Looking For An Accountable Partner For Life Purpose

[Ray]

Hey guys :),

So I want to have an accountable partner. 

Here are my Top 5 goals (and the pause that I enable my self in this period); some info about me, my life purpose and my small bet, a little description of every goal, my current biggest obstacle, the type of day that I want to have, the feature of the person that I’m looking for and what I need from an accountable partner for now. 

 

• Top 5 Goals: 

1. LP: 1h per day of Small Bet  
2. LP: Research: How to become anime director + Social Circle of directors  
3. Study and pass 7 exams w >27/30
4. Personal development Habits (Med, Wake&Sleep,Positive V,Acc P,Healthy,Mp,Sleep,PD,Sport)
5. Stop Procrastination - 3 month challenge. 

 

• Pause enabled: 

1. PD Book 
2. Animation video short on YT or music 
3. Quality Movie + fast review 
4. Little Naps 

 

• Rewards: 

1. Exit and do Game  
2. Exit w friends 
3. Cinema 

 

Info about me, interest & Life purpose

So I’m 20 and I live alone in Milan, I study Media Studies in an university, 2nd year out of 3. My main interest are (in order) Cinema -animation in particular-, Stand Up Comedy, Meditation&Spirituality and Personal development. My dream/life purpose is to become an anime director like Hayao Miyazaki, to make beautiful movies that make people dream. I’ve never ever done anything like cinema before, I’ve just watched lots of quality movies. I’ve done the Life Purpose course, read books about personal development, meditate 1h per day for 2 year and 1 month ago I’ve done my first Vipassana retreat. 

 

How-to Life purpose: my small bet

My small bet regarding my life purpose it’s working for 3-4 month (i still have to decide the exact time) on a short which simply consist in 2 hands that fight that I will post on YT or present to some Cinema Short competition. In addition I want to find like minded people and have a social circle of movies directors, so I will go in the best cinema university of Milan at least once per week to look for interesting people that can become friends or colleagues. 

 

Personal development Goals

Then I want to restablish my good habits of personal development and finally make them a habit like the meditation one. The habits that I want to establish are: 

• Meditation 1h every day 
• Wake Up on time and respect a morning routine (Wake up ideally 6:45-8 + wash face, little walk in my room, meditation, positive visualisations, healthy diet, shower, dress and exit) 
• Bed time 23-00 and having a healthy diet 1h-2h before that. 
• Positive Visualisations 20min ev day. 
• Accountable Partner every 3-4 day and reminder 
• Heathy Diet: 1) stop eating junk food 2) transitioning towards vegetarian 
• Master Plan every day (my name for agenda :P) 
• Sleep Position on back 
• PD Material every 3-4 days (PD books, old Leo video…) 
• Sport a little bit every 2-3 days (??). (Not for now)
• Being Present/Conscious/Aware 
• Following my Instinct 

 

University 

I have to study for the exam of my university, which are not so hard, I will create a study plan more precise in these days, but generally speaking if I go to the lessons and study 3h-4h per day I can make it.

 

My biggest obstacle: Procrastination

I have been into this deep procrastination period, more precisely I got stuck on watching low quality yt video and junk food for many days for the last months. So it will be really hard to restart and stay on track, mainly on the weekends because I can’t go to the university library where I study and I have to stay at home where there is internet etc… So yeah It will be great if we could help each other, in particular right now I do not need someone who’s kind with me, I need more a Sergent Hartman, seriously. 

 

Day-type Goal

Here is more what I want that my days looks like:

6:30-8:00: wake 

Morning routine 

Go to my university 

Lessons/Study for exams

Life Purpose - Project Hands

Go back home & Pause 

23:30-00:00: bed time / Reward 

 

The feature of the person that I’m looking for: 

• Someone that work or want to work into an artistic sector (art, cinema, drawing, painting, singing etc…). As I said I want more artistic people around and we could resonate more because of our comune interests :). 
• Someone who 1-2 year at least into personal development, meditation and enlightenment. 
• Someone who’s really serious, that really want to use this idea of accountable friend as one of the main leverage to reach the life that he dream of. 
• (not essential) Someone that have complete the life purpose course 
• (not essential) Someone that have interest similar with mine (anime, stand up etc…). 
• (Super important) Someone who’s really really serious about this idea, and really want to realise their clear life purpose, that they are ready to invest years of their life into it. 

