How many girlfriends to get before marriage?

[Twentyfirst]

14 hours ago, integral said:

Date a girl for at least five years before getting married to her.

What if at the end of the 5 years you decide not to marry her?

You just waste her youth and fertility years?

[integral]

13 minutes ago, Twentyfirst said:

What if at the end of the 5 years you decide not to marry her?

You just waste her youth and fertility years?

If the relationship is going to last then waiting 5 years is not a problem.

Besides that It will likely end before 5 years, it's a trade-off you can either wait for the right partner or Gamble and start a family Young. 

The probability of you finding someone who your compatible with and you correctly identifying them as a healthy long term partner when you yourself are not healthy is near zero.

You attract Who You Are.

The problem is you have to grow up and mature as a person before you could even identify another quality person to marry.

@Moon the advice I gave was to a 20-year-old virgin with no experience thinking he could just have sex with random hookups and that's going to prepare him for a relationship. Or that he has the ability to identify long-term partners.

The only strategy for this guy is to get into a relationship and wait and that's going to be the test to see if this relationship is sustainable long-term and healthy.

He has no other way to identify if a relationship is sustainable long-term, he doesn't have that intelligence built yet.

Edited March 8 by integral

[LifeEnjoyer]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

Follow the way of Bin Laden.

6 wives.

I’m going for Chinese emperor vibes. 6 side girls and 1 main

 

[UnbornTao]

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[Twentyfirst]

1 hour ago, integral said:

If the relationship is going to last then waiting 5 years is not a problem.

Besides that It will likely end before 5 years, it's a trade-off you can either wait for the right partner or Gamble and start a family Young. 

The probability of you finding someone who your compatible with and you correctly identifying them as a healthy long term partner when you yourself are not healthy is near zero.

You attract Who You Are.

The problem is you have to grow up and mature as a person before you could even identify another quality person to marry.

@Moon the advice I gave was to a 20-year-old virgin with no experience thinking he could just have sex with random hookups and that's going to prepare him for a relationship. Or that he has the ability to identify long-term partners.

The only strategy for this guy is to get into a relationship and wait and that's going to be the test to see if this relationship is sustainable long-term and healthy.

He has no other way to identify if a relationship is sustainable long-term, he doesn't have that intelligence built yet.

I think the people who game and start a family young are much happier than those who wait for perfect circumstances which may not come and if they do it's already pretty late

[Davino]

23 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

What a hell.

Hell and heaven touch

[Ero]

On 08/03/2025 at 6:16 AM, Leo Gura said:

@AION Maybe you should actually honor genuine conservatism and contemplate why marriage has existed for 10,000+ years in every nation and culture on the planet.

I wonder if it is the optimal family structure. 

[Yimpa]

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How many girlfriends to get before marriage?

 

[Lyubov]

It’s hard to say, very hot button topic yet the people who seem to be doing well in this domain always have very simple answers to questions on it. You can be fucked, you can rebound, you can experience miracles and the mundane. It’s hard to say. I would be careful with marriage advice these days online since it’s been polluted by radical voices from every side. I think really silencing yourself and really focusing inward could lead to a flow where you can make clear decisions. The thing about marriage is it changes moment to moment so you may go through a phase where it’s challenging and another where you align. I think marriage these days is actually used as a scape goat and excuse by “main characters” who feel their contributions aren’t enough so they look for something to compare them to (marriage) and then spin some story about how their marriage either ruined their life or why you should jump through ridiculous hurdles before getting marriage, a form of avoiding responsibility by setting up an unrealistic amount of goal posts or standards. You all remember your grandparents would sometimes barely know each other then live out their lives together without all the added commotion and social dialogue. There was value in that and many of them benefited for the marriage, maybe others didn’t. It’s just too personal to create some model over and the core advice for how to live life right exists whether you’re in a marriage or not, follow the way and live with truth. 

Edited March 10 by Lyubov

[Princess Arabia]

5 hours ago, Yimpa said:

 

Lol

[LordFall]

Why do you want to get married? To settledown and have a family? What does involving the government in a legally binding agreement make sense for you? 

I love the idea of commitment and long term relationships but legal marriage is insanity to me. I will offer my wives a private marriage and pay for the whole ceremony and have the family so they have their special day but their commitment is with me not to some random bureaucrats. 

I understand there are reasons why it was done like usually relationships end in feud and child support/alimony helps preserve stability in society but I still think exporting that responsibility to the system is a strange solution. 

[Schizophonia]

On 09/03/2025 at 5:38 PM, Davino said:

Hell and heaven touch

I've never seen girls wanting to be in a harem, or they're twisted scenarios where a rich white guy gets together with several girls from poor countries who are very unaware.

[Etherial Cat]

It depends on each person.

I’d say it lasts until you’re psychologically aligned enough to stop chasing and projecting a repressed anima onto women who aren’t truly a great fit— which would systematically lead to relationships that feel like an ordeal and ultimately leave you unfulfilled.

The priority should be to deal with your own baggage. Even then, it’s likely you’ll still learn through trial and error. Some people never break out of this cycle.

Your anima is your wife.