Why is major city required for game and is my city big enough?

[Emotionalmosquito]

On 3/7/2025 at 10:19 PM, Leo Gura said:

People who have it easy with dating will have it hard in other areas. No one has an easy life.

See ⬇️

 

On 3/7/2025 at 10:00 PM, gengar said:

women are truly the most beautiful thing in the world, not only physically but also mentally, and the one time I kissed a girl in high school was literally the best moment of my life

This cannot be understated. Several years ago I had this solid 8.5 coworker. After I finally convinced her to hug me with my god awful simpery, I was practically on mdma for three days. 

For those of us who’re pussy deprived, the mere whisper of female touch and affection unfurls like a radiant dawn after an endless night, a sensation so exquisite it transcends the boundaries of earthly delight. The soft brush of her fingers ignites a symphony of stars within, each one a cascade of warmth and wonder that dances through the soul. This elusive embrace, untasted and uncharted, becomes a sacred elixir; a nectar of bliss so potent it redefines the very essence of joy. More than a fleeting thrill, it’s the blooming of a thousand dormant gardens, where every petal unfolds in hues of longing and reverence, painting the heart with colors no dream could dare imagine.

So I don’t want to hear jack shit from guys who’re skilled at the ladies. Lucky fuckin bastards have no clue how good they have it. Do they have their own problems? Sure. But the idea that their lives are just as hard as an incel’s just in a different way, while they’re getting all the hot healthy action they want is an insulting joke.

Edited Monday at 10:22 AM by Emotionalmosquito

[Emotionalmosquito]

As someone stuck in a miserable, podunk nothing city of 50-60k, threads like these are the darkest and most depressing thing I regularly come across 

Edited Monday at 10:25 AM by Emotionalmosquito

[Leo Gura]

49 minutes ago, Emotionalmosquito said:

As someone stuck in a miserable, podunk nothing city of 50-60k, threads like these are the darkest and most depressing thing I regularly come across 

It is only depressing because you are not taking action to improve your situation

To get results in life requires taking lots of action, otherwise you will be a poor man, sitting there all bitter and depressed.

Do you know how much action I took to reach my position? You wouldn't believe it. I didn't fly up here like a bird. I crawled like a rat through the sewer.

Edited Monday at 11:15 AM by Leo Gura

[Rishabh R]

@Leo Gura Yeah action is important in every domain of life. Otherwise thoughts remain just mental gymnastics. Even in career massive action is important.

[Leo Gura]

6 hours ago, Rishabh R said:

Even in career massive action is important.

Especially in career. Career is 95% action.

[Rishabh R]

@Leo Gura And the remaining 5%?  😂

Edited Monday at 06:06 PM by Rishabh R

[Leo Gura]

1 hour ago, Rishabh R said:

@Leo Gura And the remaining 5%?  😂

Vision and theory.

It is important that you are working towards the right big picture, not just something like money.

Edited Monday at 07:38 PM by Leo Gura

[Peo]

17 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

It is important that you are working towards the right big picture, not just something like money.

What if you need the money to work towards the big picture? Like a lot of money. 

[EternalForest]

10 hours ago, Emotionalmosquito said:

See ⬇️

 

This cannot be understated. Several years ago I had this solid 8.5 coworker. After I finally convinced her to hug me with my god awful simpery, I was practically on mdma for three days. 

For those of us who’re pussy deprived, the mere whisper of female touch and affection unfurls like a radiant dawn after an endless night, a sensation so exquisite it transcends the boundaries of earthly delight. The soft brush of her fingers ignites a symphony of stars within, each one a cascade of warmth and wonder that dances through the soul. This elusive embrace, untasted and uncharted, becomes a sacred elixir; a nectar of bliss so potent it redefines the very essence of joy. More than a fleeting thrill, it’s the blooming of a thousand dormant gardens, where every petal unfolds in hues of longing and reverence, painting the heart with colors no dream could dare imagine.

