How many girlfriends to get before marriage?

[Magnanimous]

I assume you'd want multiple so you get more exposure to what you want in a relationship, so what would you recommend?

Also, how well could you learn what you want in a relationship from just regular pickup and hookups?

[Leo Gura]

Don't marry unless you find the truly right girl. However long that takes.

[Ero]

Experience will help you learn better the green and red flags so you can filter quicker. You will have less and less tolerance for people who are incompatible. But as Leo said, don't jump the gun. Marriage is one of the most consequential decisions in your life. You have no idea how bad it can get if you are sloppy.

[integral]

Date a girl for at least five years before getting married to her.

Edited yesterday at 02:46 AM by integral

[Applegarden8]

7 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Don't marry unless you find the truly right girl. However long that takes.

Ok, how to know if she is the right one?

Your passions match? Or she has some qualities? She is open-minded or not influenced by her peers? She follows her passion? What is it? You got a click with her?

[Leo Gura]

22 minutes ago, Applegarden8 said:

Ok, how to know if she is the right one?

Your passions match? Or she has some qualities? She is open-minded or not influenced by her peers? She follows her passion? What is it? You got a click with her?

Values alignment is the critcial thing.

But also your personalities and life goals gotta align. You have to be able to get along fairly effortlessly without constant drama and fighting. And you need to be able to resolve disputes when they do arise.

These fundamentals needs to be present underneath all the romanic feelings because the romance will wane.

Edited yesterday at 09:21 AM by Leo Gura

[Applegarden8]

58 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Values alignment is the critcial thing.

But also your personalities and life goals gotta align. You have to be able to get along fairly effortlessly without constant drama and fighting. And you need to be able to resolve disputes when they do arise.

These fundamentals needs to be present underneath all the romanic feelings because the romance will wane.

Ok, thanks.

[Schizophonia]

None.

 

[AION]

Marriage is the feminist state getting in your bed room and being a third participant. I don't know why you want that unless you want to cuck when things go sour. I'm seeing what is happening to my nephew that is in a divorce right now. And they had the perfect picture. Marriage fucks up the power dynamic. Relationships are all about power although women don't understand this which is ok.

Edited yesterday at 10:54 AM by AION

[Leo Gura]

4 minutes ago, AION said:

Marriage is the feminist state getting in your bed room and being a third participant.

Dude, ridiculous.

Look at the things you say.

Is Trump a feminist? Why he married?

Edited yesterday at 10:55 AM by Leo Gura

[AION]

Just now, Leo Gura said:

Dude, ridiculous.

Look at the things you say.

I didn't mean that literally. Financially he is being screwed.

[Leo Gura]

@AION Maybe you should actually honor genuine conservatism and contemplate why marriage has existed for 10,000+ years in every nation and culture on the planet.

Edited yesterday at 11:17 AM by Leo Gura

[Consept]

Being single >>>> being with the wrong person 

[AION]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

@AION Maybe you should actually honor genuine conservatism and contemplate why marriage has existed for 10,000+ years in every nation and culture on the planet.

Ok I will do that but marriage 100 or 1000 or 10000 years ago was different than now.

[RawJudah]

If you do marriage with the right person - absolutely fine. Nothing wrong with it. If you do it with the wrong person - then God bless you.

[Davino]

Sometimes I wonder how it would be like to have like 3 wives.

[Princess Arabia]

5 hours ago, AION said:

Marriage is the feminist state getting in your bed room and being a third participant. I don't know why you want that unless you want to cuck when things go sour. I'm seeing what is happening to my nephew that is in a divorce right now. And they had the perfect picture. Marriage fucks up the power dynamic. Relationships are all about power although women don't understand this which is ok.

Your nephew does not represent the entire human race.

[Schizophonia]

3 hours ago, Davino said:

Sometimes I wonder how it would be like to have like 3 wives.

What a hell.

[Leo Gura]

Follow the way of Bin Laden.

6 wives.

Edited yesterday at 05:34 PM by Leo Gura

[Twentyfirst]

6 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

@AION Maybe you should actually honor genuine conservatism and contemplate why marriage has existed for 10,000+ years in every nation and culture on the planet.

*Arranged* marriage has existed for 10,000+ years