World problems are too grave for me to not go all in on my life purpose but...

[oldhandle]

...but I sometimes am having difficulty going all in.

I have an active social life and I have a hard time with the concept of letting that go. But I know to actually achieve my life purpose, I'm going to have to go all in with all my time on my business.

Looking around, everything is too dire to not be spending all my time trying to achieve real money through my life purpose - if I don't, I will be forced to continue doing my job which almost certainly will become irrelevant due to AI in 5 years.

And yet, I have trouble getting myself to not accept social life invitations on Friday nights. Someone says, hey let's go to this concert - and I say "ok" and then I'm out the time and money that could have been used to push toward actualizing my full potential just to do some fleeting social life thing that doesn't really push me forward.

Shit is so fucked these days on the world stage that I just cannot be one of the people using their weekends watching reality shows with friends or going to concerts.

So, any advice on letting go of the distractions to go ALL IN on your purpose?

[Elliott]

Focus on the basics; sleep, diet, socializing, shelter, basic income, health, curiosities, intimacy,.... and take breaks when you need them.

[oldhandle]

I'm pretty good on all those - that advice won't really get me to have real wealth and self-actualization though.

[Elliott]

2 minutes ago, oldhandle said:

I'm pretty good on all those - that advice won't really get me to have real wealth and self-actualization though.

At least one of those is not satisfied for you to not be able to focus on what you want to. There's nothing you're insecure about? Maybe intimacy, since you're gravitating toward socializing, not just sexually but even meaningful friendship.

[oldhandle]

Mm yeah but easier said than done for me

[oldhandle]

Please help me

[Leo Gura]

On 2/16/2025 at 3:58 PM, oldhandle said:

Shit is so fucked these days on the world stage that I just cannot be one of the people using their weekends watching reality shows with friends or going to concerts.

No matter how serious things are you still need time for rest and entertainment and socializing.

Do not guilt trip yourself over such things. It's only a problem when it is used excessively as an escape, addiction, or distraction.

There is no problem going to a concert a few times a year. That is fully compatible with work and life purpose.

If you work hard for 8 hrs on your LP, that is enough. Then you take the rest of the day off. And you can not work on weekends. This is important for long-term sustainability.

Your life should not be only about work. So there's no contradiction here. Going all-in on an LP does not mean you have no social life. Find a way to build a social life that aligns with your LP and perhaps even leverage your LP to socialize and have fun if such a synergy is available.

Edited Thursday at 02:40 AM by Leo Gura

[NoN-RaTiOnAL]

you shouldnt be sacrificing all your free time on your life purpose as leo said already. 
chilling and having fun is as important (if not more) than doing the work. 
I would suggest to really start using a notebook and make sure to create a good work-fun balance in your life. 
contemplate how many hours of socializing do you actually need in a week to feel satisfied on that front and make sure to build you schedule in sync with that so you dont burn out or just become depressed and boring. of course many times things will change last minute but overall itll give you some control over the situation and make you feel more in charge of it. 

[oldhandle]

I think I'm currently chilling and socializing TOO much though

[Human Mint]

Maybe you need to determine how many hours of work you need to feel satisfied. There is a problem of not working enough, as weird as it sounds. But work-ethic = satisfaction, be it studyng or working on a proyect and probably both combined if you want to mantain a creative conection.