i have no friends just family any advice

[LookingForTruth]

I'm 40 years old with no friends no online friends nothing thank God I have family I guess my ego was protecting itself from harm and I'm ready to try again I think but The thing is I've been isolated for so long maybe 10 years from talking to people outside my family and therapist I'm still looking for a twitch community to be part of but to be honest most of the twitch communities I have seen I just don't like very much so  I don't really have much interest currently besides learning stuff from actualize.org meditating and watching dumb stuff to turn off my brain from time to time although the stupid stuff just really isn't doing much for me I'm thinking about joining a discord community and perhaps joining the voice chat and actually trying to talk to people I attempted to talk on ome.tv but I warn everyone not to go there this is some of the most low brow beings you will come into contact with I'm talking people who will point a gun at you and threaten you because they don't like the way you look or whatever the reason was I don't think talking existentially in twitch chats works though i don't think i know how to be normal anymore it's either that or I'm refusing to conform anyways any advice would be appreciated thanks p.s. I'm scared to death to talk to people on discord lol oh yeah i do like to rap and post youtube videos about my raps I'm also homebound for the most part I have no car maybe joining one of those online support groups would be a good idea

Edited Saturday at 11:58 PM by LookingForTruth

[Jannes]

I won't become easier as you age so it's good that you start now. Why do you want to do online stuff? It's so less personal and you said yourself that you find mostly weird people there. Are you socially insecure? Through work or some kind of community might be a good start. 

[LookingForTruth]

I don't have a car to get around so online stuff just seems easier yeah I realize there are a lot of weird people out there just trying to find my tribe and I am highly insecure socially I just hide it as much as possible when talking to real life people I think probably to a dysfunctional point i have however been improving socially with family due to Leo's videos like I held a 1 hour conversation with my uncle so I think it's a step in the right direction we used to have maybe 20 minute conversations before I'll start I think with an online community then I'll step my game up to a support group in person I would have to ask a family member to take me but they got their own things going on so they can't probably always take me I just have to remind myself things are improving at least

[LookingForTruth]

You know what the irony of this post is just shortly after I had a meditation session where I was aware that I could make my own Bliss and happiness through meditation and I didn't necessarily need anyone else to create my bliss and happiness and to the gentleman who said I would not like to be your son there's no need to diss anyone because you don't understand them or whatever is going on with you to say that

Edited Sunday at 05:15 AM by LookingForTruth

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pWfXhvxZbvk

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pYp_hBqPbuA
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ERap8i3qpCw
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F7ghrUIiyzM
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-make-friends-master-key-new-friendships

Edited Sunday at 05:39 AM by Raze

[LookingForTruth]

@Raze Hey thanks appreciate it

[Yimpa]

7 hours ago, LookingForTruth said:

to be honest most of the twitch communities I have seen I just don't like very much

7 hours ago, LookingForTruth said:

oh yeah i do like to rap and post youtube videos about my raps

 

Hey! I highly recommend insomniac_rap on Twitch. He streams daily and has a really chill gang/community. He does improv raps while watching montage YouTube videos, plays games such crossword puzzle (while rapping at the same time), and more.

 https://www.twitch.tv/insomniac_rap

Twitch has a small Music section. Many of those streamers only get a few dozen viewers; their chatrooms don’t go a million miles an hour.

I’m also interested in seeing your YouTube channel! 

[1337]

i am not the best person to give you advices. but please consider this:

twitch, discord, ome.tv etc. platforms are not true ways of socializing. they are absolute traps.

twitch is the one of the most toxic media platforms on the internet.

discord can be nice for killing some time. i would not recommend you to socialize on discord.

dont consider ome.tv as a way to socialize. platforms like ome.tv is very fun tho. i mean it is like porn. as soon as you dont abuse it you are fine. i know that some asocial people gets addicted to platforms like ometv.

start a hobby. most of the RC guys are very friendly. there are tons of RC hobbies. i can recommend you rc helicopters. you can join a local club. just go and join one of the local weekend rc meetings. it could be very embarrassing at first but you need to crack your shell.

have fun!

never forget, it is never late to start new things.

Edited Sunday at 08:28 PM by 1337

[Sugarcoat]

I only have one friend at the moment who I have contact with, and I feel that is enough, I don’t feel a need for more although this autumn I’m going to study at university so I might or might not make new friends there. I feel okay either way. I’m quite quiet so it can make it harder for me to make friends. And because I don’t seek it out actively, I’ll let it come naturally if it does.

There might be online communities for real life meetups, that could be something you could check out. 

That was a long sentence btw, try to use commas and punctuation next time

Edited Sunday at 08:51 PM by Sugarcoat

[LookingForTruth]

@Yimpa hey thanks I followed insomaniac rap on twitch I'll definitely join if I can make it 

That's my YouTube channel

Edited Sunday at 08:51 PM by LookingForTruth

[Yimpa]

@LookingForTruth Sweet, maybe I’ll see you in the chat on one of his streams. I haven’t been in there in a while and have been wanting to..

And you have sick flow, totally digging it!

 

[Human Mint]

@LookingForTruth Thas was a shameful comment of mine. I do like to contemplate parenting a lot and to see what kinds of things would traumatize or not to your childs even though I am not a parent myself. I should have displayed it in a much better way. Is a topic I could conversate for hours. Do not take it personally, I definetely don't know you so don't need to explain nothing.

[Yimpa]

And now it is time for a group-hug 🤗 

[Schizophonia]

Most people will be happy with a partner, if possible, and a few friends.

If you want friends to go to a sports club, like boxing or climbing, that's great for men.

[LookingForTruth]

@Yimpa Okay it would be cool to see you there hey thanks I'm glad you like my flow

[LookingForTruth]

@Human Mint Okay I understand have a lovely day sir

[Human Mint]

One great way to boostrap and learn this skill is by reading practial self-help books about relationships and friendship. There must be pretty good autors out there which I am missing since I don't read that topic. You should create a selection of books to read after some research and share it here.

Having a realistic look into what it takes to hold a relationship sets a good foundation, to learn how to be an interesting person and what other people would expect out of you in a friendship. Then you need to put you in a life situation where you're around people, like-minded people, which is very doable and only takes some planning. I don't have more solid advice since it is something I am learning myself and it is definitely a life journey.

[Yimpa]

On 2/2/2025 at 5:31 PM, LookingForTruth said:

Okay it would be cool to see you there

What’s your Twitch username, if you don’t mind sharing? Mine is Joy_Yimpa