When should I get married ?

[Princess Arabia]

12 minutes ago, Someone here said:

@Princess Arabia can you pretty please get out of this thread ?

You're only asking me to do this simply because I'm a female in opposition to your remarks. Only reason. Only because I'm a female and for no other reason. It's your only means of control at the moment.

[Princess Arabia]

Just now, something_else said:

Yea because it benefits you not to. Like I said, you want to have your cake and eat it too.

It' not a well-balanced conversation and exchange of opinions and ideas if one is going to tell the other why they feel the way they do without insinuating its just a hunch or a feeling. Saying this with such precision that I'm saying what I'm saying only because it benefits me, is imo,.an attempt to influence the conversation in your favor while attempting to tarnish my viewpoint and putting your reasons behind why you may think I take such a stance. It isn't up to you to decipher why it is I feel the way I do but to either see my point for what it is or just disagree and state your opposing points as to why, which is exactly what I did with OP.

 

[Sincerity]

19 minutes ago, Elliott said:

Here

Read the rest of what I said. You took it completely out of context.

Also, I explicitly replied to you with this: „When you love, you act for another. If she doesn’t give anything back, there is something wrong there.”

[Princess Arabia]

11 minutes ago, Someone here said:

@Princess Arabia I just want advice regarding my situation. Not endless debates between keyboard warriors about freaking  "feminine &masculine dynamic " and other such mere abstractions and word games.

But You are right.  Drop your integrity and stay. No worries. 

I knew it was the reason because there are also other people here debating and carrying on and you didn't ask them to leave. Anyway, thanks for apologizing even though it wasn't direct. I sensed it.

I will not be censored without putting up a fight. Sorry, it's not in my nature especially if I know I've done nothing wrong. 

[Elliott]

12 minutes ago, Sincerity said:

Read the rest of what I said. You took it completely out of context.

Also, I explicitly replied to you with this: „When you love, you act for another. If she doesn’t give anything back, there is something wrong there.”

So, you admit you expect her to contribute?

[Sincerity]

@Someone here You received plenty of good, practical advice in this thread. In your original post you stated your view of a relationship and your reasons for going into it, which were pointed out to you as immature. Later on you backtracked with some platitudes, but it’s obvious that you meant it. You don’t need to hide it.

A roundabout answer to your question of „when” is: at best when you develop a proper attitude, because with your current mindset the relationship would most likely not be healthy.

The feedback you received was practical, if you’re willing to consider it.

[Sincerity]

9 minutes ago, Elliott said:

So, you admit you expect her to contribute?

Like I said already: when a woman is loved, provided for and taken care of, she will be open and she will contribute. And if she doesn’t, there’s something wrong and the relationship should probably be ended. Of course one person cannot (and should not) handle everything. There must be a balance.

Edited Wednesday at 06:09 PM by Sincerity

[Someone here]

8 minutes ago, Sincerity said:

@Someone here You received plenty of good, practical advice in this thread. In your original post you stated your view of a relationship and your reasons for going into it, which were pointed out to you as immature. Later on you backtracked with some platitudes, but it’s obvious that you meant it. You don’t need to hide it.

A roundabout answer to your question of „when” is: at best when you develop a proper attitude, because with your current mindset the relationship would most likely not be healthy.

The feedback you received was practical, if you’re willing to consider it.

OK thanks man . I will consider your advice and Schizophonia's advice . You two are the only who went straight to the meat of the topic .

But I ask you to do me a favour and control this thread and put an end to these debates about who should do what etc.

[Something Funny]

@Princess Arabia You've become so judgemental and reactionary lately. You don't have to be the kind of wife he is looking for or agree on his vision of marriage, it doesn't mean that he has no right to want what he wants or that it's wrong.

He is not going to raid your village and enslave you to do his chores.

[Something Funny]

@Someone here honest question, why would any europeans go to study in India? Just to have a little adventure?

[Princess Arabia]

9 minutes ago, Something Funny said:

@Princess Arabia You've become so judgemental and reactionary lately. You don't have to be the kind of wife he is looking for or agree on his vision of marriage, it doesn't mean that he has no right to want what he wants or that it's wrong.

