Problems with my family

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On 2/28/2025 at 11:57 AM, enchanted said:

Is caring what others think an inadvertent admission that they are superior to you? 

If you have an argument with a child you quickly forget about it because in your mind it's obvious you're superior to a child and what a child thinks doesn't matter. But when you have an argument that is upsetting for even days after, are you not admitting that that person is superior to you and that it matters what they think? 

I would say generally you're right but in this case it's a bit different because it's my family. It's more than just a disagreement about politics.

With other people I don't even argue about such topics. I just listen to what they say, and even if I disagree, I try to give a neutral answer so they can't really argue with me about it.

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20 minutes ago, Aaron p said:

Do everything in your power to protect the relationships you have with your family members. In your life there are only going to be in the small number of people you can really deeply trust and most of them are likely going to be your family.

Yes that's true. It's not worth worsening the relationship because of something like that.

20 minutes ago, Aaron p said:

So don't be afraid to intelligently manipulate conversations away from areas that you know your family are diluted in,

That's kind of what I thought after thinking about it for a while. I appreciate your answer.

[Aaron p]

6 hours ago, Unlimited said:

That's kind of what I thought after thinking about it for a while. I appreciate your answer.

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[Yimpa]

Family is not bound by biological relatives. You can leave them at any time once you are no longer a child. Then you can create a your own family and act as if they never existed.

I understand that this may seem impossible based on your own life experiences. Many psychedelic experiences are the ones that propelled me to be able to do that. Discover what works for you.

Edited Thursday at 07:12 PM by Yimpa

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On 3/6/2025 at 2:07 PM, Yimpa said:

Then you can create a your own family and act as if they never existed.

This would be a bit too extreme for me. I think it’s better for me to find a balance between not taking them too seriously and still caring about them.

[Yimpa]

I should clarify that I’ve made amends with my immediate family, but I still avoid extended family like the plague. It’s not off the table to speak to them one day, but I want to regain the years I’ve missed out on first. 

[Basman]

Politics is about fighting over how to survive as a collective. But politics rarely actually effects your day to day so it is generally unwise to introduce serious political discussion with your close relatives. You're in a sense asking for a fight by being overly ideological.

If you are losing your cool over politics then there's a chance that you're not that developed actually. As a progressive you need to learn to accept that we live in a conservative world. The kind thing to do is to be understanding of where people are at and you want to be kind towards your family. Odds are their political analysis is shallow and reactionary, so it is not worth taking too seriously in first place.