Stupid Mind Games from this Woman

[SQAAD]

I get a phone call from a woman 2 days ago. This particular woman has caused me great amounts of suffering before .

To make things short, we arrange a meeting at 4 o'clock , afternoon..

1 hour before the date, she texts me "i'm gonna be late 15 minutes".

No explanation as to why she was gonna be late.. I text her back "i'm leaving".

Then she sends another message "why you're leaving. We said 4 o'clock. Are you still there?"..

I reply "ok 4 o'clock".

Then after few minutes this woman texts me once again "i'm gonna be late 15 minutes. If you can't wait, then we'll do it another time"

I send one final message "don't call me again, bb". And i blocker her.

Stay away from from low consciousness women, who don't really respect and value you. 

Also, that same day, in the evening hours, a decent girl who does respect me somehow texted me on viber to meet. And we did.

 

 

 

 

Edited Monday at 09:06 AM by SQAAD

[Michael569]

2 hours ago, SQAAD said:

1 hour before the date, she texts me "i'm gonna be late 15 minutes".

No explanation as to why she was gonna be late.. I text her back "i'm leaving".

I'm sorry to be the one to tell you but you acted childishly like a primadonna

She said 15 minutes so you wait 15 minutes. People don't need to tell you details why they are late 15 minutes. Its not a direspect. Maybe she had a diarrhoea, maybe her mom is sick, maybe she has period and needed to wait until her painkiller kicks in, maybe she was standing at a grocery store or in a traffic jam in a bus heading to your meeting, who cares. Have you never been in a Zoom meeting where one party was 15 minutes late? 

Blocking her in the end was a dick move. You were not a better man, you acted like a teenager with a wounded ego. 

2 hours ago, SQAAD said:

Stay away from from low consciousness women, who don't really respect and value you. 

this is such a ridiculous statement dude. Unblock her and apologise to her. Show some human decency for god's sake...

Edited Monday at 11:20 AM by Michael569

[Sugarcoat]

This story taken out of context sounds like you’re the one being petty. Because being a little late is no big deal and as has already been said they don’t owe you an explanation. But we don’t know what she has done previously so it’s hard to judge, but this alone is a reach, you assuming she doesn’t respect you because she’ll be late

[SQAAD]

@Sugarcoat @Sugarcoat

3 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

This story taken out of context sounds like you’re the one being petty. Because being a little late is no big deal and as has already been said they don’t owe you an explanation. But we don’t know what she has done previously so it’s hard to judge, but this alone is a reach, you assuming she doesn’t respect you because she’ll be late

Lol. Of course they do, if they respect and care about not losing you. 

How many times have you been late to your boss for example, with zero explanation? And how did that turn out for you?

[SQAAD]

@Michael569 No. You call me childish for not accepting her treating me poorly.

Plus, you forget the part, where she said she will be there in time, and then changed plan once more.

[SQAAD]

Would she be 15 whole minutes late if it was for a date with Brad Pitt?

 

Edited Monday at 02:22 PM by SQAAD

[Princess Arabia]

You have entered into this with the mindset that this woman has caused you suffering before. No matter what she does or not do, this relationship is doomed. You will see the suffering in your mind and the brain will concoct up some images before hand and create a suffering story behind everything associated with this woman before anything even happens. This is what I mean by we're living life and responding with trauma. 

All this "decent girl" has to do is do something you're not comfortable with and now she becomes not so decent. You're like a child whining and throwing there tantrums about life and looking for it to be about you. IT'S NOT. Be prepared for more endless suffering if you haven't seen through life's dilemma. Drop the seriousness, laugh a little and stop labeling it as much. That's a sure way to feel disappointed when it doesn't live up to your labeled expectations.

[Michael569]

6 minutes ago, SQAAD said:

Plus, you forget the part, where she said she will be there in time, and then changed plan once more.

Yes because she was still late 15 minutes. She was always going to be late 15 minutes but you just created two separate events out of it. How do you not see this

How did she treat you poorly by being 15 minutes late? I'm sorry but do you have abandonment trauma you haven't quite resolved yet? It is completely normal for someone to be 15 minutes late and just say "sorry I got held up". She may not feel confident to confine into you and given the way you ended up treating her, I would understand why not. 

I don't know what the history between two of you was but from the limited information we have, you were the one who overreacted and the one who needs to apologise

Edited Monday at 02:25 PM by Michael569

[Sandhu]

@SQAAD Grow up brother! 

 

[Princess Arabia]

4 minutes ago, SQAAD said:

Would she be 15 whole minutes late if it was for a date with Brad Pitt?

Nope.

Who says shit like this. An insecure person who doesn't value themselves and looking for others to value them. You see Brad as worthy, maybe she doesn't. 

[Sandhu]

@SQAAD It seems to me that you have been under some bad manosphere influence.

[integral]

11 minutes ago, SQAAD said:

Would she be 15 whole minutes late if it was for a date with Brad Pitt?

 

If she’s stuck in traffic, yes

[Hojo]

@SQAAD Are you Brad pitt or her boss? You expect her to treat you like the human you are her boss and Brad pitt all at the same time. That would be exhausting.

Why are you not letting her treat you as you are you so low value you must compare yourself to other fictional characters?

Edited Monday at 02:33 PM by Hojo

[Schizophonia]

2 minutes ago, SQAAD said:

Would she be late if it was for a date with Brad Pitt?

Nope.

Be careful, an uncorrected inferiority complex degenerates into a paranoid personality.

He is right, you acted like a child, but it annoys you because you unconsciously interpret it as a prohibition to see that you were abused when you were younger because (these are your interpretations) you were not very handsome; Anger comes from the repressed anger, feeling of injustice.

It's like, "Ah, I'm so persecuted and now that I'm defending myself, I'm being blamed for it."

[Sugarcoat]

1 hour ago, SQAAD said:

@Sugarcoat @Sugarcoat

Lol. Of course they do, if they respect and care about not losing you. 

How many times have you been late to your boss for example, with zero explanation? And how did that turn out for you?

If she didn’t care about losing you she wouldn’t go to the date at all. With work is different because you have an obligation to work

[meta_male]

1 hour ago, SQAAD said:

Would she be 15 whole minutes late if it was for a date with Brad Pitt?

Don't listen to coaches who throw this around (like Corey Wayne). Their aim is to make money off you and give you temporary solutions that adress symptoms instead of the root cause, encouraging you to come back for more. Their advice is harmful when it comes to forming meaningful connections with people as it creates unrealistic expectations no person can ever live up to.

Soon you will say: "If I was James Bond, not only would she be on time, but she'd also have my Martini ready."

[integral]

Is this the scenario you were in?

[Letho]

No.

[Tenebroso]

You didn't get the message? You are supposed to to accept anything a woman does or you are insecure. 

[integral]

15 minutes is within the accepted range of uncertainty of scheduling events. I wouldn't even expect someone to text me about it.

There needs to be some bad history with this woman for you to be behaving like this.

Edited Tuesday at 12:53 AM by integral