He is not going to raid your village and enslave you to do his chores.

I'm very far from judgemental. Maybe reactionary in the dating section and I'm only speaking my mind. It comes off as judgemental. As a woman, and I won't keep this up because OP is asking to stick to his inquiries, we tend to be misunderstood and seem overly anything when we speak up because that's considered a masculine trait. I never said anything was wrong on his part. I was merely expressing how I felt about what he said, which is what a forum is for. I never said "You are wrong" or "I am angry", you've taken my words as such. I'm merely speaking my views and if they come off as strong or judgemental, it wasn't intended to be that way only oppositional. 

Edited Wednesday at 06:38 PM by Princess Arabia

[Someone here]

9 minutes ago, Something Funny said:

@Someone here honest question, why would any europeans go to study in India? Just to have a little adventure?

I live in Kashmir.  Its a top class city .no different than Paris .. London ..Madrid etc.

Come visit and see if you like .

[Something Funny]

@Princess Arabia
 

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I feel sorry for that poor wife if those are her duties.

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Unfortunately, they won't fit your bill and you'll have to settle for the one that will suck your ting-a-ling 

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Like I said, who let the boys out. Thank God real men are out enjoying women and having a blast in their company.

Nothing mean or judgemental here. Totally not trying to put him down because you got upset at what he said. 

[Something Funny]

@Someone here interesting, I've actually never heard of it.

[Princess Arabia]

Funny thing is, I've seen other men in this thread opposed what OP is proposing, and I'll name names for you to reference if needs be - Michael and Letho, but I see no one going after them and telling them he has a right to his wants, needs and desires, which btw no one is saying he doesn't.

As a woman, AGAIN, I'm the one where the criticisms and judgements for speaking my stance is aimed at. One notices these things when they are consistently in these positions and as an observant person I tend to notice these trends. 

[Princess Arabia]

1 minute ago, Something Funny said:

@Princess Arabia
 

Nothing mean or judgemental here. Totally not trying to put him down because you got upset at what he said. 

No, those aren't judgements. Actually, what you've said to me about me being judgmental is.

[Something Funny]

On 2/18/2025 at 7:32 PM, Princess Arabia said:

I don't expect guys in their 20's to get me so ill just have to understand that. It's a total different world. Go sow your oats a bit until reality kicks in when she starts to look at you differently and you realize your masculine power and how to utilize it.

Also, I've noticed how you like using an age argument. And I feel like this is a really lazy and dishonest way to argue. This is what people use where they have nothing to actually back up their words with. Just: "I am older then you, I know better".

[Princess Arabia]

3 minutes ago, Something Funny said:

@Princess Arabia
 

Nothing mean or judgemental here. Totally not trying to put him down because you got upset at what he said. 

Saying I feel sorry for the poor wife if those are her duties is not a judgement. 

[Princess Arabia]

Another thing I notice also is its the same people (men), that come at me when I speak on dating and relationships. The same ones. The same ones that keep opposing what I say in this section of the forum. The same ones. 

[Something Funny]

7 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Funny thing is, I've seen other men in this thread opposed what OP is proposing, and I'll name names for you to reference if needs be - Michael and Letho, but I see no one going after them and telling them he has a right to his wants, needs and desires, which btw no one is saying he doesn't.

As a woman, AGAIN, I'm the one where the criticisms and judgements for speaking my stance is aimed at. One notices these things when they are consistently in these positions and as an observant person I tend to notice these trends. 

There is a difference between making one comment, saying that you disagree with something and blowing up in multiple threads. 
 

6 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

No, those aren't judgements. Actually, what you've said to me about me being judgmental is.

If there is nothing mean and judgemental about this:

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Unfortunately, they won't fit your bill and you'll have to settle for the one that will suck your ting-a-ling 

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Like I said, who let the boys out. Thank God real men are out enjoying women and having a blast in their company.

Then I guess there would be nothing mean and judgemental if I said something like this:
 

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It's nice to dream of a man who will treat you like a princess and completely take care of you, but it's hard to find someone like that as an old hag, so you will have to settle for online forum debates.

Right? Totally normal and chill way to communicate. 

So respectful...

Edited Wednesday at 06:54 PM by Something Funny