How to make her obsessed

[Something Funny]

28 minutes ago, Something Funny said:

What is your proof that I am good enough for women? You don't really know me much. You definitely don't know Aion, and other people here much. I, on the other hand feel like I have a lot of good reasons to not feel good enough. Like the fact that I've never had a girlfriend in my 25 years on earth and never had a moment where I felt like somebody is attracted to me.

 

@Emerald and I think this is what pickup promises. At least the kind of pickup Leo talks about, as I didn't watch other advise much.

You suck at making a conversation? Your voice trembles and you stutter? You get super anxious and afraid when talking to women? Approaching a lot will fix that. And that will improve your chances of finding a partner. Sure, you might still feel like you are not good enough because of your looks, or feel insecure on some deeper level, but just fixing those will already objectively improve your chances.

I feel like this is the place most men who want to "fix" themselves come from. Not literally from the place of shame and self-hate like: "If I don't get at least one girl I approach today to like me, then I am a pathetic piece of shit who doesn't deserve to live". Obviously that's an unhealthy mindset to have, but I think those are extreme edge cases.

And I am not defending pickup btw. I would actually love for you to share some better alternative. I just don't know of any myself.

I've made a thread about speed dating the other day. But it's basically the same thing. You put yourself into an uncomfortable situation where you are forced to talk to a bunch of women in a short amount of time. Very similar to cold approaching. A bit more organized and more socially acceptable.

 

Edited 14 hours ago by Something Funny

[AION]

Shame is being afraid of being naked aka just being yourself. I like Peterson's take on it.

 

[AION]

Learning to play is much more than just letting go of shame. The best book on the topic on how to learn and play is the inner game of playing tennis. Just letting go of shame won't do it suffice. It is a whole mindset and the thing is that children already know it by heart. It is mostly about deprogramming bad stuff instead of adding new stuff.

Edited 2 hours ago by AION

[Moon]

1 hour ago, AION said:

Learning to play is much more than just letting go of shame. The best book on the topic on how to learn and play is the inner game of playing tennis. Just letting go of shame won't do it suffice. It is a whole mindset and the thing is that children already know it by heart. It is mostly about deprogramming bad stuff instead of adding new stuff.

Playfulness and joy is our true nature. Everyone has different blocks in the way of returning home.

For some, shame may be the main resistance so letting go of it could make life more of a flowing dance for them ✨