Trustworthiness in relationships

[AION]

I learned that a man is as powerful as his word 

So if you say something you do it

If I say I’m going to work out tomorrow morning and it is tomorrow morning and I don’t feel like it I will do it because I gave myself my word. The same applies to other people. If I say I’m going to do it I will or die trying to, of course there are some exceptions like when I’m sick or other exceptionalities. 

The thing is that I expect this from other people and today I had a friend who canceled our appointment for a restaurant because he didn’t feel like it. It really annoys the shit out of me and it is against me character. I think derpiness and slacking is also contagious. 
 

So currently I’m kind of in a mix. I can’t of feel bad for being a pain in the ass and on the other side it feels good to have standards for myself and other people.  Because if a guy or girl’s word can’t be trusted, that will not only ruin that person’s life but also influence other people’s lives with whom that person is involved with. 

People who are most successful and happy in their lives are solid in their words. When they say they are going to do something they will do it. The key for an iron will is to have iron words. 

So now I’m thinking about being more strict and just call people out when they do this but I’m afraid to be too anal about it. It will definitely end some relationships but the few relationships that will remain will be solid. It will also weed out all the losers in my life and hopefully be replaced by more respectable people who keep their word and people who are more happier and successful. 
 

What is your policy regarding this in your personal life?

[NoSelfSelf]

Realest thread in years.

[LastThursday]

People are flaky all the time for all sorts of reasons. Just hold yourself to your own standards and use yourself as an example to others. Learning to detach from expecting other people to be like you, will make your happier. You should always have a plan B knowing that people might flake on you.

[AION]

26 minutes ago, LastThursday said:

People are flaky all the time for all sorts of reasons. Just hold yourself to your own standards and use yourself as an example to others. Learning to detach from expecting other people to be like you, will make your happier. You should always have a plan B knowing that people might flake on you.

I think that is the best. It affects my peace of mind to have such expectations.