Imposter Syndrome with Dating

[AION]

So I have been studying Owen's blueprint program. It really does wonders if you apply the exercises. The thing I learned is that we are all doing unnecessary stuff, if we cut the unnecessary stuff out, we will already get result by default + if we hammer on the overarching principle, we will really start getting results.

In the past I have always been dating 6's and 7's but now I'm aiming hiring and the thing is, if you just assume attraction and embody "that guy" without an imposter syndrome you are all set. The thing is that when we try something new we always have to take this leap of faith into the unknown and have this awkwardness.

Yesterday I had couple of this moments, so I approached some really nice girls, I assume rapport, break rapport and then just lead them to a new place. And just pull them with my hands to a new location or lead them to a new spot in the nightclub and I'm thinking

• `wtf this is really happening`
• `how is this happening`
• `I don´t want to fuck this up`

And I fuck up because my vibe totally changes. I try to scrabble things up with my words but if the vibe is off it is off. This happened like 3/4 times during the night and I became cranky at the end. And I kind of gave up for that night although I had some success but not with the girls I wanted. I still have this updating date on Wednesday with this 7 that I met that night so I should be happy and thankful but it is really fascinating how we calibrate to our self concept. The moment we step out of our self concept/identity our subconscious finds a way to pull us back to our original position.

I think it is all about letting go of rules that we think we should abide by like there is this rule that I can only date such and such girl and a girl above that level is out of my league but the thing is that that rule is not embedded in the universe but just embedded in your mind. But the thing is it is very hard to get those embedded beliefs out of our mind. It requires strenuous mindfulness and psychological death of those core beliefs.

Edited January 26 by AION

[nhoktinvt]

you gotta to be a bit of a bipolar, i mean having a calm relaxed side and a serious(bossy) side

[numbersinarow]

Your reaction to that is embedded in the universe, it's not embedded in the universe in the sense that it's meaning isn't and in the sense that there can be exceptions, but your instinctive reaction is embedded into reality and it might feel incredibly natural to be suspicious of certain relationships.