Feeling emotions fully? What is this?

[Myagooshki]

What does it mean to "feel an emotion fully until it changes"? It's not something that you don't hear in various self help spaces. I am not 100% sure what it means. I suppose the opposite is repressing the emotion. I am not sure if I would be able to know whether or not I am repressing an emotion either.

I know sometimes the phrasing used is "going into the emotion". What does it mean to go into the emotion? To go on autopilot instead of changing your thinking? To continually get angry? What does suppression feel like? I am not sure that I know what these things are, and I am not exactly sure how to use language to navigate this idea and talked about phenomenon. I am not sure if I know what I am doing internally in respect to what would be considered nearby or distant from the presumable actions as to what these ideas of "feeling emotions fully" or "going into the emotion" are attempting to convey.How would I know if I am doing what the people who use these phrases are suggesting?

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Edited January 30 by Myagooshki

[Myagooshki]

I am adding this comment for optional, supplementary reading:

 

I was discussing this topic that I am posting about here in a Facebook group and this was my follow up comment, in inquiry to the process of what it would look like to "go into an emotion" and "have the emotion change":
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If I'm feeling very impatient, everybody wants me to calm down!! I am in fact very impatient right now! I have a lot of coding bullshit that I have to deal with! I do not like it and I am not repressing this emotion right now that I am talking to you and I am saying what I am saying and this will be the example! This will be the example that is being used! I am still continuing to do this! I am still feeling this emotion! It is still going on! Yeah it is still going on! It may have changed slightly but it is still going on! Right now what it is doing is there is different things of different amounts of tension going on in different places and maybe there is some relaxation going on in the lower abdomen but I am bouncing my right leg throughout the entirety of it and I am continuing to type this out! I am continuing to type this out! Everybody here will be able to read that I am typing this out and I am continuing to do so and nobody will stop me! Oh boy some people are talking about how it is supposed to change or something! And perhaps it is but I am not merely going to boil a narrative about it changing because my frustration and impatience annoys people and they don't want to hear it! They don't want to hear it! They are full of shit! They are full of complete doo doo! They are nothing but a clogged toilet! This is exactly what is going on! I feel lots of different soothing emotions in my lower stomach but I will continue to be typing like this because there is another part of me that has the emotion of "I want to continue typing like this right here right now!" That is a thing that wants to be expressed! It continues to be expressed in this!

I would say that the different things that are changing versus staying the same can be pointed out in different parts of my body! The parts of my body that are changing, dare I say at the risk of being gaslighted, relaxing, are more towards my waist/lower stomach, and the parts that continue to want to type with exclamation points and all of that are more towards the back of my head and my neck and things like that! Yes I am continuing to type with exclamation points! No I am not throwing my voice out! I am not using my voice to type this stuff! And yet there are still aspects of my "impatience" (I am not going to beat myself up! Nobody will get me to beat myself up! Not even for a single split second! Anybody who dares will suffer the consequences!) and yet let's call it the "exclamation point singing" I am exclamation point singing because that is still what I want to do and the thing is, is that that "emotion" "hasn't" "changed" "yet"! And yet everybody will get annoyed and evil and say that I must DIE because this is what I am typing! Everybody is evil! They are evil and they must suffer! Yes there is degrees of metaphor in this but I don't care! They are evil and they must suffer!

I am still feeling "exclamation point singing" and me not being that "angry dump" like dumping out the "angry like I did in those previous two paragraphs, me typing this out now makes things feel unresolved. I am wondering from an analysis standpoint whether or not that which I typed in the last two paragraphs may or may not be an example of a process in which I would be "going into an emotion", with a tool of expression being the stream of consciousness typing.

Edited January 30 by Myagooshki

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XTOXm5vX9rU

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iL0cGYGda3U

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Azg0BrD9jGU

 

Edited January 30 by Raze

[Sugarcoat]

This is a very valid question I’ve thought the same. Some thoughts I have is there are several ways we prevent ourselves from feeling difficult emotions. And that is by avoiding situations that trigger them, it could be avoiding social situations if you’re socially anxious, it could be not talking about something that brings up difficult emotions. So in those ways we avoid feeling the emotion. It could also be by projecting onto others and being angry at someone and running a story in your mind how bad they are, preventing you from feeling the underlying hurt inside you. It could be by holding back tears, any action that is distracting your mind from the emotion. Thoughts connect to our emotions so a sad emotion will have sadness expressed in the thoughts so anything that brings your mind away from the sadness can be a way to suppress and not feel into it fully. So by letting the mind go into the sad story it can trigger and release the sad emotion. So basically not distracting yourself from the emotion makes you be able to feel it fully. 

Edited January 30 by Sugarcoat

[shree]

Throughout life, when you go through difficult experiences, you learn that some emotions aren't acceptable in your family, society, religious circle, or other environments.

You bury them down, and most of the time, another emotion takes their place.

In severe cases of abuse, you might become completely emotionally numb.

That's why it's important to restart that emotional connection, and you do it by intentionally feeling your emotions.

You do this by sitting or lying down in a dark room without any distractions.

Close your eyes and ask yourself:

What do I feel right now?

Where do I feel it?

How does this emotion feel?

When you observe it, it will change.

It will likely shift into an emotion you originally repressed during a traumatic event.

It can change again and again. Just observe it.

All this effort is meant to help you become more authentic and to learn to love yourself as you are in every changing moment.