 

More precisely here is what I would like from your part: 

• I have to send you every day a picture of the day plan of the next day. 
• Then, the next day, I have to send you pictures showing that I’m studying or working for my project. Furthermore you can randomly ask me to send me a picture. When I don’t answer generally it’s because I’m procrastinating. This can looks extreme but right now I would like this kind of apporach because I have exit from the procrastination spiral, in the future of course we will reduce this. 
• Every week we will have one Skype call (or more if we have something important to talk about) where we explain each others our goal for the next week, how we can help each other to realise them (reminder thought photo, reminder thought messages, put a penitence if we don’t do them, send encouragement, remind our primal goal etc or the reasons that made us take that decision etc…). 
• Other things that I don’t remember But yeah it’s a process so we will figure what works out better for us little by little

So if you are interested to create this relationship of accountability please send me on Private message or comment here your Top 5 goals, some general info about you, your life purpose and how you want (or are currently) to make it real,  a little description of every goal, current biggest obstacle, and how would you like to be help with your goals from me. 

Cheers, 

Ray

[Sevi]

Hi Ray, 

I'm interested in this idea, but what you wrote is uploaded and intense for me. I understand that you wanted to put full layout for precision but  it seems too much of a commitment right off the bat, at least for me.

What I can do is one exchange in every two weeks or maybe once in every week. And we can test it out for two months then we can evaluate. If you find a more matching partner this can be your weekly, monthly checks.

And I am a female, my way of approaching to pd task might be quite different than a what male needs, I surely can adopt my approach but because it's also my development I wouldn't like go further more than a happy medium.

I'll write my background, approximately 7 hours later, I have to go right now, let me know.

PS : you posted this before, didn't it work with anyone?

[Progress]

Hey, I'm not exactly what you in need as in directing but we do share common interests and perhaps an opportunity? I'm actually interested in Films as well but more specifically the Philosophy in them. I have a Facebook Group for that, https://www.facebook.com/groups/950585895088116/. It needs help with managing, collaborations and general marketing(Easy stuff, like 10 minutes a day average, If even). It could be a great opportunity for you to use it to post your projects, use it to network with Film makers, enthuiasts(Fanbase!) and whoever you need too. 

Also I do need someone to keep me accountable with the Facebook group and life in general. Perhaps you might not choose me for the Accountable Partner but we can have a great partnership in other things. 

I meet all your criteria except for the Life Purpose Course which I tried to buy. 

[Sevi]

@Ray hi again.

When I re-read your post in a different environment, now I see it as a clear very well summarized layout.

I'm planning to do the LP course, by the beginning of July and I'm very excited.

I) My 5 goals are very similar to yours. The order is slightly different.

1. Ballroom dance competitions (first rhythm, then smooth)
2. Re-examining my LP thought-out the LP course; crosscheck my existing values/elements 
3. To do a comparison between the course and psychological astrology that I had practiced before 
4. PD habits- same as yours
5. Setting the sleep cycle again

II) General info: in short: I've done acting, opera singing, I'm a choreographer of different dances, currently I'm teaching ballroom dance.

I've done couple of short films. I've been in making of the concepts of the theatre plays, I have a close friend who wrote and directed most of my plays, that I was an active participant of the fiction process, we have some country-wide awards, I prepared and edited a book about the memories of one of the oldest art critics in my country. And I have some friends in France from my theater group who are actively practicing production processes mostly in theaters, I can link you guys. ( I can give you some specifics later on, if you are interested)

III) About my life purpose; to put all of my components and experiences together around one solid core structure about art, but this is a very long term project, now I'm more in the making of building the essential parts of it. (And I wanna really crosscheck it with Leo's LP Course)

IV) My current obstacle is to keep myself inspired and motivated during this period of mine; because before this period I was self employed, now I need to be working with main stream culture company and people, although it really has been provided immense growth in my being  and my approach to life, it still is quite of a challenge. 

(I didn't explain the 5 goals, I can do so, if there is any need)

Edited May 9, 2017 by Sevi

[Ray]

Hey @Sevi, first of all thanks for your comment  So, I've tried the accountability relationship before and it work quite well, recently I wanted to implement it again but I choose a person with which I didn't really resonate, therefore I've decide to restart from a solid base.

Secondly yes, maybe I ask too much right off the bat, it looks really imposing. But in reality I just wanted to have a good description of the inserted person so that we can be sure that we resonate; in other terms you don't need to respect 100% my structure, it is just an example: say what you feel is right but remember that it has to give me an idea of the kind of person you are. For the other interested person send me a private message, I feel is better for your privacy. But then again, do what you feel right  And regarding my "request" for your accountability again: here I've shared my vision in all is grandeur, but of course we will start little by little and proceed like a small bet for a life purpose; no blood pact actualized.org community. 

