Emotional Releases vs leaving comfort zone to get past stuck emotions

[Howtolive]

Hello,

As I can see so far there are basically three things that helps with stuck emotions:

1) working with belives and understanding what's going on -> Results in a feeling of freedom from old belive (cognitive therapy with psychologist)
2) Radically leaving ones comfort zone and facing scary situations in life -> resulting in freedom because more trust and courage
3) Emotional releases -> resulting in an overwhelming energetic feeling which frees one from his stuck emotions


Does anybody know when which strategy is the best and for what scenario? 
I See a lot of new age "spiritual men" getting stuck in introspection searching for triggers, getting more and more into a feminine frame, instead of actually getting strong and feeling capable in life. Being on his own mission etc.

Maybe some of the other men have some experiences. So far opening up to all this emotional work feels unnatural to me.

Thanks !

Edited January 22 by Howtolive

[Someone here]

4 hours ago, Howtolive said:

Radically leaving ones comfort zone and facing scary situations in life -> resulting in freedom because more trust and courage

@Howtolive  Radical  Self-Love. See Leo's video on Self-Love .

if you're talking about lower-case (s) self ..then simply befriending your body and taking good care of it like how a mother take care of a newborn. Feeding it the right food..giving it exactly what it needs .that means if it needs to cry ..let it cry..if it needs to masturbate ..let it masturbate etc

If you're talking about uppercase (S) Self then doing the same thing to all of existence..

If you pet some trees.. You can notice the connection between everything. You can see how these trees are literally yourself. Try to say hi to the trees as you walk past them. People will call you nutcase but say hi to them too

. Try to notice everything as yourself. It's easier to try this exercise in nature. Plants. Trees. Animals. Sea ..etc. imagine If you can train this capacity to include the whole universe. Such that you cough love into everything. literally every piece of existence is yourself. 

Meditation is great(although I slack off of it ). 

I don't want to get involved and entangled in a complex Web of concepts and splitting hairs ..since it is a great a topic and I thank you for raising these questions..I will share what is authentic to me ..

I made a distinction between the ego and the Self. The ego is the sense of separation. It comes from thoughts . So to it makes feel finite .confined to a body .so you should love the body and take care of it . Not get out of your comfort zone . You should babysit the body.But if we are talking about the infinite Self then that means loving Everyone and Everything. A radical thing which very few humans on the planet can do.