An ex mod abused me.

[Leo Gura]

To be clear, I take Mod abuse seriously. Don't get the idea that corruption is acceptable here.

My point was just that it's important to take responsibility for vetting people before engaging with them in coaching sessions. Especially random people found online.

Coaching is a profession. Doing it well requires formal training. Do not get coaching from people who have no formal training and no proven expertise. A coach should exhibit maturity right off the bat by their vibe. A coach should also exhibit professionalism. Speaking disrespectfully towards a client is a big red flag. I've never encountered that in all my coaching experience.

Edited Thursday at 12:11 AM by Leo Gura

[AION]

Coaches with formal training are not always the best. They are just applying the little concepts and procedures that they memorized.  From my experience it is important to find coaches/tehrapists with life experiences similar to the path you are walking, or who have some expertise in the field you want to expand in. Just trusting somebody's credentials is so wrong. It is like getting sex therapy from somebody who never had sex: they just talk shit to get paid.

Edited Wednesday at 09:03 PM by AION

[Aaron p]

[Michael569]

This is an actual coach messaging you? Holy crap, some professionals talk to their clients like this? 😲

[Sincerity]

Did you give him any money?

Also, did he ever advertise himself as a coach, or did he just offer to talk to you?

Edited Thursday at 12:09 AM by Sincerity

[Basman]

He also tried to get me to hire him as a dating coach once. I asked him for his resume and he instantly got defensive and abrasive so I quickly just ghosted the chain. Not worth risking my money into someone so unprofessional. No appreciation of how a potential client might see it as a scam or a poor service.

[Rishabh R]

3 hours ago, Sincerity said:

Did you give him any money?

Also, did he ever advertise himself

@NewKidOnTheBlock  Nope.

But he told that he teaches something.

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

6 hours ago, Basman said:

He also tried to get me to hire him as a dating coach once

🤣😬😬

Thats so cringey

[Raze]

Stop looking for advice from random commenters. Hire a coach with an actual good track record. 

[The Crocodile]

17 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

To be clear, I take Mod abuse seriously. Don't get the idea that corruption is acceptable here.

NoSelfSelf .. he . . . he held me down . . . and he 

[Leo Gura]

Free coaching is also not really something to call abusive. Even if the coaching was bad, it was free so the expectations should be low. In whatever corrupt way, he did try to help you for free.

[Chadders]

If it’s the guy I am thinking of on here he was weird. Take it as a learning lesson to not engage with people like that

In terms of playing a ‘game’ with women I would drop the entire notion of gaming women. It’s toxic and it’s not what women really want. This is a judgment from me, but I would say that women who are receptive to game are looking for a less than conscious/immature shallow relationship. It is mostly younger women in that camp. If you’re thinking about gaming women you’re not approaching it in a healthy conscious way and many lads gut sucked into that (including myself)

I’m not an expert but you got to feel her and judge the moment. We all have our unique style with women and some women will connect with that and others not so much. I‘m more of a romantic. I like bubbly energetic women. More feminine. I’m exploring and learning this for myself in how I can better express my feelings

Listen to some Marvin Gaye. Some good lessons on love 

Edited Friday at 12:24 PM by Chadders

[Rishabh R]

@Chadders You are right. By the way I was not trying to learn game but rather fixing an issue with him such as negative emotions. Till then I didn't know to how to deal with it. Later I came to know , I mean during last year or more precisely August 2024 to overcome suffering I have to accept it. It was based on Acceptance and Commitment therapy. Before that I used to suffer a lot , still I suffer but the suffering is relatively reduced since, I began accepting my negative emotions. I don't have problem with most of his interaction with me on discord only the last line and that's it. Initially when I noticed it I became anxious but later those feelings faded away.

As per Leo's series I fed notes of his videos from the YouTube comment section into AI and it said that it is more about casual encounters. However, later I bought the book Models by Mark Manson and read it more than twice. And that book helped me. Even though I still get ignored , rejected but that's ok.

On 3/6/2025 at 5:37 AM, Sincerity said:

 

[Chadders]

@Rishabh R that’s great. ACT is a good tool for helping to detach and allow emotions to wash over you rather than getting caught up in them

When it comes to emotions my deep insight on this with LSD was that you’ll feel whatever the universe wants you to feel. It’s not in your control. If the universe wants you to feel pain you’ll feel pain. Take the onus away from yourself because you can’t control it. 
 

It’s like acceptance. Actually acceptance is not in your control. If you accept it the universe has decided you will accept it because if we try to accept something it doesn’t work. It’s this realisation that helps because it takes away the onus on you to try and fix yourself. You’re perfect as you are. The universe wants you to feel this for whatever reason you just can’t connect the dots yet. That’s a true acceptance when you know it’s entirely out of your control 

The values stuff in ACT is good as well in then pivoting to what matters most and getting on with the business of living

All the best yoof

[Rishabh R]

@Chadders Thanks.

On 3/6/2025 at 5:37 AM, Sincerity said:

 

[Rishabh R]

Guys, maybe I'm wrong. He tried to help me. If anyone is feeling bad due to my post then I'm sorry.