Magnanimous

Girl in school is already attracted to me; should I skip the rapport phase?

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This girl started displaying signals to me after a function, and still does 1 year after. If I approach her, should I skip building rapport and just get straight into attraction?

I've basically never talked to her before other than saying hi when we passed in the hallways, so I'm really considering rapport building.

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If she is already attracted then you should focus on building rapport so she is comfortable sleeping with you.

Just maintain a playful flirty vibe, and a man-woman vibe, so she's clear that you have a dick, that you have sexual intent, and that you're not her gay friend.

You can do that by sprinkling in a few sexually-charged compliments into your conversation like, "Damn, you're a cutie" or "I want to see you from behind" or "You make me think impure thoughts". Or just look at her in a sexual intimate way.

If she's clearly attracted you can just ask her out on a date. Keep the date low key, like coffee or ice cream.

Edited by Leo Gura

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If you're 17 still in school and inexperienced just start by casually starting an conversation with her to become acquaintances and get her number or IG. If you can bump into her in some activity you do together and get to know her that way that's better than a cold approach unless you think you can pull that off.

Then suggest some activities after school, flirt and eventually hang out alone with her and see how far is she comfortable taking things. Most likely you'd need more than one single date to get intimate with her but I don't know the details so just start with taking with her, getting her contact and going on a date. Just be a normal human being and feel eachother out, no need to over-theorize this or micromanage "skipping phases"

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16 hours ago, Magnanimous said:

still does 1 year after

Brahh, what have you been doing all this time? You should have approached right then. But, it's ok. It seems you still have the shot. As you have said she is giving signals that means attraction is there. You don't need to try anything silly. Half the game is already won. Just go tell her that you like her and would like to hangout with her. If she's into you, anything would work untill you do something very silly, don't overthink, don't overwork


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