Finally, regarding your specific case: Right now I feel that I would like to have someone that I can send daily report because of the procrastination, so I think that your idea of the "month/week accountable" is better for now. For all the other interesting topics let's speak on Private messages. 

@Progress thanks for your reply  I want to become a movie director therefore I have to make practice with the camera, script etc... so thanks for the opportunity of the Facebook page but right now I have to focus on other things. However, as you said, maybe we can create some other kind of productive relationship. Let's talk about it on private messages. Btw, here a great anime scene regarding philosophy (but you will know it for sure):

(pretty much my vision for the accountability relationship ahah).

 

Anyway, if someone else is interest on the idea of the accountable partner contact me

  

 

[TJ Reeves]

@Ray where did you find that video? that was unbelievably well put!

Are the ideas from that show usually so well thought out?

[Progress]

@Ray No problem, contact me anytime you need advice or a partnership, I'll be sure to post your video in a little bit. I actually video jumped and learned a bit about Berserk.

[Ray]

@TJ Reeves Berserk (1997) have some other profound beautiful "reflections scene" like this one, but they are not his core. Overall one of the most amazing anime series out there. 

@Progress Regarding philosophical scenes I suggest you for some aspects Berserk but maybe the best one is Neo Genesis Evangelion, some scene are just poetic self inquiry. Still, here's another scene that may interest you (and which, let's be frank, it's a fucking masterpiece)

 

 

 

@ EVERYBODY ELSE ON THE FORUM: I'm still looking for someone that want to start this accountability relationship, if you, reader, are interest, let me know about it  (if you want you don't need to make a long message like my post, just give me the most important ideas and the big picture). 

 

 

 

 

[TJ Reeves]

@Ray Thanks for the info on Berserk. Addressing your original post, I love film, but my dream is not to be a film director. My dream is to develop a seamless form of brain-machine interface technology.

I am always available to talk, I'm very dedicated to personal development, and I have the type of personality you're looking for. Just DM me through the forum's chat function. 

For more information about my plans, check out this post I had made a few months ago. I'm past studying for the MCAT now, however and am focused on studying new topics related to my life purpose.

 

[Sevi]

@Ray I liked both of the anime scenes.. it's been ages that I haven't watched such things.. I found the first one very romantic the second one though was really to the point.

And also,

On 5/9/2017 at 8:14 PM, Ray said:

in other terms you don't need to respect 100% my structure,

I respect your structure by the way, there is a very clear effort in it, I actually thought that it was very well formed. I think you'll be a very good director?

 

On 5/9/2017 at 8:14 PM, Ray said:

say what you feel is right but remember that it has to give me an idea of the kind of person you are.

I didn't understand quite well what you wanted to mean here?

 

On 5/9/2017 at 8:14 PM, Ray said:

For the other interested person send me a private message,

This was: if you want to contact some of my friends, - maybe later on-  I can link you guys; there is no someone else interested.

And lastly,

On 5/9/2017 at 8:14 PM, Ray said:

 I feel is better for your privacy. 

Thank you for your consideration.. that's lovely.

[Ray]

@Sevi

12 hours ago, Sevi said:

I think you'll be a very good director

thanks  for all the rest they weren't referred to you but to other people on the forum that might be interested on the accountability partnership (I'm sure there is someone out there that resonate with this approach to accountably and have a LP related to art), you've done a great job. Regarding your friends let's maybe talk about it later on PM, for now let's focus on our bi-semestral updates trial. 

 

@TJ Reeves Cool, if in a few days I don't find someone that resonate even with my life purpose I will contact you

 

 

 

 

 

[The Monk]

@Ray Hey Man, I like this idea. I actually had a friend who was a Life Purpose partner, but he remained unaccountable and didn't like being held accountable for what he did, and didn't like that I focused on habits that he didn't. E.g. Mediation. So I was thinking that because of geographical boundaries I wouldn't be able be a face to face life purpose partner, but I would be happy to join you and your in real life, life purpose buddy. I would do this by communicating with you on a daily basis. This would be preferably on a kind of group chat e.g. on Actualized. I would be grateful if I could join you!

[Soulbass]

“I can tell you everything you need to know in one word : STORY” - Hans Zimmer

Hayao Miyazaki is an huge fan of dreams, may you'd like to study symbols and their meanings in collective scheme, and have lucid dreams to take inspiration from (at least a dream journal).

Animation is great when it's used in a way that it couldn't be with real characters / sets and green screens.

"Waking Life" by Richard Linklater blurs the distinction between reality and dreams (as well in "A Scanner Darkly").

Also, check the movie "Paprika" by Satoshi Kon.