Pornography vs Love and What It Means to be Human

[AION]

 

[gambler]

Make Vanilla Sex Great Again

[ExploringReality]

Robert Greene is amazing 

[Sugarcoat]

Porn can easily make you desensitized so you need more and more, perhaps more hardcore stuff to get off eventually. The key in my experience to take care of your reward system is to not orgasm to it too often or to the hardcore stuff. The key is in the orgasm. If you can just resist orgasming to it, then you’ll save your reward system, it’s like the orgasm is what etches the neurological pathway in place that makes you rely on the porn and desensitizes you. 
 

So my point is if you ever try to quit porn but you end up watching it and getting turned on, don’t think “I failed so I might as well continue” because as long as you don’t reach orgasm, even if you edge, you’re not wrecking your reward pathway so you’re fine if you just stop before the orgasm

My pseudo science hehe

Edited Monday at 12:07 PM by Sugarcoat

[Schizophonia]

2 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

Porn can easily make you desensitized so you need more and more, perhaps more hardcore stuff to get off eventually. The key in my experience to take care of your reward system is to not orgasm to it too often or to the hardcore stuff. The key is in the orgasm. If you can just resist orgasming to it, then you’ll save your reward system, it’s like the orgasm is what etches the neurological pathway in place that makes you rely on the porn and desensitizes you. 
 

So my point is if you ever try to quit porn but you end up watching it and getting turned on, don’t think “I failed so I might as well continue” because as long as you don’t reach orgasm, even if you edge, you’re not wrecking your reward pathway so you’re fine if you just stop before the orgasm

My pseudo science hehe

I think that pornography reveals above all how twisted the psyche is.
It reminds me of Something else who told me that pornography had induced homosexual tendencies in him; But I never wanted to watch homosexual pornography, it's just disgusting.

It's like saying I was too greedy so I started eating stones.

2 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

The key in my experience to take care of your reward system is to not orgasm to it too often or to the hardcore stuff

2 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

 in my experience

👺

Edited Monday at 02:37 PM by Schizophonia

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

You all have missed his point entirely. He is not talking about a hardcore stuff being bad, but about porn focusing entirely on the mechanical part of the whole ordeal, neglecting the whole socio-emotional component to seduction and sex. Terrible attempts at acting obviously doesn't save it

And he has a point there obviously

Edited Monday at 02:40 PM by NewKidOnTheBlock

[LifeEnjoyer]

I've found some really high quality porn and then the techniques and positions I get from it make my own experiences 10x better. And then combine that with tantric practices (withholding your seed,) wow, reaching enlightenment has never been this fun! 

I agree with Robert though, most of the porn out there is quite mechanical and weird

 

[Princess Arabia]

It's funny how after the video ends, there's a pop up recommendation video of Robert Greene titled "Do not run away from your dark side". Obviously, he's aware people do have a dark side to them and that pornography can feed into that dark side. He's just rambling on about how he thinks humans should be. He's in a fantasy world. Not the "real world". There are people in relationships or marriage who feel nothing and are just mechanical beings when having sex and feel no emotions also. Doesn't take porn to bring that out in people. 

Porn is porn. Can't reflect real love and loving emotion. So, to describe it in the way he does is exactly that - pornography. It's like looking at a wall and describing an orange or expecting porn to be any other way. Some people need to experience something in life to know what they don't want. There are people who, after watching porn, turn out to be in the most loving relationships because porn disgusted them so much and they didn't want to be like that.

That's how you have to think about life. Everything is leading us to LOVE.

 

[Sugarcoat]

4 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

I think that pornography reveals above all how twisted the psyche is.
It reminds me of Something else who told me that pornography had induced homosexual tendencies in him; But I never wanted to watch homosexual pornography, it's just disgusting.

It's like saying I was too greedy so I started eating stones.

I think it can go both ways. Porn can be just a reflection of desires and kinks that were already there, or it could create new ones by exposure, or at least feed them.