility" as something rather repulsive and something to stray away from. And get to a place in life in which there's the least ammount of responsibility possible, while also living an enjoyable life

Edited Saturday at 07:10 PM by NewKidOnTheBlock

[Emerald]

1 minute ago, NewKidOnTheBlock said:

@Emerald I do tend to avoid responsibility, that much is true. But I think most responsibility is just BS someone else enforced upon us and doesn't actually benefit an individual in any specific way, I tend to view the word "responsibility" as something rather repulsive and something to stray away from. And get to a place in life in which there's the least ammount of responsibility possible, while also living an enjoyable life

Just keep in mind that power and responsibility always rise and fall together.

And as responsibility grows... so does your power. And as you reject personal responsibility... you lose personal power.

And as you project more responsibility onto others... they gain more power over you (psychologically and/or otherwise).

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

59 minutes ago, Emerald said:

Just keep in mind that power and responsibility always rise and fall together.

And as responsibility grows... so does your power. And as you reject personal responsibility... you lose personal power.

And as you project more responsibility onto others... they gain more power over you (psychologically and/or otherwise).

That could be true, the only question then remains whether having a certain X ammount of power in Z area of your life is worth taking on Y ammount of responsibility, and the answer to that question is not so obvious as outright "yes" sometimes

It's also not so obvious what are the things you control and can become responsible of

Edited Saturday at 08:14 PM by NewKidOnTheBlock

[Emerald]

Just now, NewKidOnTheBlock said:

That could be true, the only question then remains whether having a certain X ammount of power in Z area of your life is worth taking on Y ammount of responsibility, and the answer to that question is not so obvious as outright "yes" sometimes

That's something that you must choose relative to different facets of life. And that is also part of making sovereign choices.

But if one gets caught up in victim's mentality, they give up their power to whichever person or group they're labeling as the villain in an "across the board" way.