So I don’t want to hear jack shit from guys who’re skilled at the ladies. Lucky fuckin bastards have no clue how good they have it. Do they have their own problems? Sure. But the idea that their lives are just as hard as an incel’s just in a different way, while they’re getting all the hot healthy action they want is an insulting joke.

I'm a virgin too, but if you gave me the choice between getting a new favorite song every day and having sex with a new girl everyday, I'd take the songs, no question. Because as good as it is, there are things greater and more profound than sex. I can return to those songs for the rest of my life and find joy in them over and over again. There's a reason why long term couples (who are both attractive) eventually stop having sex everyday. It's not because it doesn't still feel amazing. It's because, like anything else, eventually that orgasmic high becomes routine. But experiencing a great story? Cooking or eating a great meal? Running a marathon? Raising a child? Or again, making music or sitting at the piano and playing your heart out? Volunteering for a cause you believe in? Laughing and making memories with your friends? That's what life is about.

[Leo Gura]

1 hour ago, Peo said:

What if you need the money to work towards the big picture? Like a lot of money. 

The big picture is still more important.

Money is a tool towards the big picture.

[Lyubov]

I think changing your environment if you have the means to is a very powerful way to shift perspectives and learn new things. Definitely going to different cities and countries to gain social experience and date can be very helpful. It’s not always needed but if you haven’t been exposed to the social experiences you need to sort of build a balanced foundation, changing to a place where there’s more happening can be incredibly important. I think most guys who want to make growth in this domain switch it up. Seems like there’s a lot of guys who are just fine with whatever comes along in their town and made their peace with it. 

[Lyubov]

On 3/10/2025 at 8:10 AM, Leo Gura said:

It is only depressing because you are not taking action to improve your situation

To get results in life requires taking lots of action, otherwise you will be a poor man, sitting there all bitter and depressed.

Do you know how much action I took to reach my position? You wouldn't believe it. I didn't fly up here like a bird. I crawled like a rat through the sewer.

How did you identify your endeavor would attract money and monetize it without selling out? I'm building a channel as well on IG and I am ready to monetize but I am not sure it is the right decision now. I suppose I can just learn through action, trial / error, research, mistakes, etc. 

[Leo Gura]

1 hour ago, Lyubov said:

How did you identify your endeavor would attract money and monetize it without selling out?

You mean Actualized?

My initial plan was just to use Actualized to get coaching clients. Then as I saw it was getting popular I knew I could sell courses.

I didn't sell out because I hate that and because I had estblished myself from my previous biz so I wasn't financially desperate.

Edited 15 hours ago by Leo Gura

[koops]

51 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

You mean Actualized?

My initial plan was just to use Actualized to get coaching clients. Then as I saw it was getting popular I knew I could sell courses.

I didn't sell out because I hate that and because I had estblished myself from my previous biz so I wasn't financially desperate.

You didnt like coaching? Or it just took too much time?

It seems you could coach 'high level' people, which could have great impact if their have a big following. 

[MarkKol]

On 3/7/2025 at 9:46 PM, gengar said:

On 3/5/2025 at 8:30 PM, Leo Gura said:

If you are extroverted and good-looking, dating is super easy. And if you aren't, it's hell.

 

You forgot to mention that every girl makes excuses on behalf of the guy once she likes him.

So if you're short, she'll most likely go as far as defending you if her girlies try to critique your height.

[Leo Gura]

8 minutes ago, MarkKol said:

You forgot to mention that every girl makes excuses on behalf of the guy once she likes him.

Yeah, but the problem is getting her to like you.

This is easy for good-looking people so they take it for granted that everyone is like that.

Edited 14 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Leo Gura]

13 minutes ago, koops said:

You didnt like coaching? Or it just took too much time?

I'm a philosopher and intellectual, not a coach.

Edited 14 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Schizophonia]

You can pick up in a medium/small town.